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Christmas Dilemma Posted: 12-12-06 06:28am
Now I believe that christmas is all about
family so I invited neil to my mum's house
for christmas day.... And now i'm
starting to regret it. The last few weeks
he has acting horrible towards me. He
.A.L.W.A.Y.S has an attitude when he
speaks to me. He ignores my calls and
texts even though I only text him when
it's something important or to do with the
kids.
He told me his new years resolution is to
be divorced from me asap and he is always
making smart a$$ comments about .Robbie
even though he has 4 women on the go
himself and i've never commented on
them.
I'm just thinking that christmas day is
going to be awful with him there. My best
friend and mum hate his guts and they are
going to be there. It will probably all
esculate into an argument.
He is taking the kids to his mums house
from 5pm so i'm thinking of just telling
him he can't come for dinner and taking
the kids to his house at 5pm (they are
staying over for 2 nights anyway)
what do you girls think? I feel bad cause
it's christmas but I don't want a fight in
front of the kids on christmas day....
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 12-12-06 06:33am
I don't think it's appropriate for him to
come to your family function. He's not
really a member of it anymore, is he? He
can take the kids to his family's, but
should not come to yours. He definitely
shouldn't come if he can't control his
mouth or attitude, anyway. No one needs
to be exposed to that around such a happy
time.
If it were me and he said something smarty
in my presence, he'd get popped in the
mouth and told off. But .I'm .American,
so...
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Becky
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Posted: 12-12-06 06:34am
Lmao! Thanks. That's how I was feeling
anyway. I try to bite my tongue for the
kids sake but there is only so much
someone can take
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Kia
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Posted: 12-12-06 07:00am
I agree with laura, I don't think it
appropriate for him to come to your family
function either.
Sure, take the kids over to him later in
the day but keep your part of the day for
you and your family.
Sorry, I don't really know how to explain
but to me it's just this huge no-no.
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foxy
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Re: Christmas Dilemma Posted: 12-12-06 08:06am
I agree with everyone, take back your
invitation....
Your mom and best friend hate him and he
has been quite sh!Tty to you. It will
ruin your whole day, as well as everyone
else's, because it is going to be awkward
and tense.....And then he may say
something really stupid/mean.
beckster06
wrote:
now I believe that christmas
is all about family so I invited neil to
my mum's house for christmas day....
What do you girls think? I feel bad
cause it's christmas but I don't want a
fight in front of the kids on christmas
day....
you have such a good, kind heart.....But
he is not your family anymore and he is
not being a nice person right now. I
know he is the kids father and you want
them to have him there....But kids are
very observant and they are probably going
to feel the tension as well.
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 12-12-06 08:13am
I'm going to have to jump on the wagon
with this one. He is not family and does
not belong at your family's function. To
avoid unnecessary unpleasantness drop the
kids off at the prearranged time and avoid
contact with him.
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 12-12-06 09:02am
I agree, dont think you should invite him.
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Mommy35
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Posted: 12-12-06 11:38am
Would he actually dare to treat you badly
in front of your family?
I would tell him you changed your mind and
offer him to take the kids at a time that
works for you. Christmas is for family
and anyone who would be nasty to you
shouldn't be included in that kind of
joy.
I don't know you, but you seem to be very
kind. In one of your posts you said
that you were buying him a gift. I
thought that was a really nice thing to
do. I always had my girl color her dad
a pic or make him a gift, but I never
would have spent my money on him.
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Sunflower_pie81
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Posted: 12-12-06 12:30pm
I dont' think that you should have invited
him in the first place. It makes you look
needy and you aren't . I think that you
should take back the invite because it
sounds that with his attitude that he will
ruin christmas anyway. He isn't family
anymore. He has made that clear.
Have a great christmas without him and
have a good two nights off without him.
That is what I would do.
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Jules
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Posted: 12-12-06 12:36pm
I agree with everyone else, definitely
take back the invitation. He will only
ruin the day and your kids deserve better,
not to mention you!
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sandyallen
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Posted: 12-12-06 18:59pm
You just have too kind of a heart and I
can understand that you might have wanted
him there at that time for your kids but
this is your .Christmas and your family
and you should enjoy the day, I agree with
the others, I would un-invite him too!
Just my opinion too. Your kids can be
with their .Dad later.
