Hey, I am brand new to these forums and this is my first time posting. I am just wondering if anyone else is in my situation or have any advice. I am a 20 year old college student, my girlfriend is 21 and only has 1 semester left of college. We have been dating for over 2 years. About a year ago she had surgery to remove a cyst from her ovaries. The operation went very well but she still has endometriosis which causes dyspareunia (pain during intercourse). She says it is a lifelong condition that will never get better or go away. I have tried reading things and looking up information but that is basically the answer that I get. We don't have sex really, we have done it a few times but it has been close to a year since we last tried it. It just hurts her so much and I don't want to hurt her so I wont do it if it hurts. But it is just so frustrating to have life without sex. I love her deeply and if things keep going the way they are I can see marrying her in a few years. But the whole sexual issue is the fly in the ointment in a manner of speaking. I mean every once in a while we will have oral sex with each other. But I think she is uncomfortable with me or with her body. She is so sexy and I tell her this but if anything it is getting worse. She will only perform oral sex on me maybe once or twice a month and at that I have to almost beg her to do it which is such a turn off. Also she almost never lets me perform oral sex on her and I don't know why because I know she always enjoys it. She is rather well endowed (busty) and I am a huge fan of that. But over the last year she has become extremely reserved about them and stops me if I try to squeeze them or play with them. I think she is afraid that if she allows me to that I will want more and she does not want to do any more. It is just frustrating having a girlfriend with no sex drive. I love her so much and I just want her to be happy but what do I do when something that would make me happy conflicts with something that makes her happy?

I don't know, just any advice from anyone out there or if anyone out there has dyspareunia and advice about it I would greatly appreciate it.

Thank you
bob