I got the same problem...Its pretty tough to live with...Sometimes your condom choice helps though. I've found that if I use condoms advertised as long lasting it adds at least 20 minutes to my performance. Where I might last 5 minutes with a regular condom if im lucky. I've even been known to last less then a minute before. But those long lasting condoms work wonders for me. I lasted longer then my girlfriend using them one time. It made me feel like I was on top of the world and I gained a lot of confidence during sex. So I strongly recomend trying that. I think the brand I use is lifestyles. Could be trojans though. Not sure. Also the funny thing is after you gain confidence with them you just last longer in general. My girlfriend randomly switched the long lasting one with a regular one without me knowing just to see how well i'd do and I did just as well as I did with the long lasting one. So I think a lot of it is in your head. Especially when you are freaked out about losing your girlfriend because you can't last long.

Another thing is some positions make me cum faster then others. Missionary doesn't last long for me. It has something to do with where the pressure is. I last longer either when she is on top of we are side to side.

And if after trying all that you still can't seem to last long then I suggest getting better at other things like oral sex or fingering. That way you can still satisfy her sexually even if you don't last long. There are a lot of websites with good advice on how to get good at those.

First, I am glad to hear the reply is talking about safe sex! Very mature and responsible! I am proud of you, aat08. I will tell you another way to help you to last a bit longer, though I shouldn't be contributing to before marriage sex. You really should be committing to the women you are taking a special part of, as this is something that cannot be replaced and is something that means more to them than they realize right now.
One tactic that you can do is to place your finger and thumb like a circle around the top of your scrotum and lightly pinch, like a rubber band feeling, right before you feel the sensation of orgasm. You can also incorporate this into your relationship with your partner where she does this for you to assist with the length of time for love-making. It's a gentle squeeze above the nuts, that will help you to maintain control.
The other thought that comes to my mind is that you can practice masturbation on your own where you build up your own endurance. You certainly do not need to be thinking of other things while you are with this woman, should you be performing an act which is supposed to be an expression of your love. Build up your endurance on your own, so you can respectfully apply yourself and your attention to the woman you are sharing a very important and intimate closeness with when you are doing this.
No need for thanks, just think deeply and with your heart about what you are doing when you are doing this.