My husband and I were having a discussion about raising our children. He believes I can sometimes be too rough on our son - he's 4. What I mean by too rough is making sure he sits still when necessary, ie - church, dinner, etc. Talking with a situation appropriate volume, putting his clothes away, putting dirty clothes in the hamper, putting his cup in the sink when he's finished, and so forth. I was raised with what I believe was a healthy .F.E.A.R of my parents. An example of what I mean by fear is there was no sneaking out of the house because the locks would have been changed and you would be fending for yourself for awhile. My husband on the other hand got in trouble as a teen. Not to give too much info, but he was put in juvenille detention, broke out, came home, and his mother gave him cash and hair dye so he wouldn't be caught/sent back .

My question is: do you believe that there has to be a certain level of discipline and what do you do to discipline your kids?

I personally believe that spanking can sometimes be necessary to get a childs attention, only when other alternatives have failed. But what I found works best in my situation is taking things away and having him earn them back.

Comments..........

Steph