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hearenbaby8504
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004
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Location: Cinn. Ohio
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Am I the Only One?
Posted: 02-03-04 23:19pm
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Hi everybody, my name is heather. I am
18 years old also 15 weeks and 2 days
pregnant. I had been seeing this guy for
about 2 months and then I found out I was
6 1/2 weeks pregnant. I did'nt want to
tell him until I had actual proof because
I had no idea how he would react. The
news got to him and he made a reply
saying, "well she needs to get the other
guys shes been screwing tested." what a
jerk! He knows as well as everybody else
that he was the only one I had been with.
Now I am all alone.I planned on having a
father for my baby just as everyone else
does. We all know how those plans work
though. I would'nt take it back fo the
world. Like I said I am 15 weeks and 2
days preggy and already I love my baby
more than life itself.
Anybody else preggy and single? 
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advice247
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Location: IL
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Posted: 02-04-04 03:12am
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I'm so sorry to hear that! I'm not
dealing with it. But I do know many women
that deal with it, and end up with an
abortion. I'm sooo happy you're planning
on having it! Babies are so precious.
I'm sure you've heard this before, but be
careful with who you choose. I was with a
lot of men when I was younger. I since
became a christian and found a christian
man, i'm the happiest person ever! Your
baby will bring so much joy into your
life! Don't let anyone put you down about
this. Surely, don't take your man back!
You deserve better than that.
Congratulations and have fun with your
baby!
Chrissy :d
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hearenbaby8504
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004
Posts: 197
Location: Cinn. Ohio
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Thanks Crissy
Posted: 02-04-04 18:38pm
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Hey. I just wanted to say thanks so much
for your advice. You are right. Could
you imagine if I did take him back. He
would definitly think I was a sucker and
take me for granted. Abortion never did
cross my mind. Its my fault and I cant
take it out on an innocent sweet little
baby. Did you read the article, this is
so sad:( it has 2 poems that had me in
tears last night. Oh gosh I was trying
to type and wipe tears at the same time.
It had everybody in tears. Well, if you
ever want to chat my screen name is
hearenbaby8504 and my e-mail is the same
only @aol.Com.
Heather
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hearenbaby8504
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004
Posts: 197
Location: Cinn. Ohio
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So Confused
Posted: 02-08-04 18:17pm
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Well, the other day he called me and we
talked everything out. He did a little
sneak and called my suppose to be best
friend on 3 way and she sat there and
admitted that she was the one that told
him, then she says we told her how you
said she needs to get the other guys shes
been f*#@ing tested. He says, but I did
not say that. She said I know it means
the same though. He laughed and said I
am sorry but it is not, the way you put it
made me sound like I was calling her a
promiscuous person. She said yeah, I
will call her and let her know. He got
off the phone and said, "see I told you."
then he said he wanted to be in my life
and the baby's life, what should I
do??????????????????????? 
I know I have a friend or two I am
dropping which
really makes me sad I
just don't wanna loose her, but then again
what good is she if thats the way she is
gonna treat me? Anyone with advice
please help!!!!
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rach16
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Joined: 20 Jan 2004
Posts: 78
Location: Scotland
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Hi
Posted: 02-10-04 15:59pm
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Trust me your not by yourself at all!
What I am going through is very similar.
To be honest I don't know what you should
do just what ever feels right! Sorry I
aint much help. I am 16 and pregnant and
I was never with the dad in the first
place, sounds great so far! I have only
told a few people cause I knew when ever I
got pregnant there may be a chance of
complications and there are not just with
the dad. Soprru keep going on lol. The
dad at first acted like he was interested
and wanted to be part fo the babies life
but then he turnt nasty I decided I werent
going to have anything to do with him but
really deep down I know I cant deprive my
baby of having a dad knowing deep down
that my son would hate him me cause of one
mistake I made but it is up to you don't
let know one make your mind up for you but
you. Its your life you decision and true
friends will stick by you no matter what
you decide.
Hope I helped!
Rachel xxx
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hearenbaby8504
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004
Posts: 197
Location: Cinn. Ohio
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Thanks Rachel!
Posted: 02-10-04 20:38pm
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Rachel,
thanks so much. I told jackie the other
day when she called. She started out
with, hey I am sorry I have not called in
a couple days, I have been to lots of
parties!! You would not believe the stuff
that has went on. Then she went on to
say, god I have not talked to you in so
long, I feel like I lost a best friend.
I said well, jackie you did. She said
huh? I told her how I knew everything
and how I truly believed that she was
using me anyways for my money to get her
liquor, of course I was becoming a heavy
drinker also, then she says, no its not
like that. I said yeah it is if it
wasn't then you would be calling me to
check on me, not telling me after you have
this baby, I am taking you to meet these
one guys and we can finally go to the club
drunk. I just told her so yeah, you did
loose a friend when I found out I was
having a baby cause the real you leaked
through. She tryed to apologize but I
did not want to hear it, so I just said
goodbye, and hung up. Sound like I did
the right thing??? As for the dad he is
in the process of switching jobs cause he
said he needs to make more money, "i have
a baby on the way!" I told him he needed
to start back from the bottom to build up
my trust.
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rach16
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Joined: 20 Jan 2004
Posts: 78
Location: Scotland
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Posted: 02-11-04 14:34pm
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Well if you feel you have done the right
thing then in your mind you have. But if
you do feel bad for it then maybe it
weren't such a good idea. At rhe mo you
don't need other little stresses going on
your baby is your life now and you need to
be there for the baby not your friends
they have to come secodn and have to learn
to understand that. And for what you did
with the dad fair play I would do
something similair if I could stand to be
around the dad but I cant. I do try to
speak with him but he turns nasty so I
don't want anything to do with him. I do
stick up for myself I am known for it lol
but you cant fight when your pregnant I no
that but I have the urge to smash his face
in but I have to think of the baby.
Rachel xx
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hearenbaby8504
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004
Posts: 197
Location: Cinn. Ohio
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We Are So Similair
Posted: 02-11-04 16:16pm
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Rachel,
i am the same way, lol when I found out
what jackie did to me I was like I am
going to kick her a*#!!! I was so mad
and my mom says hun, first of all you are
pregnant and ya cant do that, then she
says to me your 18 now. If you fight now
there is always a chance you could go to
jail, so even if you wait till you have
the baby, think what she will think,
"where is my mommy?" so I also thought
well, I won't then. My baby is so much
more important than a piece of dirt. She
hugged me and said "its okay heather we
are here for you and we love you!" its
funny how we can be so like blah and then
the most blow it off kind of person huh?
I agree if you cant stand him and he wants
to be nasty, then you don't need him.
That was always my thought, what is my
baby gonna think when she realizes every
body else has a daddy. What do I tell
her?
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rach16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jan 2004
Posts: 78
Location: Scotland
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Opps!
Posted: 02-12-04 10:56am
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Well im in same situation what do I tell
my little boy? At the moment I don't know
but the truth always seems to come out
eventually don't it! No point in lieing.
I am in so much trouble I have an anger
problem I would never hurt my babay but
with other girls mainly. I had a fight
today I didnt loose and she didnt hit me
so its k but I floored her an broke her
nose and my parents are fumin at me! I
have never seen em so angry before. But
the girl did deserve it. Anger management
don't work im living proof of it xx
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sdwood2
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2004
Posts: 645
Location: KY
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You All Are Not Alone
Posted: 02-12-04 11:33am
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I am now 25 and I have a son he is now 5.
I know how it is to be single and pg and
to raise a child alone. My son does not
know his father. He dad has not seen him
since he was 2months old. He has made
this chose and yes it is hard. But we
all get through it. I feel that it is
better to find out early that they dont
want to be there than later after they
have been around for a while and deside to
leave. His dad has only seen him mabe 3
times and thats all. We really dont even
know were he is at now. So yes I know
that it is a very hard time for you guys,
but you all need to know that you all are
not alone, I am sure that you all have
family and friends. Also dont add extra
stress to your life with fighting because
you could misscary and noone wants that
and you all dont want to go to jail. You
all can pm me if you all have questions or
need to talk I have been there and I still
am look I am rasing a kid alone. I am
also going to college so you all can do it
too you just got to have fath in youself.
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hearenbaby8504
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004
Posts: 197
Location: Cinn. Ohio
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Thank God
Posted: 02-12-04 18:14pm
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I did not think that there was anyone out
there!!! I am so happy to share our
stories with each other, although they
suck, the outcome is beautiful and we
have/gonna have wonderful children. I
would love to keep talking about our
children and our survival stories, I guess
you could call them. I think eing a
mommy and a daddy will just make us better
people. Not better than you know the
parents, just better people. I wish us
luck!! Oh, yeah, I find out is she is
really a she on feb. 27th. I'll let ya
know :d
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rach16
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Posts: 78
Location: Scotland
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U Best Do!!
Posted: 02-16-04 11:02am
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Yea you must let us know. Have you
thought of any anmes yet? I do not have a
clue I keep changing my mind
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rach16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jan 2004
Posts: 78
Location: Scotland
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U Best Do!!
Posted: 02-16-04 11:02am
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Yea you must let us know. Have you
thought of any anmes yet? I do not have a
clue I keep changing my mind
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Jaydensmommy
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Joined: 28 Jan 2004
Posts: 1705
Location: Wisconsin
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Posted: 02-16-04 12:02pm
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For all those of you whos babies father
left them. You will get them back by
slapping them with a child support case
and the birthing cost!!! Don't worry
ladies it will all be okay. They will
sooner or later come to grips with what is
the truth and what is right...And if not,
they will just pay you up the ying yang
for the next 18 years!!
~sara~
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macysmom
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Location: Louisiana
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Everything Will Work Out For the Best!!
Posted: 02-17-04 19:22pm
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Like you and many of other girls out there
I was 18, alone and pregnant. Macy's dad
treated me horribly and quite often
cheated on me. He wanted the baby while
I was not ready. Yet after learning that
I was pregnant he left and said "he was
not ready for the responsibility".
Abortion was never an option for me.
I am now a 23 yr old college graduate that
struggled these five years to become the
person that I am today. Like you my
friend were at the age where they were
just starting to be able to go out. The
only person I talk to today out of that
group of people is my best friend. I
found myself becoming friends with all
pregnant girls in the same situation as
me. So if you think you are not going to
have any friends you are wrong. If they
are not there for you know, when you need
them the most then they were not yours
friends to begin with.
Macy's father comes and goes. She really
never askes for him. It is better that
he is gone anyway. I have found someone
who loves me and my child. He treats her
like she is his own child. He tells me
everyday how much he loves her. She
voluntarily calls him daddy and will even
tell her real dad that he is her daddy.
Everything will work out fine. You have
a family that is there for you and will
help with whatever they can do.
Cheri
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hearenbaby8504
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004
Posts: 197
Location: Cinn. Ohio
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I Feel Bad But Great
Posted: 02-18-04 01:55am
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I feel bad for everyone, but like you have
said, everything works out best. I want
to say thanks for sharing your painful,
but wonderful stories. I think they all
have a good ending, even if it is not the
end. You were right, family is great.
I don't know where I would be without
mine. My baby would probably not be as
healthy as she is now. I get immediate
attention here with my mother and father.
On sunday night around 12am I tripped
over a cord. I went in to what they call
pre-labor. They kept me there till
today. I just got home and I feel if I
would have been where I was I would not
have got to the hospitol like I did. So
I agree with you 110% family is the best.
I am happy to hear that your children
have turned out so wonderful.
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rach16
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Location: Scotland
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Totally Agree!
Posted: 02-18-04 10:21am
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I totally agree if your friends arent
there when you need them then they
obviously aint your true friends. I am
not talkin to one of my 'friends' as I
found out she has been slaggin my off
behind my back not a true friend in normal
circumstances I would smash her face in
but I behaved. Just like that girl who I
had a fight with cause she pushed my
stomach she came in today an I behaved
myself but deep down I want to beat her!.
My real query is can you dye your hair
when your pregnant? Some peopel have said
yes others no then others sayin its your
choice but a risky one. Anyone help? My
mum and friends all dyed there hair when
they was pregnant and everythink was fine
rachel xxxxx
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sparklypixie12
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Posted: 02-18-04 11:04am
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Hey rach-i herd that u shouldnt dye ur
hair with anything containing bleach or
amonia as they can be harmful to the baby
cos of the fumes they give off.U could ask
ur doc when u next see him/her
liz x
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rach16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
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Posts: 78
Location: Scotland
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Thanks
Posted: 02-18-04 11:16am
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Yea I might I dont put bleach in my hair
anyway but thanks for helping xxxxxxx
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Amazin_Mommy
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Location: Saint Louis,MO
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You're Not the Only One
Posted: 02-22-04 23:34pm
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Hi my name is alisha i'm 16 and 9 weeks
and 2 days pregnant. I also have a 4
year old daughter. My kid's daddy was
excited about me being pregnant with our
second. He even asked me to marry him.
And 3 days later I go to call him and his
mom says she hasn't seen him for 2 days.
I was left alone, scared, and confused.
He came around about 3weeks ago and told
me he was sorry and still loved me. He
also told me that the only reason he
disappeared was because he was scared.
And I thought, well hello i'm 16,
pregnant, and already have a 4 year old
daughter. And I knew my parents were
going to be pissed, again. So you were
scared? I know my parents are going to
disown me again, after they take away my
car and I am forced to take my baby and
live on my own. Being a teen mother is
hard.
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