Hiya there hows you

look move on your got gunna meet another man while moaning about what happend with your ex its his lost I promise you get back out there and enjoy your self and you will forget about him start dating again


lifes too short not to enjoy your self

is your shy online dating may be the way for you

its new but getting better

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Two years????????? Life is too short and precious to waste away every day. I say its his loss. You need to put your big girl panties on and deal with it..... You have way too much to offer and I know there are plenty of lonesome males out there, who would love to meet someone like you. Probably someone who has been hurt in a situation such as yourself. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, and get out here and meet new people. Have fun at life.............Until you've been close to death, you won't appreciate the life you have......Here for you anytime!

that was moderately harsh, however, I see your point. And i've been telling myself that for a long time. I just don't know how to stop thinking about him. I see him everyday almost and ofcourse I see my best friend a lot too, so its hard not to think about it. Do you have any tips as to how to actually stop thinking about him?

Hi,..I am so sorry to see you going through this for so long. Everyone deals with a loss differently. I have felt relationship loss as compared to a death. Some people are affected for years. Is it normal? When human emotions are at stake, nobody can totally feel exactly what another is feeling,..or put a label on what is considered "normal". But from experience,..I think you are making it harder on yourself by seeing him. Maybe it can't be avoided, but it is emotional torture. I still feel bad enough when I don't see my ex-girlfriend in person. Even though it was a relationship filled with turmoil,.and relief should have been welcome when it was over, I still feel a great loss. It's been 3 months for me now. Does she feel the same way about me? Probably not. She may have moved on. It is painful, but like different tolerances people have for physical pain,..the same truth holds for emotional pain, which is in most cases worse. Some people are dull to it a superficial nature,..where others are devastated by it, due to very deep thinking and feeling nature. It may be possible you can avoid seeing him or them together, but you are drawn back like a magnet, and possibly forcing this upon yourself. You are a deep feeling individual that has a different instilled value system. The person you want to be with, is different than you. Doesn't make either one of you a better or worse person than the other. Many times unfortunately,..when in love, many essentials aren't recognized or even ignored during the course of a relationship. There are no guarantees in a relationship no matter how promising things are. The bottom line is,..and it hurts very much, is if he wanted to be with you he would show the signs. Think of who you were and how you felt before he came into your life. You never expected him to be in your life,..then one day it happened. It will happen again, it just takes time. Now you need to be around good friends that wll listen and support you. Who knows,..in the future you may be back with him. Anything is possible. Hope this helped a bit,...Best of luck to you.

i know it hurts. been there myself. the only way to stop thinking about him is to stop feeling sorry for yourself and move on. two years is a long time to what for something.
by moving on and filling yourself with new thoughts and experiences you will begin to replace your thoughts of him.
best wishes
remember we are here for you

Therapy, therapy, therapy...and that doesn't have to be in an office with a counselor either...you can talk to family, friends, find new interests, anything to relieve the pressure you've built up about this relationship and move past it! We grow from these experiences, believe it or not, maybe you're just fighting that urge to grow, who knows.
Best of luck...

I've gone thru what you're going thru now, I's hard to accept that the person we love cheated on us, like you it has been two year for me plus four months and 5 days. For me to forget the incident I put my mind some place elsewhere, every time I think of him I tell myself he is a cheat, liar and I put it for later time and occupy myself with other chores, don't put yourself in this situation where else for him, god know if he is enjoying himself with whoever, take care good luck... Hart74

Look all you need to do is look for another guy. Go online and begin chatting with them. Trust me once you begin dating again you will forget the other one in a heartbeat.