Hi,
i'm 24 years old, and I would say for the
past 2-2.5 years, i've been having trouble
with my erections. Since I could imagine,
i've been masturbating. But say, since
the age of 18, I masturbate on average
once a day. I lost my virginity at 20,
where I really couldn't remember if my
erections were healthy or not; all I
remember is that wasn't concerning me back
then. My concern began in spring 2005,
when I got into sexual relations with a
woman, yet I was either having a loose
erection, or none at all. My concern
lingered on until the end of the year,
when I got into a relationship with sex
involved. I would only maintain my
erection either by constant oral or manual
stimulation, as any attempt of intercourse
would result in a loose erection, or a
loss of it (only a couple of times do I
remember ejaculating prematurely due to
intercourse, because I actually was able
to maintain it). A few times I recall not
being able to get an erection at all.
Since then, my sex life had been put on
hold for a while, where I had to rely on
masturbation. I was (and still am) only
able to maintain proper erections by
constant stroking, and a lot of
concentration. Well, I once again got
involved sexually not too long ago, and my
problem still persists: I cannot maintain
an erection very long during intercourse,
and it took me some time to ejaculate,
even with oral & hand stimulation. A
few nights later, I couldn't even get it
up during sex, so I completely lost
hope.
What is going on?? I feel that my sex
drive has decreased over the past 2 years,
yet my obsession with masturbation still
has forced me to perform it on a daily
basis. At some point, I recall having
mild pains when masturbating, but I didn't
think much of it. Have I damaged myself
by constantly masturbating? I tried
taking horny goat weed (about 900mg daily)
for about 4-5 days, but to no avail. And
I know that my erectile problems in bed
have nothing to do with anxiety, because
i'm very focused & confident of
myself. Another thing i've noticed is a
loss of "morningwood".. I can't remember
the last time I experienced it, and I
heard that the frequency of "morningwood"
is good indication of a male's sexual
health.
I'm afraid to go to a doctor, only to hear
him give me the "you just need to relax
and stop being nervous" routine. Please
shed some light, because i'm extremely
discouraged, and am starting to panic more
& more.