I don't think a man should feel any of those things because of a vibrator. Because guess what? Everyone masturbates. That's right, everyone. Sure there is like 2% of the population that doesn't, but the rest do. And what do people do when they masturbate? They do what feels good, and if a vibrator feels good then they do that.
So that would be like me getting jealous of my boyfriend's hand. I don't think it should be insulting at all because people aren't always in the mood for sex. Sometimes people are tired, sick, out of town, whatever... So if your partner is not in the mood for whatever reason and you are, why not go for it?
If it was dinner time and your partner wasn't hungry would you eat anyway? Sure you would, same principle with sex.
You can't compare a person to a sex toy, it's not even on the same level.

Maia, very good points.

So, a person should not feel insecure or hurt?

I agree. Is there anyone out there that does not agree. Is there anyone reading this that thinks the man has the right to be pissed off about his wife using a vibrator.

Is there anyone that has had an experience similar to what we are talking about? What was your reaction, and how did you solve the problem?

i don't think so. If they do feel insecure or hurt it would probably be because they aren't looking at it the right way or don't fully understand the situation.
This is another example of why communication in a relationship is so vital.

The only reason I could understand if a man were to be upset by this, is if the woman is using a vibrator [all the time] in place of sex with her man. If that's the case, then yeah it's wrong. But I have my doubts that there are a lot of women who are like that, unless their man really does not know how to use his tool and she's fed up with that.

A vibrator is not a big deal I can assure you. That's not something people get in a tangle over. Now guys and their porno, could be a different story.

I too am "jealous" of a vibrator/dildo. In my case though its my lack of size and stamina that makes me feel insecure.

I agree w/ deebaby! But the only time I use mine is when me and dh are very into it. And it actually turns him on even more!!!!!!! Btw tell your friend to place it on his g spot (spot between base of penis and anal area)just before he's ready to do his thing......Omg what a difference that makes...Or so dh said it did!!!!

My ex boyfriend would always masturbate to porn (of course, what guy doesn't) and that interfered with our sex life. My boyfriend never wanted to have sex. So of course that mad me mad, so I bought a vibrator. My boyfriend was mad that I used it, but I let him know exactly how I felt about him masturbating to porn! In my current relationship, my bf's masturbating to porn and me using my vibrator doesn't bother either of us because we have a decent sex life. :p

my bf encouraged me to get a vibrator. Cus he wanted me be able to use it if he was away or wasnt in the mood. And he likes watching me use, it and he uses it on me, he loves it. He's not jealous of it, and knows its not a replacement.

On the other hand, his bestfriend found one in his girlfriends closet, and his friend freaked, and cut it up, and put it in a brown paper bag and took it to the place of her work, and in front of everyone he said heres your dildo. My bf thought it was really dumb. And doesnt see anything wrong with a woman having one.

Haha i'd be mad as hell if someone did that to mine!

thats just disrespectful and its grounds for break up!

Agreed. Dump the jerk.

you dont know caca, its funny when I post things you like to over talk me.

]what if she uses a dildo a big one
then ur gf/wife got a sloppy loose vagina and thats sick
i vibro is good if it isnt big acually sorta small
becuz a gurl can loosen a her vagina up with a big one
then ur botfriend leave cuz he doesnt want to have sex with a loose vagina.

I think that a man or a woman for that matter should never feel that way about toys. Toys are there to help make sex more fun for all involved, not to tell someone they can't do the job right or at all.

People who get mad or upset by this need to understand that it's something sexuall and fun and nothign that's ment to insult or hurt them. If they can't understand that then maybe it is time for someone new who is more aware and fun

just my two cents


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if she does kegal exercises she could keep it tight but, if someone is so shallow as to leave someone because they don't likie her vagina then she's best rid!

yeah that can happen but women can also get stretched out if they regularly have sex with a guy who is a lot larger than average... It's not just vibrators. But like moo said, kegel exercises take care of it all, so it's not even an issue for someone who takes care of themself properly.

Obviously you don't like loose vaginas but I doubt that anyone is forcing you to f*ck one, so is it even an issue? No, it's not.

My hubby gets very jealous when I use mine. So I dont use it. Yeah that sucks, but if he doesnt want me to, I can still use my hand just like he can.

this is untrue. Vaginas are designed to stretch, and regular sex, rather than loosening a vagina, helps to exercise it and keep the muscles toned.

Ok, unless you like have sex with a brick or something.

If a guy is truly "jealous" of a sexual toy .. Then he's probably just insecure about his penis. There is no other way to put it.

That's like women being jealous of their boyfriends masturbating.. Why be jealous of a hand?

Dildo in place of sex in a relationship 24/7 = wrong.
Masturbation in place of sex in a relationship 24/7 = wrong.