Joined: 15 Oct 2003 Posts: 56 Location: Freddy NB, Canada
Help Me Plz... How Can I Help My Bf Quit Smoking? Posted: 02-03-04 15:39pm
Hey everyone... I know this is the women
sexual health forum, but there seemed to
be a low reply level at the lung cancer
one. I am having a very hard time with my
bf. I hate his smoking, and it bothers
me. It hurts me to know hes cutting his
time short with me. I never wanted to be
with a smoker, but he started after we got
together.. Too late to base our
relationship on it because I love him so
much. Thats why I care so much too, I am
scared of death and separation from him..
And hes cutting it all short by smoking.
I know the effects of smoking and it
scares me.. I nag and nag him but its not
sinking it. I know its his choice to
smoke and only he can make himself quit,
but... What can I do? there
has to be something... I came here
because I know a lot of women may be able
to give me some ideas... Plz help me. I
lay in bed at night, thinking of that one
way I can help him. by the
way, he claims he could quit anytime, he
just doesnt want to... ? Why...? plz
sarah
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Joy1220
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Dec 2003 Posts: 11 Location: Michigan
Posted: 02-03-04 17:57pm
Some people can quit whenever they want
to. But by him saying he doesn't want to
quit than he's not going to. I quit
smoking almost 1 year ago. It is true
though that you really hav eto want to
quit. If you try to quit for someone
else it won't work. So even if he tries
to quit for you if he's not ready he will
go right back to it.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 02-04-04 12:54pm
Well this is a tough one! My guy jose, is
a smoker, he has cut down alot for me. He
used to smoke about 20 a day and I hated
it. I got my asthma back from him. And
he told me he cared enough to stop. So he
knows his priorities. He has cut down
from 20 to 2 a day. And we are working on
buying him "smoke away" to finally stop
completely. He says he not only wants to
stop for himself but for me too. I call
him tar lungs, I call his cigs cancer
sticks, I print up things to make him
realize the consequences. Keep up on your
guy and he cares enough for his health and
you, then he will stop
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 02-16-04 03:01am
The sad truth is there is nothing you can
do. In order for anyone to quit they
really really have to want it. That is
the only way to quit. And no offense,
but your nagging probably only makes him
angry and makes him not want to quit. I
quit for two years and then started again,
then I quit two months ago and now smoke
when I drink. I wish I didn't even do
that, but I am weak. If he would go for
one week without smoking, which is soooo
hard. Then, the nicotine will be out of
his system and the withdrawal will be
gone. But, the desire to smoke will
never be gone. It may go away
temporarily or even most of the time, but
it usually comes back in some way, shape
or form. He is going to have to want it
for himself. But, don't let him smoke
around you. Second hand smoke is far
worse than actually smoking yourself and
you do not need to die or become ill
because of anyone else!
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babybooz
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2003 Posts: 56 Location: Freddy NB, Canada
Thanks Peeps Posted: 02-17-04 18:43pm
Glad to say, that I totally stopped
bothering him after it began to sink it.
He came to get me one weekend, and he had
ultra lites in his truck instead of
regular! I was sooo happy.. And I said,
"why do you have those?" and he said,
"because they have less tar" so maybe the
things I was bothering him about worked...
Atleast in the slightest. He isnt
smoking a pack anymore either... Wow am I
ever happy. By the way, I dont even
mention his smoking anymore, unless he
smokes in the truck... I might cough or
something. "hints" thanks for
everything...
Sarah
there
has to be something... I came here
because I know a lot of women may be able
to give me some ideas... Plz help me. I
lay in bed at night, thinking of that one
way I can help him. 
