Hiya,
im dating a girl that I suspect has an
eating disorder. I want to ask, what
causes most people to do something like
this? Im a typical guy, and I just cant
see myself doing something like that.
I care for her, but I dont know how to
approach it. I try to make sure that she
doesnt get any comments that could set her
off, but if she does I dont really know
what to do. If I try to counter-act it
with a compliment, then wouldn't that just
be promoting it?
I tried sneaking the subject up on her one
time, and she immediately broke down. I
don't understand really how I can help.
I see that it is an issue, but she isn't
at a dangerous bmi level...
What can I do to try and stop this?
Would taking her to work out with me help,
and show her the healthy way to loose
weight?
How about psychological intervention, you
think that she would actually listen if I
"went behind her back" and called upon
someone?
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Kayla343
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Nov 2006 Posts: 27 Location: ,
Posted: 12-06-06 23:44pm
Im really not sure what you could do.
I battle an eating disorder and my
boyfriend does know.
He just kinda leaves me alone about it
though.
For me, if you were to go behind my back
for psychological help, it would make me
worse off.
At that point, id feel like a failure and
be more depressed than ever.
Its hard to tell you what to do in your
sittuation since I dont know the girl.
Just use your best judgement.
Try not to bring it up too much, and
definitely dont nag her.
Good luck
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v00d00cita
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Posted: 12-07-06 05:32am
Well, you must, firstly, to learn as much
as possible about these conditions. But
don't judge here hardly, it's something in
her hear. Go smoothly - small things can
make big differences.
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akiabella
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Oct 2006 Posts: 15
Posted: 12-10-06 09:25am
There are a lot of different reasons why a
girl will develop an eating disorder
ranging from low self-esteem to sexual
abuse. It's all very complicated and you
have to realize that you alone are not
going to make the problem go away. All
you can do is be there for her and support
her efforts to get better. She is the
only one who can fix this.
