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hi2u22

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In a Girls Eyes?
Posted: 12-06-06 23:27pm

Hiya,
im dating a girl that I suspect has an eating disorder. I want to ask, what causes most people to do something like this? Im a typical guy, and I just cant see myself doing something like that.

I care for her, but I dont know how to approach it. I try to make sure that she doesnt get any comments that could set her off, but if she does I dont really know what to do. If I try to counter-act it with a compliment, then wouldn't that just be promoting it?

I tried sneaking the subject up on her one time, and she immediately broke down. I don't understand really how I can help. I see that it is an issue, but she isn't at a dangerous bmi level...
What can I do to try and stop this?

Would taking her to work out with me help, and show her the healthy way to loose weight?
How about psychological intervention, you think that she would actually listen if I "went behind her back" and called upon someone?
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Kayla343

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Posted: 12-06-06 23:44pm

Im really not sure what you could do.
I battle an eating disorder and my boyfriend does know.
He just kinda leaves me alone about it though.
For me, if you were to go behind my back for psychological help, it would make me worse off.
At that point, id feel like a failure and be more depressed than ever.
Its hard to tell you what to do in your sittuation since I dont know the girl.
Just use your best judgement.
Try not to bring it up too much, and definitely dont nag her.
Good luck
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v00d00cita

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Posted: 12-07-06 05:32am

Well, you must, firstly, to learn as much as possible about these conditions. But don't judge here hardly, it's something in her hear. Go smoothly - small things can make big differences.
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akiabella

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Joined: 23 Oct 2006
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Posted: 12-10-06 09:25am

There are a lot of different reasons why a girl will develop an eating disorder ranging from low self-esteem to sexual abuse. It's all very complicated and you have to realize that you alone are not going to make the problem go away. All you can do is be there for her and support her efforts to get better. She is the only one who can fix this.
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