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Q: No Hope
asked by: smoothiesRyummy on December 6th, 2006
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I'm 16 and I feel like I don't have any hope for my life. My grades are okay, I used to be able to get all a's but now I can barely make myself do my homework and it's once in a blue moon that I actually feel up to studying. I don't ever feel like doing anything except watching tv, going on myspace, or eating. I feel pathetic. I go out with my friends and wish I was home because i'm scared i'm going to say something stupid or ruin all my friendships. There's lots of stuff I used to be happy to do but I can't make myself get around to anymore, like reading, drawing, writing poems, and writing in my diary. I don't feel like anything has any true meaning.

My point is, has anyone else ever felt this way?
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smoothiesRyummy replied on December 6th, 2006
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I forgot to mention that I do see a therapist, and my parents pay a lot of money for me to see him but whenever I go I can't make myself talk about my problems. I don't feel like opening up. Is there a way I can make myself want to talk?
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poffenberger replied on December 6th, 2006
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smoothiesryummy wrote:
i forgot to mention that I do see a therapist, and my parents pay a lot of money for me to see him but whenever I go I can't make myself talk about my problems. I don't feel like opening up. Is there a way I can make myself want to talk?


hope all is better, I do have a suggestion, do some writing, journaling and if feel unable to talk with therapists share this with them.....
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san54 replied on December 6th, 2006
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Please continue to see the therapist. There is always hope. If you don't feel like talking, write. A few years ago, I was diagnosed with ms. Along with it came depression. I found that writing poetry helped me tremendously. I even started to write a book about someone dealing with ms. Not finished yet. Please don't give up, you are young yet and you have a lot of growing and living to do. Also, it doesn't hurt to pray. If you can't talk to your therapist, talk with god. He will give you an answer. Take care of yourself and remember you are loved by a lot of people. I will put you in my prayers tonight. Wink
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n_m_zia_girl replied on December 8th, 2006
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I went through the same exact thing at age 15-20 that you are going through now. I am not the type of person to open up, so I held it all in, and only hurt myself in the process. At 19 years old, I finally made a doc's appointment for myself and was put on lexapro. The medication only made me feel like I wasn't myself, like I was living a lie.
My advice, do not go on medication usless you *really* need to. What helped me a lot was to keep a *special* journal, one that I could write down all of my deepest darkest feelings in and not have to worry about anybody reading it. I used to write a lot of poetry before the depression, and I found that even depressing poems are a good way to vent your feelings. I have always loved nature, and at the time I found that just watching the rain or going for a walk by myself helped me to clear my mind.
All I can say is that it takes time, and lots of it. You are fortunate, you have supportive parents, and parents who can also afford to send you to a therapist. I did not have those things. You should take advantage of the good things that you do have going toward helping you.
Don't ever give up hope. I speak as a person that still deals with depression on a semi-regular basis. I have excepted that this will always be a part of me, at least for now, but you don't have to be that way. You sound as though you have so much support and understanding, and those two things matter the *most*.
Remember, your life is good! You are alive, healthy and free! Be thankful for those things and think of your blessings often, and soon you will realize what is important in your life and things will straighten out.
You have my best wishes!

P.S. I was raised christian, luthern,but open-minded. My parents did not support any thing other than believing in god and the lord, so I had to follow for lots of years. But I found the most comfort, calm and enlightenment during my depression when I started to study other beliefs such as budduhism. It is not a religion, but a system of beliefs, and many encouraging thoughts and bits of wisdom. Try reading some budduhist books, if not to follow just to enlighten and get into a different frame of mind which is what you need.
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