Its perfectly normal to feel the blues after having your little one. And don't feel bad if you do need to take something to beat the blues. As for daddy helping so much be greatful!!! I was in your shoes with our first and totally took her over now it's like pulling teeth most times to get him to help. We are expecting #4 and always have complications i'm 26 and feel totally alone. Treasure the help and love you get, your luckier than you know. Try to be happy. Its not wronge to wanna take sometime to yourself.
kristi

Dont feel bad that you enjoyed a little time away from her. We all need a break at times, being a mom is a 24/7 job, its a nice feeling when someone else is looking after your baby and you dont have to be thinking ...Is she ok? What does she need? Should I do this? Should I do that? Am I doing it right? What else should I do? Etc so of course you should enjoy not having the responsibility of those things for a little while.


I cried in the hospital after I had my son, for 2 days on and off, think it was all the emotions from going through labour. But they say its normal to experience times like that during the first few days/week I think.


I'd definately go to the doctor if you feel like this for much longer tho, dont be ashamed if you need to ask him for help! Theres hundreds of moms going through the same thing and taking meds to help how they feel. Theres nothing wrong with having to do that. At least they are brave enough to ask for help. Its better than letting yourself feel worse and worse and not admitting you need a bit of help.

I felt the exact same way! I was fine for the first two days or so after he was born but after that .I would cry for no reason. Mine was pretty bad for about 2-3 weeks but after that, each day just kept getting a little bit better. I felt like .I was never going to feel better, but trust me, you will. Please feel free to pm me if you want to talk or anything.

Normal! All normal! For about 5 days after my son was born I was bursting into tears over anything and worrying about crazy stuff like "what if my husband dies? What will I do?" I felt so vulnerable and felt this overwhelming responsibilty. Once the hormones wore off I wasn't so bad. Saying that though, I did find that I became depressed as time went on and eventually, when my son was about 15 months old I was diagnosed with post natal depression and given anti-depressants. I am now full of beans again and back to my normal self.

If you think you are not getting better then there is no shame in getting some help. I put it off for ages but getting help was the best thing I did. I am now a happy mummy again!

I feel the same way, I think it's normal. I've cried a little bit every day since being home, it's just the hormones. Tuesday I woke up and knew I was going to have a bad day and sure enough I was very emotional and cried on and off all day. More than once nick mentioned wanting to have sex and wanting me to ask my doctor when we could and I just cried because I feel so wrecked and disgusting and can't imagine him wanting to have sex with me. Later we were snuggled on the couch together and he was feeding finn and I was just overcome with emotion and cried because I was so in love with my family. Then yesterday I was fine and didn't cry at all. Somedays are better than others, my doctor (actually finn's pediatrician) told me to expect this for about 4 weeks and if it goes longer than that to tell him.

I think the c-section makes things a little worse. I cried a lot when we first got home because I felt like I couldn't do anything for my baby. If he cried at night nick was the one to get him because it was such a struggle for me to get up, and I couldn't get him out of his swing or bouncer because I couldn't bend over. I just wanted to take care of my baby like a normal mother. I've totally taken over in the last few days (today especially since nick went back to work) but I still feel like finn likes nick better because he was the one who tended to him the most since birth. Finn is so fussy when he's awake and I have a hard time settling him down (it doesn't help that I get upset and frustrated because of the hormones) but then nick takes him and he'll pretty much settle down immediately. I need to stop talking about this because it's making me teary right now, even though I know deep down that he doesn't like his daddy better than me.

Sorry for rambling.

Give it time and you should notice things getting better. If not, there's nothing wrong with needing some meds to help you along.

I didnt' have much help during my recovery period. My brother in law was round and he was a huge help but I did most everything myself. I had a c-section and I was up and down and everything....I wasnt' going to let anyone have that bonding that I was suppost to have.

I can't really relate to you because I don't want to be away from my skoot. But if you think that you need some help get it now before it gets worse. I am not saying that you will get worse but just in case you may need something to help you for right now. It's nothing to be ashaimed of.

Yeah I have to agree its all normal. With my second daughter I felt horrible after I had her I had no idea if what I was feeling was normal or not I so I just tried to ignore it which was the wrong answer. When she was 2 months old I was at my worst. I had my mother in law come get my kids so I could try and kill myself. My in laws thought something was wrong but came got my kids and when they tried to call me when they got home and I did not answer they called an ambulance. I was hospitalized for a week. I was told that I was within 10 mins of dying. All that just cause I ignored the baby blues. So dont be ashamed to get help if your baby blues get real bad.

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please get you some help. What chase said is extreemely common and happens to millions of poeple!!

Don't let pride get in the way of talking to your doctor. That's what he's there for.

Nobody will judge you for admitting to postpardom depression. I have it.
But it's controled by .Lexapro. Ask your doctor about this med. It has no serious side effects and helps take the edge off.


Sarah

i definetly don't want to be away from her, I was just suprised that I was relieved to be away from teh stress for an hour while I was at the doctor. When I got back I felt refreshed. I don't want anyone to think that I .W.A.N.T to be away from her.

Congratulations on your beautiful baby. First thing, what you are going through is perfectly normal. Most moms go through this at least one pregnancy. Secondly, taking medicine is not a bad thing. Sometimes, it can get you over the feelings so that you can enjoy the time with your baby. It doesn't have to be something that you take forever. Keep that in mind. Good thoughts coming your way!

It's completely normal to feel that way! But I agree, if it gets any worse, definitely go see a doctor and get some treatment! Congratulations on your little bundle of joy! She's gorgeous!

Thanks guys. This really made me feel better knowing that i'm not alone. This morning she was crying her eyes out and my mom couldn't do anything with her. She said, "do you want her, she may stop." I said, "it won't help but we could try." well as soon as my mom put her on me she stopped crying. All she wanted was her momma. It made me happy. I love my baby girl.

Hi jessesgirl

Baby blues is quite normal, I remember when I had my daughter in Oct last year, like you hospital was great, but when we got home I just broke down. The first week at home was the worst, I was just so emotional, overwhelmed and thinking about the huge responsiblity ahead, hoping that no harm would ever come to my baby, and that I would be able to stop anything bad from ever happening to her.

Just remember your hormones change after giving birth, and give you an emotional effect, one time you may be feeling down, and another, you may be feeling overjoyed.

Hopefully, your hormones will settle down and you can enjoy motherhood, it's a bit daunting at the start, but you soon get the hang of it and love it.

As for enjoying time to yourself, that's perfectly normal as well, you still need 'my time' after you've had you're little one.

Take care, and enjoy motherhood. If the baby blues seem to be lasting longer than expected, you should see your doctor though.