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Q: the Abortion Pill

asked by: nadia19 on January 10th, 2007

Experienced User

This is one of the options my ob gave me. Sounds nasty, doesn't it? It's a combination of 2 pills that you take withing a couple of days of eachother and they cause contractions and expel all the tissue and embryo. Has anyone ever taken them?

I never heard about it until my doc told me. My first response was no, i'll stick with natural or d&c. I went to another doctor and he said he really didn't recommend d&c. He told me it was better to miscarry naturally or if I wanted I could take the two pills.

I'm just scared. I have no signs of bleeding or spotting and i'm getting extremely impatient and sad. I just want it to be over with. Some pro's with the pill is that you can *time* when you want to miscarry. If I take the first pill today and take the second tomorrow or the next day(you need to wait that long after the first pill), within 6-8 hours of taking the second pill, the embryo will pass and the most painful cramps will be done and over with.

It just sucks with waiting for the natural miscarriage because I don't know when it's going to happen. With the pill..I can take it over a weekend and I can just lay in bed all day and rest and cry because I know exactly when it's going to happen. I'll be prepared. Know what I mean? And I won't have to miss school..As it is my first week and it's important i'm there.

Am I being selfish? Should I just be patient or should I take the pill?
What are your opinions/past experiences if any?

Replies(19)

Bridget

replied on January 10th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

I don't think you're being selfish at all. You need to deal with this however you feel will be the easiest.

I went with the d&c. I found out the baby had already been dead for 5 weeks and hadn't expelled itself, how much longer would I have to wait for it to happen naturally? I just couldn't sit around waiting for it to happen. I had the d&c and had very little bleeding immediately after and no bleeding after a few hours and I never had any cramping. I got my period exactly 28 days later. Of course I was still filled with emotional pain but at least I didn't have to deal with the physical pain.

Did your doctor say why he didn't recommend a d&c?

My thoughts are with you, I know how painful this is for you. I wish the best with whatever you choose and with time things will get easier. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Kia

replied on January 10th, 2007

Moderator

I read the title and almost locked this.

However, I am waiting for mine to start naturally.

nadia19

replied on January 10th, 2007

Experienced User

He just told me how it wasn't the best idea because the baby was not even 7 weeks old. He said he would have recommened it if the baby was atleast 8 weeks and because my baby was only 6w5d it was only"natural" for my body to expel the embryo on it's own. But the baby's been dead for almost a month (dec 20/06-ish Sad

) so I don't know how much longer I can wait.

He also told me some risks with d&c's. Like they could rupture something and blah blah blah. He also told me that someone women bleed between for up to 6-8 weeks after a d&c. Shocked

and then with the pill..Most women bleed between 10 and 14 days.

But the pills are 95% effective, so there's that smal 5% chance i'll need a d&c after the pills anyway.

Ugh I dunno. I don't want to think anymore.

Kia

replied on January 10th, 2007

Moderator

My view is doctors canbe and have been wrong.
If everything isn't expelled naturally within about 4 weeks - it is worth having another scan done to make sure the first diagnosis was correct.

nadia19

replied on January 10th, 2007

Experienced User

I've had 3 ultrasounds within 2 weeks and all measured the baby at 6weeks 5 days, no heartbeat, and 7mm. My hcg levels have dropped from 21,000 on dec 29 to 10, 000 on jan 8. Believe me, I made sure that the doctors were sure.

lil_blaze2004

replied on January 10th, 2007

Moderator

kia_breizzze wrote:

however, I am waiting for mine to start naturally.

did I miss something??

I had a totally natural miscarriage the first time and a d&c the second time. I was 3 months along the 2nd time and was bleeding huge clots and they just wanted to make sure everything was out.

I really don;t know what to tell you. I would've said get a d&c but as your doc advised against this i'm not sure.

Kia

replied on January 10th, 2007

Moderator

lil_blaze2004 wrote:

kia_breizzze wrote:

however, I am waiting for mine to start naturally.

did I miss something??

guess you did.
I thought I was pregnant and kinda was/is...
But it's a blighted ovum, so I just get to wait for everything to expel naturally now.

Sandbox Party

replied on January 10th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

kia_breizzze wrote:

lil_blaze2004 wrote:

kia_breizzze wrote:

however, I am waiting for mine to start naturally.

did I miss something??

guess you did.

I thought I was pregnant and kinda was/is...

But it's a blighted ovum, so I just get to wait for everything to expel naturally now.

:'( oh hun im so sorry... 100% sure????

Kia

replied on January 10th, 2007

Moderator

rainfire1424 wrote:

:'( oh hun im so sorry... 100% sure????

given my weight not 100% but 99%.
They've always struggled to do u/s with me because of my weight and with my uterus it also makes transvaginal scans not as clear as they could be.

So when I went to the gyn doc at the hospital she had me go for a t/v scan and there appeared to be an empty sac in utero. It's the second time this has happened to me now.

However, it is sometimes possible to see the sac before the baby in very early pregnancy.
I have almost nil hcg levels they were at 31 last week. Explains why I had a couple of very faint hpt.
*sigh*
so, i'm awaiting the natural expulsion under strict orders that if I have any signs of infection (fever, pain, nausea, vomitting, etc) to go directly to er and tell them I have a probable blighted ovum.
If it doesn't happen naturally within 4 weeks then she'll send me for a re-scan.
Last time things started about 7 weeks (iirc - I kinda put it out of my mind because when it's a blighted ovum there isn't really a baby to lose becaue it never formed to begin with.)

AyaMiyaki

replied on January 10th, 2007

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*sigh* we love you .Kia Sad

you know you can always talk to us, love.

To the original poster: from what I know about abortions (which isn't much, mind) if you take the medical route, there's a chance not all of the "bits" will come out, which could lead to infection and a possible d&c anyway. If I had to choose one, I would go with the d&c and request to be put to sleep.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can't begin to imagine.

How dumb, .I'm crying now. Neutral

arcadia

replied on January 22nd, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

This is an old post &she wasn't going to take the pill to abort her child, it was an option given to her after having a nasty miscarriage that she had lots of problems with ¬ all the tissue in her uterus expelled itself.

oh_mommy

replied on January 22nd, 2007

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Whats a d&c?

Bridget

replied on January 22nd, 2007

Especially eHealthy

arcadia wrote:

this is an old post &she wasn't going to take the pill to abort her child, it was an option given to her after having a nasty miscarriage that she had lots of problems with ¬ all the tissue in her uterus expelled itself.

weird... It's going to look like you're responding to something that's not here but I saw it too! She must have realized nadia wasn't talking about abortion.

arcadia

replied on January 22nd, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

iheartmybostonterrier wrote:

arcadia wrote:

weird... It's going to look like you're responding to something that's not here but I saw it too! She must have realized nadia wasn't talking about abortion.

.Hahah! Great, now .I'm going to look like a crazy person! Laughing

nadia19

replied on January 22nd, 2007

Experienced User

The doctors ended up giving it to me anyways when I was in the hospital. The contractions were *sooooooo* painful. I would never, ever suggest it to anyone whose about miscarry. Thank god for .Demerol-gravol shots. I wish I opted for the d&c a lot earlier. I feel so much better now. My spotting stopped officially (i hope) and I hope my cycle gets back to normal soon.

AyaMiyaki

replied on January 22nd, 2007

Especially eHealthy

How are you managing emotionally, hon? Is everything okay?

nadia19

replied on January 22nd, 2007

Experienced User

I guess i'm okay. I think about it a lot. I miss being pregnant. But i'll have another chance when i'm ready right? I mean..I want a baby sooo bad right now but I know I can't have one. I'll be going on the pill as soon as I get my period.(the pill thing didn't work for me but i'm willing to try again, i'm more determined now) but anyway, it sucks Sad

but I realize this just isn't my time to be a mommy.

Plus- I think me and my boyfriend are on the verge of break up right now. We got into the biggest fight and he ended up punching a hole in the door Rolling Eyes

why do guys do that? They think it's so macho. Now he has to replace the damn thing.

For christmas I had gotten my bf dog tags with engravings on them. On the one, it said my bf's name and on the other it said, "merry christmas---we love you, from nadia and baby" my boyfriend stopped wearing them after I lost the baby cuz it hurt him too much, so tonight I took them and i'm wearing them. A little keepsake. Makes me feel better.

Thank you for asking Smile

AyaMiyaki

replied on January 22nd, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Well you know we're here for you if you ever need to vent or if you just need a shoulder to cry on. I've never lost a child so I won't pretend to know what you're going through, but .I'm here if you need someone to listen.

Kia

replied on January 23rd, 2007

Moderator

oh_mommy wrote:

whats a d&c?

dilation and cutterage.

They dilate the cervix to insert some small instruments and then they cut/scrape out the lining of the uterus.

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