to Push Or Not to Push?

Maybe your cervix wasn't fully dilated?

I remember when I got the green light to push, my nurse told me we were going to have a few practice pushes. After a few of those, she told me "okay, that's enough, don't push anymore" and told another nurse "go get the doctor now." because she was threatening to be born before he even got there. Do you have a doctor do the actual delivery, or does the midwife help with that too?

I'm not sure, the only time they told me not to push when I felt like pushing was when they went to get the vaccuum...

I never got that far, but I did get pressure!

I do believe it is because the cervix isn't as dilated as it could be...
But part of me thinks it's just another way the medical profession try to control our labour.
You will have drugs, you won't push unless I say, you will lay flat on your back in the most un-natural of birthing positions where you are more likely to rip and have complications......

I had a foetal heart monitor strapped around my belly but in order for it to work properly I had to remain lying on back. Since that caused my contractions to be even more excruciating I kept flipping over to go on all-fours. I know I wasn't exactly being helpful but I genuinely didn't think about that at the time, I just moved myself into the position that caused the least pain. My body certainly knew what it wanted to do!

I wonder why all fours feels so good? I was squatting before they made me get in the bed...

Kay it's the most natural position to give birth in. The baby is now lined up properly instead of being squashed, your pelvis is opened up too.

It feels good because it is right.

Because pain relief drugs inhibit the bodys natural drugs and therefore inhibits the effects those natural chemicals would have on the body.

Added to that the un-natural position most western women are put in, that increases the risk of tearing and such.
If you were on all fours or squatting your baby would be pushing aginst the cervix in such a way that tearing is less likely, the whole process is more comforatable for you and baby, but it makes medical intervention more difficult and we allknow they like to interfere in our birth.

Can you imagine how different things would be if men gave birth

She said I don't know if i've ever been good enough
i'm a little bit rusty, and I think my head is caving in
and I don't know if i've ever been really loved
by a hand that's touched me, well I feel like something's
gonna give
and i'm a little bit angry, well

this ain't over, no not here, not while I still need you
around
you don't owe me, we might change
yeah we just might feel good

i wanna push you around, well I will, I will
i wanna push you down, well I will, I will
i wanna take you for granted, I wanna take you for granted
well I will

she said I don't know why you ever would lie to me
like i'm a little untrusting when I think that the truth is
gonna hurt ya
and I don't know why you couldn't just stay with me
you couldn't stand to be near me
when my face don't seem to want to shine
cuz it's a little bit dirty well

don't just stand there, say nice things to me
i've been cheated i've been wronged, and you
you don't know me, I can't change
i won't do anything at all

oh but don't bowl me over
just wait a minute well it kinda fell apart, things get so
crazy, crazy
don't rush this baby, don't rush this baby

Who's that by then?

Matchbox 20

title: push

I think everyone likes matchbox 20

I have also heard that many of the tears that women experience during childbirth is because of all the pain medications, their body is not able to send out the correct signals as far as went to push and when to slow down.

And alot of the tears happen when the women cannot feel anything and the doctor/midwife is telling her to push push push and it is all rushed and the vagina is not given enough time to stretch etc.


Squatting and on all fours does seem more natural and more comfortable than laying down.....I wonder if you said specifically that you want to give birth on all fours or in the squatting position, if they would still deny you that right........After all we are paying them.

It's gonna have to be something deadly serious to ever make me give birth on a bed on my back