Darling you can never change somebody. I learnt that the hard way. He'll only change if he wants too.

I've known a few drug addicts in the past (my ex stepdad was one) and it is a horrible thing for a child to have to see. There's nothing wrong with you trying to help him out but don't let yourself fall for him while he's like that cause he'll end up pulling you into his world and that's not good for you or brayden.

The first part so reminded me of me.

A few years ago I pushed steve away because I "met someone".
It broke my heart being away from steve even for that short time but looking back it was like I had to test "us" somehow.

Had to see what the relationship was made of.

You'll do whats right for you dalicia, I know that much.
And if in years to come you think it was the wrong decision - you make damn sure you get the best out of it that you can.

I think maybe you've been feeling too "safe" in your relationship with chris, too stable. You need wildness and excitement.

Think it through and don't be hasty.

I'll punch you! You know I love you, but seriously don't be stupid. Even if this guy is "trying" to get clean, the chances of it aren't very high if he's been doing it since 13. There is nothing you can do to change him, and as much as you'd like to believe it, he isn't going to change for you. I honestly don't think you or brayden need to be around someone like that. I understand that you and chris are having your problems, but everyone does. Jon and I have had our fair share of problems..I'm sure you know that. I think you should just talk to chris and give it time. Are your problems really that bad that you guys can't work them out?

Yeah girl keep your distance.. Let him get clean on his own, without your intervention... Let him stay clean for a *while* and then maybe look into it.

Its not worth the drama right now, babe.

D, as hard as it may to be to just walk away, do it. You can't take risks like this, ya know? You're a mommy! You have .Brayden to worry about. It's really not a good idea to get mixed up with drugs- especially hard ones, &especially when you're quitting smoking. Just think of what could happen. I don't wanna see you get involved in this kind of stuff. You have wayyy too much going for you! You're strong &beautiful &a great mother. Don't let anything get in the way that could possibly jeopordize what you've got going. <3

***[editted in the name of world peace]***

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To everyone else -

thanks for the comments, I really appreciate them. Michael has nothing to do with why chris and I split up. I have actually known michael for a really long time, but we never talked or anything. I seen him at my sisters house and then I found him on myspace and added him and sh*t just happend.

It's really confusing but I care about him, and I really do think he can cut the dope for good because I have personally seen it happen to a few people I love. It's all about believing you can quit or not. I'm not gonna lie guys, I have done dope before I have actually done a lot of drugs in my time but i've never let myself get addicted to any of it. I know my limits, and I know how far to go. None of you may understand that, but I do.

Michael has met .Brayden twice and both times he wasn't on anything, i'd never bring someone into our lives that would give brayden a bad influence, you guys should know that. Especially you sam.

I'm gonna talk to him about it tomorrow hopefully, he don't like talking about it because he knows I get aggrivated with it and stuff. He is a really good person though guys, for real....And I don't hate, nor do I think he's a bad person for being on drugs because well...I know his life story,you guys don't. And it's really crappy if anyone judges him just because of that.

What is he on? Heroin? Duh, methadone, heroin, dope. Sorry. I've known some addicts in my day. And I know people who say methadone is worse than actual heroin.

When I hear dope I think heroin. Your original post was erased so I was guessing sorry. I wasn't saying anything negative about him or your sister. All I said was I know addicts. Plenty. They say that the methadone is more addictive than heroin. I've taken methadone, but never heroin, so I can't compare.

I did speed for about two years in my early teens. It's a nasty drug, i've seen it ruin lives. I'm glad you guys are working things out.

I guess I understand why you're so defensive, but you don't have to be.

At the end of the day, d, you know what is best for you and you will do what you want regardless of what everyone else thinks. Believe me, I am the same.

try to follow your head, not your heart. I have followed my heart in the past and it screwed me over (with neil) so now I am letting me head rule but it's damn hard

D, I didn't get a chance to read your post. But you know the deal more than any of us on here.

I don't know the dude, but I know you're not dumb enough to make a decision that would be bad for .Bray!!

Hey, what the hell happened? I can't find you on my myspace anymore!

Actually, a couple people disappeared!

Sarah