One thing that usually clues in a guy to his wife's love wants is what she reads or watches. If my man wants to spice things up he should read one of the books on my bedside table! They aren't kinky or like those old woman "romance" novels (ok the one from my sister is), but they have things in them I would LOVE for my man to do. I am weird I guess but I like a friend for a partner, a soft shoulder when I'm sad, and a lover that is all male and all animal at once! That is what I want most from my husband and some of my books will tell him how to do it!

I think it's important in a marriage to never think that you've done sex. Our bodies are sexually complex in how the respond to another person and how the react to environment or stimulation. We change as we age and our potential for sex changes with our bodies. Never let yourself think that sex is insert penis in vagina, repeat. Never think reading books about sex or experimenting with your spouse is beneath you. Never let yourself think you can't talk about what you want in the bedroom with your spouse.

Sex is a lot like food. You can fill yourself up but you'll be hungry again soon. Variety builds your appetite. Trying new things is the only way to find new favorites, you cannot really know if you don't like something until you try it. The same food tastes completely different with a different seasoning. Close friends aren't afraid to share recipes. This metaphor is rolling out of control but you see where I'm going with it.