Well maybe you should try some warming gel to keep you wet and try to think of something erotic during sex and see if it helps

Thnx it helps to get advice but that may help to keep me wet but would it help me orgasm? I mean I love to get roudy with him during intercourse but I just wish that I could get off too...Oo and by the way...Would warming gel give me a uti bc I get them very often

Well maybe I would just clean myself after and just use a tiny bit, I did have problem at one time with getting wet but I just use a lil' bit try also being on top and use your imagination!

Does any one else have any suggestions as to what would help me to get off during intercourse..Like is there any technique or cream u can get from the doctor....Pleeeeease hellpp

I'm not sure about the cream part of anything it seems like if there was your doctor would have told you about it. But honestly the first person who answered you was right using your imagination does a great deal. I actually used to have the same problem. I've never had sex but it was when he would finger me. I just didnt have any type of pleasure from things going inside me I guess and I couldn't stay wet. But trust me using your imagination goes a looongggg way. Try not to think about the fact that you can't get off to it. Think about the good feelings and even exaggerate ... Make noises and stuff. It'll help loosen up your body and relax you. You'd be surprised how it helps.

hi! How long have you been with your guy for? Even if you really care about someone, I think it takes a while to be relaxed enough to be able to fully enjoy sex. This has been the case for me anyway. Sounds like you feel a lot of pressure to orgasm, if you are pressurising yourself, or feeling pressured by him you are less likely to be able to relax and enjoy it!

Well first of all, you can reach orgasm when you masturbate, right? I can, and I can reach an orgasm during oral, but I find if my bf tries to get me off with his fingers it doesnt work. I think I feel a bit self conscious or something. Maybe it's the same for you. I guess you have to just do what has been suggested and experiment to see what makes you tick, cos everyone is different, and what works for one person wont necessarily work for another. What position do you usually do?

It's a sad fact that lots of women are unable to orgasm through penetration alone. Have you tried touching yourself while having sex? The problem your having may simply be that you are not getting any/enough clitoral stimulation. If or when you find you have exhausted all other avenues, maybe you two could invest in a vibrating penis ring or something

well anyway, for now I would certainly get hold of some lubricant to sort out the problem you are having with dryness. And I would try to relax! Dont try to think of orgasm as the goal, take your time during sex, enjoy the intimacy.

Hi! How long have you been with your guy for? Even if you really care about someone, I think it takes a while to be relaxed enough to be able to fully enjoy sex. This has been the case for me anyway. Sounds like you feel a lot of pressure to orgasm, if you are pressurising yourself, or feeling pressured by him you are less likely to be able to relax and enjoy it!

Well first of all, you can reach orgasm when you masturbate, right? I can, and I can reach an orgasm during oral, but I find if my bf tries to get me off with his fingers it doesnt work. I think I feel a bit self conscious or something. Maybe it's the same for you. I guess you have to just do what has been suggested and experiment to see what makes you tick, cos everyone is different, and what works for one person wont necessarily work for another. What position do you usually do?

It's a sad fact that lots of women are unable to orgasm through penetration alone. Have you tried touching yourself while having sex? The problem your having may simply be that you are not getting any/enough clitoral stimulation. If or when you find you have exhausted all other avenues, maybe you two could invest in a vibrating penis ring or something

well anyway, for now I would certainly get hold of some lubricant to sort out the problem you are having with dryness. And I would try to relax! Dont try to think of orgasm as the goal, take your time during sex, enjoy the intimacy.





Hi..Thnx 4 helping.Well i've been with my bf for 10 months now and I am very comfortable. I dont rly masturbate but I cant get off when he fingers me...The only time I can get off is when he gives me oral....I guess I do kind of get pressured too bc I just feek thats its not normal and I get upset about it but my bf never pressures me....My bf has tried to play with me while dring intercourse but it just gets too tender and I cant take it so I have to move his hand...We bought some of that gel stuff and it does help a little but still I am unable too..But hank you