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Q: Help Me Plz... How Can I Help My Bf Quit Smoking?

asked by: babybooz on February 3rd, 2004

Experienced User

Hey everyone... I know this is the women sexual health forum, but there seemed to be a low reply level at the lung cancer one. I am having a very hard time with my bf. I hate his smoking, and it bothers me. It hurts me to know hes cutting his time short with me. I never wanted to be with a smoker, but he started after we got together.. Too late to base our relationship on it because I love him so much. Thats why I care so much too, I am scared of death and separation from him.. And hes cutting it all short by smoking. I know the effects of smoking and it scares me.. I nag and nag him but its not sinking it. I know its his choice to smoke and only he can make himself quit, but... What can I do? Crying or Very sad

there has to be something... I came here because I know a lot of women may be able to give me some ideas... Plz help me. I lay in bed at night, thinking of that one way I can help him. Crying or Very sad

by the way, he claims he could quit anytime, he just doesnt want to... ? Why...? Crying or Very sad

plz
sarah

Replies(4)

Joy1220

replied on February 3rd, 2004

New User

Some people can quit whenever they want to. But by him saying he doesn't want to quit than he's not going to. I quit smoking almost 1 year ago. It is true though that you really hav eto want to quit. If you try to quit for someone else it won't work. So even if he tries to quit for you if he's not ready he will go right back to it.

nikki_caro

replied on February 4th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Well this is a tough one! My guy jose, is a smoker, he has cut down alot for me. He used to smoke about 20 a day and I hated it. I got my asthma back from him. And he told me he cared enough to stop. So he knows his priorities. He has cut down from 20 to 2 a day. And we are working on buying him "smoke away" to finally stop completely. He says he not only wants to stop for himself but for me too. I call him tar lungs, I call his cigs cancer sticks, I print up things to make him realize the consequences. Keep up on your guy and he cares enough for his health and you, then he will stop

2ferano

replied on February 16th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

The sad truth is there is nothing you can do. In order for anyone to quit they really really have to want it. That is the only way to quit. And no offense, but your nagging probably only makes him angry and makes him not want to quit. I quit for two years and then started again, then I quit two months ago and now smoke when I drink. I wish I didn't even do that, but I am weak. If he would go for one week without smoking, which is soooo hard. Then, the nicotine will be out of his system and the withdrawal will be gone. But, the desire to smoke will never be gone. It may go away temporarily or even most of the time, but it usually comes back in some way, shape or form. He is going to have to want it for himself. But, don't let him smoke around you. Second hand smoke is far worse than actually smoking yourself and you do not need to die or become ill because of anyone else!

babybooz

replied on February 17th, 2004

Experienced User

Thanks Peeps

Glad to say, that I totally stopped bothering him after it began to sink it. He came to get me one weekend, and he had ultra lites in his truck instead of regular! I was sooo happy.. And I said, "why do you have those?" and he said, "because they have less tar" so maybe the things I was bothering him about worked... Atleast in the slightest. He isnt smoking a pack anymore either... Wow am I ever happy. By the way, I dont even mention his smoking anymore, unless he smokes in the truck... I might cough or something. "hints" thanks for everything...
Sarah

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