I am really sorry to hear about what is going on right now. As much as I want to give you the words that will make it all better, I cannot. I know that there is a reason that you have come on to this forum. You know that we can give you advice here and tell you what we think you should do, but ultimately, I believe you already know what to do, and what you want out of life.

In my opinion, it seems like your wife doesn't have much respect for you or her family. I am truly sorry for your pain and hurting, but can only suggest help of someone who knows about custody laws, (for you to be able to keep your children), if you decide to leave. I don't know how your home life is, but I do know that you have many decisions to make about where you want your life to be years down the road.

I do wish you luck, with all of your endeavors, and hope nothing but wonderful things come of this. Take care..

I know the feeling of the words "staying together for the kids" I was saying the same thing. But when it comes down to it when the kids are old enough to see that there is unhappiness between their parents they begin to have conflict with it themselves. Kids can not only see unhappiness they can sense it also through body language, facial expression, voice tone, mood changes towards them and much more. You and your wife need to "fix" the problem between the two of you for the kids sake not stay together for the kids sake. If counceling is the answer then thats great but if taking different paths has to happen then that is sometimes what has to happen so that you can be happy again for the kids.

Ask your self what is going to happen if you do stay till the kids are grownup and gone? Would you continue in the relationship or would you move on? The hard part about staying then leaving when the kids grow up this might hurt the kids more because they would feel that they may have been the ones that kept you there and would feel quilt over you not finding happiness.