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Q: Just Curious
asked by: amino65 on January 8th, 2007
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Hi everyoneeeee. I was just curious about something my mom brought up with me.

I just started my spring semester of college, and am no longer employed due to the heavy course load. Then me and my mom somehow got onto the subject that I need to lose weight (probably because I spent alot of my wages on junk food). She then offered me a certain amount of money if I lost it. Now the question.

Would you see this as an incentive or a bribe? Confused

Note: I would lose the weight with or without the money for her and for myself, but I was wondering if anyone else would feel weird about being offered money to lose weight.
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AyaMiyaki replied on January 8th, 2007
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Hmm. This is tricky.

First off, am I correct in assuming you're not pregnant? I'm pretty sure you aren't, but in case you are (or if anyone else reading this is pregnant and wanting to lose a bit of weight) dieting during pregnancy is not safe!

okay, on with my post! Mr.
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i think it might be an incentive, yes. But she probably has your health in mind, and is trying to convince you to take healthy measures in any way she can think of. I'm not sure that I would the money route with my own daughter, but I would probably offer to take her shopping for a new wardrobe when she dropped a size or two. I would want to do something to build her self-esteem and reward her progress.

I don't see anything mean-spirited in offering money, though. You said yourself that you want to lose the weight regardless of the money she's offered. I personally wouldn't be offended by it or feel weird. It's obvious she loves you and is hoping you'll make changes to your diet and lifestyle.

Good luck with it! I think .Bridget (iheartmybostonterrier) started .Weight .Watchers recently and she's making good progress. You might want to pm her, or maybe she'll reply on this post. But keep us updated, hon! Smile
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amino65 replied on January 8th, 2007
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Lol thnx laura, and you're right; i'm not pregnant ^_^. I just felt weird I guess because it had to come down to her offering me money? I wasn't offended at all (i know i've got a case of the chubs Wink ) but I don't really like taking money from her now that i'm older, if you know what I mean? My mom actually wanted me to try some kind of weight loss program similar to bridget's, i'll wait and see her opinion on it.

I know my mom is worried now Embarassed (i've gained about 20-30 pounds in less than a year), so she really wants me to lose what I gained. I'll keep posting once in awhile, hopefully i'm succesful. Smile
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Magical Logic replied on January 8th, 2007
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I think it just depends on who ask you to lose weight. Like if my husband did I would slap his damn face.
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amino65 replied on January 8th, 2007
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Lol I skipped over the part where you said you would buy your daughter a new wardrobe, I should have also said that the money my mom was offering was exactly for that; for a new wardrobe.

And chase, that was funny, it made me laugh. I'm one of the few girls that doesn't really get offended about my weight. I mean, if it's an honest statement at least. If it's insulting, then yeah, i'll get offended. Lmao just the other day my brother was all "hey tubby, you want another pop tart tubby?" you better believe I slapped him 'cross his dome. Laughing
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AyaMiyaki replied on January 8th, 2007
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Meh, I get mega-offended quite easily about my weight. And i'm pretty thin. It's not really the weight, but how the weight sits on my frame, that .I'm not entirely happy with. I still have a bit of a belly, and it drives me nuts. I guess it's trivial, but .I'm pretty self-concious about it.

A lot of people tell me I look good "for having a baby" and I say "thanks, that's so sweet! ...What do you mean by that?" Rolling Eyes *sigh* I need to learn to be happy with myself.
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Bridget replied on January 8th, 2007
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I wish someone was offering me money to lose weight!

If you want to do it I highly recommend weight watchers. It is wicked easy and you really can eat whatever you want. I love candy and I eat it every day! For weight watchers everything has a point value based on calories, fat and fiber (for example an apple is 2 points) and you get a certain amount of points per day based on your weight. You're pretty much guaranteed to lose weight as long as you stay within your daily points range, if you exercise you get bonus points.

I've lost 80 pounds on it in the past so I know it works. Wednesday is my 2 week mark and i've lost 5 pounds so far.

I do it by myself at home because I don't want to spend money on meetings. I think they have free registration right now so you could always go sign up and get the tools (they have a guide book and a slider that will figure out points for you) and do it yourself.

It really is awesome!

(geez, you'd think I worked for them or something.)
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amino65 replied on January 8th, 2007
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Aww laura, I used to be that way, now I just learned to live with it.
I have always thought you were one of the prettiest women here, and to be honest, I don't see any belly at all, u look awesome! Smile

i think it's funny when people ask me my weight, and their reaction when I tell them. They always think I weigh less, but I guess my 'extraness' is just distributed more through out my body rather than concentrated in one place. Confused What does wreak havoc on my self esteem are the massive stretchmarks I have gotten as a result of my rapid weight gain. I get them everyyyywhereeee. Oh well.

And just a random question, you wouldn't happen to know the words of the merry mack rhyme would you?
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AyaMiyaki replied on January 8th, 2007
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Embarassed thanks very much! But it's there, I promise! Laughing
.I've made peace with my stretchmarks. I just consider them the price I paid to bring .Alyvia into the world, so they're well worth it.

I think the .Mary .Mack rhyme goes something like:

miss mary mack, mack, mack
all dressed in black, black, black
with silver buttons, buttons, buttons
all down her back, back, back

she asked her mother, mother, mother
for fifty cents, cents, cents
to see the elephant, elephant, elephant
jump over the fence, fence, fence

i think there's more, but my memory is crap Laughing
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amino65 replied on January 8th, 2007
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Dangggg bridget! 80 pounds eh? I need about half that. Lol, if you don't mind my asking, how long did it take?

And awesome thnx laura, it's been bugging me for weeks now, I didn't know the words. I was watching the simpson's the other day, and some kids at a preppy preschool were playing a game like merry mack but the words were:

cross my heart and hope to die
here's the numbers that make pi:
3.14159, blah blah blah.

So now i'm determined to memorize pi to as many digits as I can, lmao.
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Kia replied on January 8th, 2007
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AyaMiyaki replied on January 8th, 2007
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Holy shizzle, that's a commitment Shocked
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amino65 replied on January 8th, 2007
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Lol, maybe I would be better served studying physics or chemistry instead of memorizing 1 million digits of pi eh? Lol. It would be a fun game to play though! The fibonacci sequence would be even worse!

On the subject of weight loss again, ive heard people swear that giving up soda has helped them lose lots of weight, and was wondering if it was ever true for any ladies on here?

And a question for kia ^_^: my boyfriend insists that diet soda is as bad as regular soda, in regards to sugar content, but I thought left-handed sugars weren't digested well at all (sugar found in diet soda's) whereas regular soda's have right handed sugars? So wouldn't diet be better than regular? Lol, i'm not drinking either from now on, but it did get me thinking Wink
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Bridget replied on January 8th, 2007
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dangggg bridget! 80 pounds eh? I need about half that. Lol, if you don't mind my asking, how long did it take?


i lost the first 50 in about 8 months, then the other 30 I lost doing it off and on for about a year. If i'd committed non-stop I could've done it in a year but after a while I need a break. I never gained any of it back until I got pregnant though, even when I went back to living off candy and fast food. Then I gained 10 when I got pregnant, 10 after I miscarried (emotional overeating), and 60 while pregnant with finn, so I was right back where I started. Luckily I was down about 25 pounds within 3 weeks of giving birth, but that was just baby and placenta and fluids.
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Kia replied on January 8th, 2007
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Lol i've never heard sugars called left or right handed. Laughing *giggles*

but I always understood that "diet" soda was just as bad for you, because it usually contains a lot more artificial sweetners.

Also no added sugar does not mean no sugar. Items with "no added sugar" usually have a lot of sugar to begin with.


One weight loss idea (i've yet to try) is to drink at least 8 glasses (250ml) of ice cold water (cut out other drinks or replace them with more ice cold water).
Your body uses calories to warm the water, and water is calorie free.

Or

eat 4 meals per day. Each meal is (to be consumed in order):

500mls ice cold water
2 whole raw fruits or veg (ie an apple and a carrot; 2 oranges )
and a 300 cal meal of anything you like.
If you need more than that (ie you are very tall/large build/etc) you can increase it to 5 meals.

You can also mix in a scoop of whey powder with the water Confused
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amino65 replied on January 8th, 2007
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Oo icic. I'm sure you'll get back to where you were ^_^. Maybe i'll ask my mudder about weight watchers, I don't think i'd mind doing that! My problem was I ate waaaay too much fast food. I would be at classes most of the day, so on my breaks in between classes I would just go to lunch with friends, everyday. I was bad. Laughing hopefully someday I can post a before and after picture, woot woot!. Oh and i'm thinking we all could do with some more aly and finn pics (lol aly and finn should be paired up like chu and oni are, it's just adorable!)
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lil_blaze2004 replied on January 8th, 2007
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Stress has been my weight loss program-lol bad way but so far i've lost ablout 30-35lbs since july/august. I start a spinning (stationary bike with excercises) class on friday too. They offer them at work for cheap.


Back to the original question. I think instead of takng the money, ask your mom to take you shopping once you hit your goal weight. That way you have something to look forward to and time with your mom. Smile

*edited because my keyboard was acting screwy lol
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Bridget replied on January 8th, 2007
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shasta205 wrote:
oh and i'm thinking we all could do with some more aly and finn pics (lol aly and finn should be paired up like chu and oni are, it's just adorable!)


funny you say that, I just posted some!
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AyaMiyaki replied on January 8th, 2007
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I've been so lazy pic-wise Sad I need to take more! Maybe I can talk .Aaron into taking a few when I feed her in a bit. (cereal, not boobs Laughing)
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amino65 replied on January 8th, 2007
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"stress has been my weight loss program"


blaze your lucky!! It's the exact opposite with me! I gained all the weight from school and work (it didn't help that the work that was stressing me out was a pizza place that gave me free food Embarassed )

but yeah, the money from my mom would be for a new wardrobe.

I'll definately try to lose weight, I don't want to worry my mudder.


Lol and kia, I had never heard sugars referred to that way either until I took physiology, and the teacher used the term to describe their chemical formula's (in concern with how they are arranged). The artificial sweetners are phenylalanine isn't it? I read on the labels that it says it has been shown to cause cancer in lab animals? Lol, guess soda diet or not is bad Crying
or Very sad
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