Yesterday, my boyfriend told me that after
he orgasms, he doesn't want to be touched
or to touch me and sometimes he just wants
to be alone and get away from anything
sex-related. He said that, for about a
minute or so after he pulls out of me,
anything having to do with sex practically
disgusts him, including my naked body.
I feel like he called me disgusting.
I'm already sensitive about my body and
how I am sexually and this really hurt me.
I still feel upset today and feel like
my body disgusts him. I
don't want to feel this way. I've been
looking for anything on the net to tell me
if this is normal and to help myself
understand this. I know it's not his
fault but it hurts. Do other guys feel
this way? Why? Is there anything I
can do or do I just have to let him roll
away from me? I feel like i'm dirty or
something when he moves away from me like
that. I don't want this to bother me
but it does. Please help!
Mods, is it ok if I post this in the guy
section too because their opinion would
help aswell.
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Re: After My Bf Orgasms. Posted: 11-28-06 14:18pm
sprickles58
wrote:
he said that, for about a
minute or so after he pulls out of me,
anything having to do with sex practically
disgusts him, including my naked
body.
that sounds like he feels
guilty about what he has done.
Quote:
i feel like he
called me
disgusting.
no, he could have phrased
it better but at least he told you, it's
him he feels guilty or disgusted with
himself about sex. Sounds like it's a
deep rooted psycho-sexual issue.
Quote:
mods, is it ok if
I post this in the guy section too because
their opinion would help
aswell.
sure thing
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sweetdreamer1912
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Nov 2006 Posts: 74 Location: NY
Posted: 11-29-06 00:53am
I agree with the post above me.. But have
you sat down and talk to him about how you
really feel about the whole situation. I
mean guys who are in a relationship with
someone else and had sex with someone else
.. Would feel guilty about that but to
your situation.. I have never seen or
hear a story like this before. I think
you should sit down and talk to him and
see whats really going on with him and why
it digust him after sex.. I mean alot of
guys should be proud of their girl and
enjoy sex with a beauitful girl but
instead of that .. That saying.. Ya
know.. But talk to him and get more
opinions
Actually, I used to do this to my old
boyfriends. I would hate anything sexual
afterwards and everything disgusted
me--just like how you described him
(except I wasn't as mean to say out loud
that I didn't like to see my partner
naked- that's pretty bad). It wasn't
that I didnt physically like sex (bc I do)
but it was something a lot deeper... You
need to confront him about this because it
is most likely something psychological he
is dealing with. If you do not reach him
then I would say that you guys aren't
right for each other bc he's not
completely comfortable around you with his
emotions and he's not even omfortable with
you and himself after sex. Maybe he
doesn't completely understand why he's
like that...But he needs to figure it out
quick so you don't feel how he's making
you feel and so he can hopefully not feel
awful after sex. I hope this helps.
Good luck.
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 11-29-06 04:06am
Just to add if/when you decide to talk to
him don't do it after/during sex - do it
at a time when sex isn't an issue because
otherwise you risk pushing him away.
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Stu
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2005 Posts: 39 Location: United Kingdom
Re: After My Bf Orgasms. Posted: 11-29-06 05:28am
sprickles58
wrote:
yesterday, my boyfriend told
me that after he orgasms, he doesn't want
to be touched or to touch me and sometimes
he just wants to be alone and get away
from anything sex-related. He said
that, for about a minute or so after he
pulls out of me, anything having to do
with sex practically disgusts him,
including my naked body. I feel like
he called me disgusting. I'm already
sensitive about my body and how I am
sexually and this really hurt me. I
still feel upset today and feel like my
body disgusts him. I
don't want to feel this way. I've
been looking for anything on the net to
tell me if this is normal and to help
myself understand this. I know it's
not his fault but it hurts. Do other
guys feel this way? Why? Is
there anything I can do or do I just have
to let him roll away from me? I feel
like i'm dirty or something when he moves
away from me like that. I don't want
this to bother me but it does. Please
help!
hi sprickles58,
it would be interesting to know some more
about your relationship before offering my
thoughts. How long have you guys been
together? How much closeness do you
share away from sexual situations? I
mean, is he generally warm and loving
towards you? Does he like to hug you,
kiss you often, etc? And how attentive
to your needs is he during sex? Does he
spend time to make you feel good or is it
all over fairly quickly?
I have some thoughts, as a guy, but I
would like to know a little more just to
be sure that what I am thinking is
correct. If you can provide answers to
my questions then I will reply with my
thoughts.
I
don't want to feel this way. I've been
looking for anything on the net to tell me
if this is normal and to help myself
understand this. I know it's not his
fault but it hurts. Do other guys feel
this way? Why? Is there anything I
can do or do I just have to let him roll
away from me? I feel like i'm dirty or
something when he moves away from me like
that. I don't want this to bother me
but it does. Please help!
