Possible Femoral Hernia

This is how I describe the pain to my doctor, every visit, to the appropriate specialist, it feels like a pulled muscle, btw I am a 33 year old female, not pregnant and no possibility trust me on that, i'm practicing absintence because of all the pain i'm in. I have other health problems but, it is not related and is a different type of pain.

Right in the groin, where the crease is in your hip like when you sit down, I have pain there it feels like a nerve is affected or something I wake up in the morning with severe muscle pain like i've done to many situps its not a good feeling. I've been extremely nauseated even after taking medication to help this, I feel a bump on both sides of my lower abdomen the pain is on the right side, I feel in the side of my vagina sort of on the inside of my thigh.

My problems is when I am full if I try to cross my legs it hurts, then I lose all controls of my bowel when I stand up, I make it to the bathroom I just have to run there. It doesn't matter if my bladder is full and my intestines are full the pain is still present in that area where the nerve is. I have pain in my tailbone and the most horrendus rectal pain that you wouldn't even believe.

The only relief I get are from painkillers and laying flat, the painkillers are for another disease that I have (lupus), I know what I am feeling but my rheumatologist did an exam and couldn't feel anything I am 98lbs and she should have felt something but didn't...It feels like a pulled muscle a few inches above my ovary near my belly button which always hurts before and after I eat, which is even worse when i'm gassy, I always take somethig for gas so I can relieve it.

Any suggestions would be helpful, please help i'm going to see my gi doctor on the 11th of january, any female who has had surgery or who has similar symptoms would like to hear from you...Even males can give me suggestion but I would like to know what to tell my doctor to make him raise an eyebrow...If you know what I mean...

Thanks again....In advance...