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Mangucho
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Hello everyone !
Well the story is like this I am 16 years old (male), I started to masturbate like 6 months ago, and i'm doing it for about 4 times a week. When I am masturabting I "finish" it after about 5 mins. Ok so far its ok ( I think) ? Well 1 month ago I started to date a girl, and she is very nice and beutiful
she is same age as
I am, but she allready had sex with her
ex-boyfriend. And once when we were
talking about all the bed action, she said
that her ex-boyfriend could hold on for
like 30 min !! In that moment I really
felt low, and had and still have like a
"disorder" feeling. I have been doing
much research across the internet about pe
and how to hold it longer. As far as I
know masturbation is one thing and sex is
another thing. Then again I asked my
self a question if doing a "solo" I could
hold for 5 min, then how long I can hold
it in bed ? 2 mins ? 30 secs ?
And this is the thing, which worries me very much. Do you guys have any tips, hints or own experience during the first time, how to not release it too soon ? I have read about all these " stop n' start" methods, but as I said, I dont know how im gonna react in bed. I have talked to some guys, they said that a bit of alcohol helps you to hold it. And another thing, what should I do when we are getting to it ? How should I start, and how I know when she is excited enough, so I can enter her ? I have been watching a bit of pornographic movies, to educate my self, but pornopgraphic movies I think is another thing, than love making in bed.
I know I maybe sound like a pathetic fool, or anything, just please dont critisize me ( sorry for spelling). I would be glad, if you would help me.
Thanks !
Well the story is like this I am 16 years old (male), I started to masturbate like 6 months ago, and i'm doing it for about 4 times a week. When I am masturabting I "finish" it after about 5 mins. Ok so far its ok ( I think) ? Well 1 month ago I started to date a girl, and she is very nice and beutiful
she is same age as
I am, but she allready had sex with her
ex-boyfriend. And once when we were
talking about all the bed action, she said
that her ex-boyfriend could hold on for
like 30 min !! In that moment I really
felt low, and had and still have like a
"disorder" feeling. I have been doing
much research across the internet about pe
and how to hold it longer. As far as I
know masturbation is one thing and sex is
another thing. Then again I asked my
self a question if doing a "solo" I could
hold for 5 min, then how long I can hold
it in bed ? 2 mins ? 30 secs ?
And this is the thing, which worries me very much. Do you guys have any tips, hints or own experience during the first time, how to not release it too soon ? I have read about all these " stop n' start" methods, but as I said, I dont know how im gonna react in bed. I have talked to some guys, they said that a bit of alcohol helps you to hold it. And another thing, what should I do when we are getting to it ? How should I start, and how I know when she is excited enough, so I can enter her ? I have been watching a bit of pornographic movies, to educate my self, but pornopgraphic movies I think is another thing, than love making in bed.
I know I maybe sound like a pathetic fool, or anything, just please dont critisize me ( sorry for spelling). I would be glad, if you would help me.
Thanks !
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Replies(3)
fiona05
Supporter
Aww, hi! You don't sound like a pathetic
fool, I think it's sweet!
Firstly stop stressing out! You're going to have enough on your plate losing your virginity without worrying about all this! I'm sure most people would agree that whatever you imagine your first time to be like in your head, when it comes down to it, everything goes out the window! Don't put any pressure on yourself. If I have any advice at all, it's concentrate on relaxing and enjoying the mood.
All this research you're doing on pe is in itself premature! You probably have no problem at all! All this stuff you're reading is for people who've been secally active for a while and find they have issues. I'm sure you'll be fine! When you're actually having sex this isnt what you'll be thinking about!
It's a common thing for people to say, that on a guy's first time he'll not last long. But i've had sex with two virgins and for them it was the opposite. They went going ages. I suppose cos they weren't used to the feeling. So it just varies from guy to guy. Everyone's different.
I guess when she's ready you'll know, if you don't then just be upfront and ask her. If you find it's a bit hard to get it in, try spitting on your fingers and putting it either on you or on her to ease it in.
1) relax stop worrying!
2) whatever you do, .D.O.N.T drink alcohol before! Just trust me on this, you could introduce a load of other complications. I'm a heavy drinker myself, this isnt some anti-drink babble, it's just really not a good idea before getting laid!
3) don't go by what you've seen in pornos, as you say, it's very different.
4) wear a condom
good luck and let us know how it went...!
Firstly stop stressing out! You're going to have enough on your plate losing your virginity without worrying about all this! I'm sure most people would agree that whatever you imagine your first time to be like in your head, when it comes down to it, everything goes out the window! Don't put any pressure on yourself. If I have any advice at all, it's concentrate on relaxing and enjoying the mood.
All this research you're doing on pe is in itself premature! You probably have no problem at all! All this stuff you're reading is for people who've been secally active for a while and find they have issues. I'm sure you'll be fine! When you're actually having sex this isnt what you'll be thinking about!
It's a common thing for people to say, that on a guy's first time he'll not last long. But i've had sex with two virgins and for them it was the opposite. They went going ages. I suppose cos they weren't used to the feeling. So it just varies from guy to guy. Everyone's different.
I guess when she's ready you'll know, if you don't then just be upfront and ask her. If you find it's a bit hard to get it in, try spitting on your fingers and putting it either on you or on her to ease it in.
1) relax stop worrying!
2) whatever you do, .D.O.N.T drink alcohol before! Just trust me on this, you could introduce a load of other complications. I'm a heavy drinker myself, this isnt some anti-drink babble, it's just really not a good idea before getting laid!
3) don't go by what you've seen in pornos, as you say, it's very different.
4) wear a condom
good luck and let us know how it went...!
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Mangucho
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Thanks for the advice, you helped me alot
well so I must say it was ehm... Superb ! I masturbated like 50mins before the sex, and damn during the whole sex I felt like I have a full command of my body (never got this when jerking off). In my head I just said: "don't go, don't go, don't go", when she reached the climax I said to my self okay, now you can go off, and like after 10secs I finished. It was so weird, like all my body was together with my mind. For the first round I lasted for like 20mins, and after a about 8min pause, I went for a 2nd round and it was like 1hour and a half, she said, that it was the best time, which she had. I could breath easily, after that, my confidence is now higher than ever ! Really this is the greatest feelings of them all ! All to the new virgins ot there, who are afraid about the time, dont be ! Just every 30 secs say in your mind don't go, and if you feel really that you cant hold on anymore, just close your eyes, start thinking about numbers like I did, and brreathe slowly and deep.
Oh man I feel like i'd just borned for 2nd time.
Regards,
mangucho.
well so I must say it was ehm... Superb ! I masturbated like 50mins before the sex, and damn during the whole sex I felt like I have a full command of my body (never got this when jerking off). In my head I just said: "don't go, don't go, don't go", when she reached the climax I said to my self okay, now you can go off, and like after 10secs I finished. It was so weird, like all my body was together with my mind. For the first round I lasted for like 20mins, and after a about 8min pause, I went for a 2nd round and it was like 1hour and a half, she said, that it was the best time, which she had. I could breath easily, after that, my confidence is now higher than ever ! Really this is the greatest feelings of them all ! All to the new virgins ot there, who are afraid about the time, dont be ! Just every 30 secs say in your mind don't go, and if you feel really that you cant hold on anymore, just close your eyes, start thinking about numbers like I did, and brreathe slowly and deep.
Oh man I feel like i'd just borned for 2nd time.
Regards,
mangucho.
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fiona05
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