I have had 3 abortions, and my body is still ehalthy enough to carry a preganncy to term.

As long as you did not have severe infections(which is rare nowadays thanks to safe and legal abortion) or complications, you should easily be able to get pregnant as soon as you are ready. (as long as you do not persoanlly have any health problems)

Thanks for responding so fast. I just need to convince my bf about my decision.

I think it easy for men to think about having babies, after all, they are not the ones who have to deal with their bodies permanently changing. They also are not ultimately the ones that take care of the baby, as a mom you are primarily responsible for all care and feedings.

I believe that men take to babies so easily because they have the 'easy' job of not doing as much as the woman does..

Thanks clairfairy. Do you have any children now? And did you get pregnant 3 times from the same man? I guess i'm trying to find a person who's been in exactly my situation. I feel like i'm not taking responsiblity for my actions and feel like I should be punished for my actions.
I once adviced a friend to have a baby at 21, I was 21 then too. I never thought I would be put in the same situation. It happened once, then twice, I didn't even think twice, I decided on having an abortion. But now even though i've decided on having an abortion, I feel like i'm doing something very wrong. Have you felt the same way?
And also don't you think if a person isn't 100 percent sure that he/she is able to provide for the child, then abortion is the best solution?

I've had 2 abortions and also have 2 kids. 1st pregnancy was terminated, 2nd pregnancy I kept the baby, 3rd pregnancy was terminated and 4th pregnancy I also kept the baby. I'm sure this won't effect your fertility, im sure you will be just perfect.

I do not have children at this time.. I am married, so they were all with the same man =)

i believe that abortion is taking responsibility for your actions, just as adoption and parenting are, it just so happens that some people do not agree with abortion..

Thanks so much, you helped me sleep a little easy last night. I have an appointment tomorrow and decided on doing the abortion pill instead of the surgical procedure. However taking the pill seems like i'm killing the fetus first and carrying it around with me for at least 48hrs before getting it out with the intravaginal pills. And the surgical seems like someone is just taking away your fetus and dumping it.
I guess there's no other easy way to do this. I'm real scared this 3rd time. Wish me luck!!

hey mimi, I hope it goes well for you...I am concerned about your boyfriend; I hope he does not try to make you feel guilty or bad.

Your language also belies some guilt that may harbor inside you-please make absolutely certain that you do not want to be pregnant anymore before going through with this. Did you handle the other abortions well?

And I absolutely agree with .Carifairy; abortion .I.S taking responsibility for your actions. If you did nothing at all and pretended this wasn't happening that would be not taking responsibility.

I'm thinking of you!

Thanks birch. I felt so incredibly alone, relieved and sad after the first one but very much relieved after the second one. But i've never felt so doubtful like this before. I think it has to do mostly with how old I am. I'm 26, and will be 27 in about 2 months. If I were emotionally and financially ready for this I wouldn't mind having a baby at this point in my life. But i'm not sure if I want to marry this man i'm with. And dont have a good paying job. My boyfriend does fairly well but not enough to support myself and a baby and pay all the bills for a year. Then i'll have to go to school part time and by the time I graduate i'll probably be 34 and if I decided on going to a 4 year professional school , forget about it. By the time I get myself together, i'll be in my mid forties. Its a no win!

At this point in my life i'm more concerned about if I can provide for this child and if i'm ready to become a good mother. And the answer is no, i'm not. And thats why i'm making this decision. I pray that when the time is right that i'll be able to have children.

You're so right about my boyfriend, he definetly is making me feel guilty. I'm staying with my sister right now and he's calling constantly trying to convince me not to have an abortion.
My appointment is tomorrow morning and i'm going by myself. He's made it clear that he won't support me this time.

There are women having babies into their forties.. If you are not menopausal then you can become pregnant.

My mother had me in her forties, and I am glad that I had a stable and financially secure childhood. I did not worry about if my new shoes of athsma medical bills would 'ruin us', because they had the money and health insurance to provide...

I think men really believe babies are easy, mainly because they are no the ones doing it 'all'.

Yes, I can only back up what the others said: abortion is taking responsibility for your actions. You are pregnant, you don't wish to be, so you are being responsible by doing something about it.

I hope you are sure about aborting. It sounds tougher than the previous times. If you are totally sure this is what you want, then go ahead with it. Your partner cannot control your body, although it must be very difficult for him too knowing he wants this baby and is powerless in its fate.

Hope you get through this well. Keep us updated.

Kypros.

its true was carifiary says, men dont do caca, I have 2 kids and he never helped me until he was on parental. Im working full time as is he and I still take care of my kids, the only time he spends time with them is when im not around.

When I refer to men im referring to the majority~!

Woman are thr primary caregivers!

Hey everyone!

I went for my abortion this morning. I cried, it was horrifying at first. Then because of the atmosphere( the staff`were a happy group ) I kinda calmed down. They did the ultrasound and told me I was about 6 weeks. I then went to the counsellor's office where she explained on how to take the pill and gave me a tablet to take. It was so hard for me to swallow that pill . But I eventually did and suprisingly I feel relief and no guilt. May be it will hit later,i don't know.
I'll be taking the second set of pills tomorrow evening and I guess thats when the pregnancy will be aborted. I just wanted everything to get back to normal and have a kid when i'm ready not because a condom tore.
I was told that there is a chance it will not work and the event that that happens, i'll have to do the surgical. I hope it works.
Thanks you all for your support. It really helps, and I still need you.
As for my boyfriend he's so mad at me, he isn't speaking to me at this point. I had to go alone for the procedure and didn't have anyone to emotionally be there.

i'm glad that you did not feel badly about your decision. I felt only relief following my abortion and relief is the only thing I have felt. In fact, the only guilt that I felt was because I thought I should be feeling guilty. Isn't that weird? To feel guilty because you don't feel guilty? Anyway, I hope that your feelings of relief last just as long as mine have.

what a pr!Ck! How dare he?!!? I am so sorry that he wasn't there to support you in your time of need. Guys like that should be taken out back somewhere and horsewhipped until they start behaving like rational adults. I'm so sorry, sweety. Maybe he'll straighten up soon but if not, I must say that you're better off without someone like that. Keep us posted on how you're feeling and doing.
Peace and love,
jenn

When you take the next of pills, you will have pretty intense cramping and some nausea and vommiting.(if taken orally)

here are some things to help you get through it.

Prop yourself up in a reclining position and get comfortable. Use a heating pad, this will help tremendously. Take your painkillers beofre you are in pain.

You will gush blood, I know it may seem scarily heavy at times, but just stay calm and let the worst part pass. You will bleed more than a surgical abortion, so do not be upset if and when this happens.

I wanted to give you some honest advice so you are well prepared !

Thanks clairfairy and jenn. After I got home, I slept for about 5 hours and after I woke up I felt real sick. Very tired, weak and running a fever, do you know if thats norml after taking the first tablet at the doctors office? Or do I need to go to the hospital?

You could have a bug, and it just so happened to creep up on you now.

Infection would happen after you took the next set of pills, as they cause the cervix to open.

Not the hospital, but call the clinic and ask for advice. Sometimes they may tell you to wait a day to start the 'expulsion process".

i wonder if you would cry if you loose a child when you have one. Will you feel the same relief?

carifairy it is not recomendable to have babies at your forties. I'm 33 and will be 34 this year and you better believe I don't have the same energy and strenght than when I was 25. Your body goes down after 30. I had pains and aches I haven't had before. Not to mention the gray hairs that have begun to grow. I do hope it doesn't go bad with my pregnancies after 35 as I will try to have babies next year. I hope it's not true about the increased risk for genetic disorders and I give birth to healthy babies. I hope I have the strenght to run after my babies all day. Look if this gal is not financially stable at 27 there is no really much hope for her. By now she should be making enough money to support a kid. She sure is not going to make to grad school. She will be well into her thirties by the time she is done with a degree even if she begins studying now. I don't want to sound like a downer but if she ever wants to have a child, she will have to realize the baby might not be born with all luxuries she had expected. Unless she changes the bf and marries a rich guy , that will sure do it for her.