hello

well those are both crappy! But... If I had to make a decision- it would be court-related and..If he shows signs of neglect/ verbal abuse- or if you can prove that he is...Then the court will rule in your favor.

How old is the child?

-b-

Errr,didn't you make a post about this before? I would divorce because staying together is just damaging to teh kid.Like missdepressed said,if there is some sort of neglect the law *will* and *should* be involoved

too many holes in this question to just say one or the other; have you talked with him about the negative influences he presenting? Are the lines of communication open? If he's an azz and just isn't hearing you, and you are making yourself clear about divorce and what nots, then by all means if he's not even attempting to change for the better, go for the divorce.

If he talks with you about it and is willing to change for the better, then you both have work to do, and get busy for that childs sake!

I think too often people look to divorce because it seems the easiest way out of a situation. I feel like divorce is harder work than most realize! To stay and put in the emotional work to make the family unit succeed is an admirable quality. To be so selfish as to look for the easy way out, that's cowardice. Imho.

It is important that you protect your child. Protecting your child should be your main objective when making your decision. If this person is harming your child or could harm your child, you need to gather as much evidence as you can of his behavior, and get out of the situation as quickly as possible. You need to have enough evidence to prove to the court that the visits have to be supervised because of the individual behavior. All in all, never jeopardize the safety of your child. You need to protect your child. If you can afford it, get a lawyer. If not, that's okay, just make sure to have your evidence if you have to go to court. If there is a local church in your area or some other support group, join it as this is going to be a difficult time in your life, and you will need others around you to help keep you strong. Best of luck to you and your child, and please remember that children cannot protect themselves so we as parents have to protect them, and keep them safe. May god be with you and your child. Take care...