Should I Be Jealous of a Vibrator? Posted: 11-11-06 16:56pm
Should a man be jealous, hurt, insulted,
inferior, or whatever over the fact his gf
or wife has and uses a vibrator? Should
he have the right to wish her to stop or
else he is leaving? Lastly, is such a man
being foolish and possibly controlling?
I would love to hear your opinions
please.
Btw this man in question, is not me. I am
just curious to what you all feel about
this particular topic.
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maia
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Joined: 12 Sep 2006 Posts: 49
Posted: 11-12-06 01:11am
I don't think a man should feel any of
those things because of a vibrator.
Because guess what? Everyone masturbates.
That's right, everyone. Sure there is
like 2% of the population that doesn't,
but the rest do. And what do people do
when they masturbate? They do what feels
good, and if a vibrator feels good then
they do that.
So that would be like me getting jealous
of my boyfriend's hand. I don't think it
should be insulting at all because people
aren't always in the mood for sex.
Sometimes people are tired, sick, out of
town, whatever... So if your partner is
not in the mood for whatever reason and
you are, why not go for it?
If it was dinner time and your partner
wasn't hungry would you eat anyway? Sure
you would, same principle with sex.
You can't compare a person to a sex toy,
it's not even on the same level.
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Makoto
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Joined: 16 Jul 2006 Posts: 263 Location: Japan
Posted: 11-12-06 22:19pm
Maia, very good points.
So, a person should not feel insecure or
hurt?
I agree. Is there anyone out there that
does not agree. Is there anyone reading
this that thinks the man has the right to
be pissed off about his wife using a
vibrator.
Is there anyone that has had an experience
similar to what we are talking about?
What was your reaction, and how did you
solve the problem?
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maia
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Joined: 12 Sep 2006 Posts: 49
Posted: 11-13-06 00:16am
makoto
wrote:
maia, very good points.
So, a person should not feel insecure or
hurt?
i don't think so. If they do feel
insecure or hurt it would probably be
because they aren't looking at it the
right way or don't fully understand the
situation.
This is another example of why
communication in a relationship is so
vital.
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deebaby621
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Joined: 08 Aug 2006 Posts: 251 Location: North Carolina
Posted: 11-13-06 08:29am
The only reason I could understand if a
man were to be upset by this, is if the
woman is using a vibrator [all the time]
in place of sex with her man. If that's
the case, then yeah it's wrong. But I
have my doubts that there are a lot of
women who are like that, unless their man
really does not know how to use his tool
and she's fed up with that.
A vibrator is not a big deal I can assure
you. That's not something people get in a
tangle over. Now guys and their porno,
could be a different story.
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tex789
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Joined: 11 Oct 2006 Posts: 29
Posted: 11-13-06 16:49pm
I too am "jealous" of a vibrator/dildo.
In my case though its my lack of size and
stamina that makes me feel insecure.
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GUEST120206
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Joined: 21 Sep 2006 Posts: 31
Posted: 11-13-06 23:15pm
I agree w/ deebaby! But the only time I
use mine is when me and dh are very into
it. And it actually turns him on even
more!!!!!!! Btw tell your friend to
place it on his g spot (spot between base
of penis and anal area)just before he's
ready to do his thing......Omg what a
difference that makes...Or so dh said it
did!!!!
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Honekaur
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Joined: 16 May 2006 Posts: 56
Well... Posted: 11-14-06 00:58am
My ex boyfriend would always masturbate to
porn (of course, what guy doesn't) and
that interfered with our sex life. My
boyfriend never wanted to have sex. So
of course that mad me mad, so I bought a
vibrator. My boyfriend was mad that I
used it, but I let him know exactly how I
felt about him masturbating to porn! In
my current relationship, my bf's
masturbating to porn and me using my
vibrator doesn't bother either of us
because we have a decent sex life. :p
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lucy376
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Joined: 14 Nov 2006 Posts: 11
Re: Should I Be Jealous of a Vibrator? Posted: 11-14-06 23:45pm
makoto
wrote:
should a man be jealous,
hurt, insulted, inferior, or whatever over
the fact his gf or wife has and uses a
vibrator? Should he have the right to
wish her to stop or else he is leaving?
Lastly, is such a man being foolish and
possibly controlling?
I would love to hear your opinions
please.
Btw this man in question, is not me. I
am just curious to what you all feel about
this particular
topic.
my bf encouraged me to get a vibrator.
Cus he wanted me be able to use it if he
was away or wasnt in the mood. And he
likes watching me use, it and he uses it
on me, he loves it. He's not jealous of
it, and knows its not a replacement.
On the other hand, his bestfriend found
one in his girlfriends closet, and his
friend freaked, and cut it up, and put it
in a brown paper bag and took it to the
place of her work, and in front of
everyone he said heres your dildo. My bf
thought it was really dumb. And doesnt
see anything wrong with a woman having
one.
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deebaby621
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Joined: 08 Aug 2006 Posts: 251 Location: North Carolina
Posted: 11-15-06 07:36am
Haha i'd be mad as hell if someone did
that to mine!
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Re: Should I Be Jealous of a Vibrator? Posted: 11-16-06 15:50pm
lucy376
wrote:
on the other hand, his bestfriend found
one in his girlfriends closet, and his
friend freaked, and cut it up, and put it
in a brown paper bag and took it to the
place of her work, and in front of
everyone he said heres your dildo. My bf
thought it was really dumb. And doesnt
see anything wrong with a woman having
one.
thats just
disrespectful and its grounds for break
up!
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Makoto
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Joined: 16 Jul 2006 Posts: 263 Location: Japan
Posted: 11-20-06 09:09am
Agreed. Dump the jerk.
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lucy376
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Joined: 14 Nov 2006 Posts: 11
Re: Should I Be Jealous of a Vibrator? Posted: 11-22-06 10:29am
melissa_20
wrote:
lucy376
wrote:
on the other hand, his bestfriend found
one in his girlfriends closet, and his
friend freaked, and cut it up, and put it
in a brown paper bag and took it to the
place of her work, and in front of
everyone he said heres your dildo. My
bf thought it was really dumb. And
doesnt see anything wrong with a woman
having one.
thats just
disrespectful and its grounds for break
up!
you dont know caca, its funny when I post
things you like to over talk me.
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artcnun182
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Joined: 30 Nov 2006 Posts: 2 Location: moon
Posted: 11-30-06 21:11pm
maia
wrote:
i don't think a man should
feel any of those things because of a
vibrator. Because guess what? Everyone
masturbates. That's right, everyone.
Sure there is like 2% of the population
that doesn't, but the rest do. And what
do people do when they masturbate? They
do what feels good, and if a vibrator
feels good then they do that.
So that would be like me getting jealous
of my boyfriend's hand. I don't think it
should be insulting at all because people
aren't always in the mood for sex.
Sometimes people are tired, sick, out of
town, whatever... So if your partner is
not in the mood for whatever reason and
you are, why not go for it?
If it was dinner time and your partner
wasn't hungry would you eat anyway? Sure
you would, same principle with sex.
You can't compare a person to a sex toy,
it's not even on the same
level.
]what if she uses a dildo a big one
then ur gf/wife got a sloppy loose vagina
and thats sick
i vibro is good if it isnt big acually
sorta small
becuz a gurl can loosen a her vagina up
with a big one
then ur botfriend leave cuz he doesnt want
to have sex with a loose vagina.
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sandy78
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Joined: 10 Mar 2006 Posts: 81 Location: Cali.
Posted: 12-04-06 08:08am
I think that a man or a woman for that
matter should never feel that way about
toys. Toys are there to help make sex
more fun for all involved, not to tell
someone they can't do the job right or at
all.
People who get mad or upset by this need
to understand that it's something sexuall
and fun and nothign that's ment to insult
or hurt them. If they can't understand
that then maybe it is time for someone new
who is more aware and fun
just my two cents
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Moo
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Posted: 12-04-06 08:43am
artcnun182
wrote:
what if she uses a dildo a big one
then ur gf/wife got a sloppy loose vagina
and thats sick
i vibro is good if it isnt big acually
sorta small
becuz a gurl can loosen a her vagina up
with a big one
then ur botfriend leave cuz he doesnt want
to have sex with a loose
vagina.
if she does kegal exercises she could keep
it tight but, if someone is so shallow as
to leave someone because they don't likie
her vagina then she's best rid!
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maia
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Joined: 12 Sep 2006 Posts: 49
Posted: 12-04-06 16:16pm
artcnun182
wrote:
]what if she uses a dildo a big one
then ur gf/wife got a sloppy loose vagina
and thats sick
i vibro is good if it isnt big acually
sorta small
becuz a gurl can loosen a her vagina up
with a big one
then ur botfriend leave cuz he doesnt want
to have sex with a loose
vagina.
yeah that can happen but women can also
get stretched out if they regularly have
sex with a guy who is a lot larger than
average... It's not just vibrators. But
like moo said, kegel exercises take care
of it all, so it's not even an issue for
someone who takes care of themself
properly.
Obviously you don't like loose vaginas but
I doubt that anyone is forcing you to f*ck
one, so is it even an issue? No, it's
not.
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pumpkine0011
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Joined: 02 Dec 2006 Posts: 135 Location: CO
Yeah Posted: 12-29-06 21:20pm
My hubby gets very jealous when I use
mine. So I dont use it. Yeah that sucks,
but if he doesnt want me to, I can still
use my hand just like he can.
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fiona05
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Joined: 21 Dec 2005 Posts: 663 Location: , Norn Iron
Posted: 12-30-06 08:11am
artcnun182
wrote:
]what if she uses a dildo a big one
then ur gf/wife got a sloppy loose vagina
and thats sick
i vibro is good if it isnt big acually
sorta small
becuz a gurl can loosen a her vagina up
with a big one
then ur botfriend leave cuz he doesnt want
to have sex with a loose
vagina.
this is untrue. Vaginas are designed to
stretch, and regular sex, rather than
loosening a vagina, helps to exercise it
and keep the muscles toned.
Ok, unless you like have sex with a brick
or something.
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deebaby621
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Aug 2006 Posts: 251 Location: North Carolina
Posted: 01-01-07 16:52pm
If a guy is truly "jealous" of a sexual
toy .. Then he's probably just insecure
about his penis. There is no other way to
put it.
That's like women being jealous of their
boyfriends masturbating.. Why be jealous
of a hand?
Dildo in place of sex in a relationship
24/7 = wrong.
Masturbation in place of sex in a
relationship 24/7 = wrong.
