My Situation With Ed Please Help Posted: 12-07-06 19:25pm
So here is my story, i'm 20 years old and
I have never been able to have sex due to
possible erectile problems. I recieved
oral from my first girlfriend successfully
but everytime we went to have intercourse
I just lost it. At the time, being 17/18,
I had never masturbated before (weird I
know!). Anyways the relationship fell
apart and I never had sex. Afterwards my
self esteem and confidence was severely
damaged and it took years for me to build
up the confidence to get into another
relationship. I read on the forums of
possible solutions and have been taking
fish oil and borage oils on a regular
basis as well as zinc occasionally and
5-htp to deal with emotional stability. I
have just got into a new relationship
finally with a girl I really like and I am
very comfortable around.
I'm 20 now and since my last relationship
I masturbate maybe once or twice a week
and everything seems fine besides not
being able to last a super long time. One
thing that leads to me worry is that I am
unable to masturbate in the shower, unless
i'm looking at porn to arouse me I
gradually lose my erection and therefore
jacking it in the shower doesn't work for
me. I ignored the problem and was hoping
I was ready for sex, however with my new
girlfriend the same problem has arised.
Not only have I failed to have sex, I
can't even successully get off when
recieving oral now and lose my erection.
It's extremely frustrating and depressing
but fortunately she is understanding and
patient with me.
I haven't seen anyone one about this or
told anyone other then the two girls I
have attemped anything sexual with. I'm
confused though as to whether my condition
is physical or psychological due to a
number of reasons.
- I am able to masturbate with a hard full
erection and acheive orgasm on my own
while watching porn yet in the shower I
can't?
- I find myself constantly getting partial
erections in places where I really don't
need them. I sit in class and sometimes
get a hard erection for no reason, i'll
hold hands or cuddle with my girlfriend
and I pitch a tent like crazy.
- when I masturbate my hand stimulates me
alot and if I really try hard I can get
off in a matter of minutes, yet when I am
recieving oral from my hot naked
girlfriend, it feels good at first but
slowly becomes less stimulating and my
erection deteriorates to a half hard/ half
limp kinda useless thing.
- and the weirdest thing! When me and my
girlfriend start getting close and
cuddling making out touching etc. My
penis is hard as ever, yet the closer we
get to doing the more sexual stuff, it's
like it gets scared and slowly gets limper
til when I actually wanna have sex my
erection is almost completely gone. It
doens't make sense that when i'm doing the
things that would normally turn me on the
most i'm the least stimulated.
So that's me, at first one would say it's
all psychological but I don't understand
why I can't masturbate in the shower or
anywhere without porn to stimulate me or I
lose it right away and even so if I have
porn in front of me, if I stop using my
hand it starts to soften.
Any input would be greatly appreciated,
i'm going to see a doctor in a couple days
cause my girlfriend is going to the clinic
anyways but I have a strong feeling he
will tell me it's all in my head which
will do jackshit to help me
