My husband tryed to pull that crap and wanted me to go out with him and watch him and his friends drink. I put my foot down and told him its me or his damn drinking. I told him you got kids on the way its time to grow up. And he aint been out drinking since

I tried explainin that caca to my husband last night, and he got all pissy, and thinsk he should be allowed to get a doing it break every once ina while, um I dont get a break from being amom ya know, last night when he wanted to go out he asked if I wanted to go with him , I was um I have a child to watch , I wasnt ab out to ask our friend to babysit, and he was like ooh and you can be the designated driver . Um yea right lmao. I think not, im not going to a club or bar at 8 mths pregnant no thanks. Its after midnight now I might stay up till 2am and leav a nasty note if he isnt home because he said he wasnt gonna be out all night, last night his friends went out and his friend came to our house at 7am this morning drunk, a friend dropped him off at our house , I really dunno why he has a room at the barraks so he slept on the couch in the basement till 4pm so I think they will be out all night. They are single no wives or girlfriends or kids so they could care less. Ijust cant stand this and teh fact he thinks he can do it mroe often when im not pregnant anymore ugh .
Why get married when hes not acting like a aparent, I might as well be a single mom

I only read the first couple senetences, but it sounds like he needs a bit(h smacking!

If it is what you feel, then it isn't wrong.

However, I have a completely different opinion on the entire situation. I'm not saying that he should be going out, but why wouldn't he be 'allowed' a night out? If you want a night out, that should be your right just as much as it is his. I wouldn't even ask him if he'd watch the baby, i'd tell him when I was going and that he was watching the baby - if that is what he has done.

Relationships are a two way street and, yes, everyone needs space and their own time and their own friends. The dynamic you two have together now is the one you will carry with you into the future. So if he feels like it is ok not to change diapers now, he'll continue to feel like it is ok not to change diapers in the future until you let him know you don't feel it is ok.

Does any of this make sense?

Its the fact that he did this before he went out with no phone to I dunno where with I dunno who and showed up noon the next day expecting me not to be pissed at him , its 6am not and he isnt home, for all iknow he could be dead, I have no way of getting a hold of him or anything, hes ruined his little having his own space caca , said he wasnt gonna be out late um its the next morning now, its like he wants a divorce or he wouldnt pull this crap twice

Igni is right, that relationships are a two way street &that both partners need their own space.. But all in moderation. Or it should at least be done maturely.. What your husband is doing is completely ridiculous. If .Chris pulled caca like that, he'd be out the door in 2 seconds. I do let him drink with his friends once every two weeks, but he knows the rules. He stays where he is- which is always at his friend .Jon's house, &he knows that .I'm going to call him every so often to check up on him &make sure they haven't left the house &are being safe. He knows .I hate it, so sometimes he doesn't even do it. I know he needs his friends &everything, but he knows that he has to be mature &act like a man if .I'm going to be okay with him doing these kinds of things.

My husband is acting very immature, woulda kinda been smart to bring his cell in case something happeend but a drunk person would do me no good if they couldnt drive me to the hospital ya know, it wasnt so bad when I was like 24 weeks and he came home at 1am but doing it again and not coming home till noon then laughing about it when he walks in with his stupid friends ugh , I didntknow where he was, I really dont know where he is right now, for all I know hecould be dead, coulda wrecked his car and be walking along the autbahn I dunno, I tried to be nice and let him go out but its hard to do when he pulls this crap twice in a row its nearing 7am gonna get light out soon. I have a feeling he wont be home till like noon or something and bring hsi stupid friends in with him . And I dont care if hes tired he aint going to bed, I got 3 hrs of sleep and icant go to bed I have my son to watch since he doesnt act like josephs his kid at all so im not gonna say our when he barely even changes the diapers . All he does is carry joseph to bed atnight thats it pretty much

.That really upsets me. You honestly should start thinking about getting rid of him if he pulls this kind of caca. It isn't fair for you to have to deal with it.

I know, I have a feeling he will have a caca excuse when and if he comes home. I am temtped to like call his sgt at 8am and ask if hes seen my husband becuas eim 8 mths pregnant and I dunno where he is or how to ge tahold of him and he left at 6pm to get drunk and havent heard from him since. They would be on his butt tuesday morning at work haha

Wow...How do you know he is not out cheating on you when he doesnt come back until the next day? To me, that would be a red flag. I would not tolerate that.

Ya know I dont know for sure, but last time he went out there designated driver got drunk and walked off they couldnt find him they waited till 11am the next day and hubby was the only one with alicense and somehow had the guys keys so he drove the guys van back and he got a taxi back, he went out with the same guys and he might abeen the one driving, and he wanted to get drunk so yeah they are prob passed out in his car or he drove drunk and is dead , I dunno. He wants wedding rings thrown in his face
thats what I think. I wish I was still 20 something weeks pregnatn so I could get on aplane and leave

Sounds like you dont even mind if you guys split up...Youre a strong woman!! I think you should sit him down and have a serious talk!
How is living in germany by the way? I was there 2 summers ago.

... Show him the finger - that points towards the door !!!
He's no good. He obviously doesn't care about you nor your kids, so it's time to let go. This has happened way 2 many times - you gotta stand up for yourself and "kick him where it hurts"
although it would just be a big relief for him... Not having to take care of kids. But at least you won't be going through all this bull*ht you are now.
There are many single mommys out there - and believe me when I tell you, you're gonna be ok!
There's a person out there that deserves to have you as their wife, so don't think twice about this, get out and leave - or show him the door!

We're here with support whenever you need it! Even if it is through a forum.

The thing is I wish I cuold jump on aplane right now id be gone and he would be beating himself up. He is ruining it for himself and he should know by now.
Ive only been here for 4 mths wich sucks because I dont even know how to get to the hospital by myself and its an hrs drive. We are far from everything here, he went to a city and those are all like an hr away here too so yeah thats smart, leave your pregnant wife at home with your 15 mth old son when she can go into labor anyday. Its not 7am no idea where he is. I hate being here and being alone, I dont even know the number to 911 here its different or the number to the hospital or anything. So im like screwed basically when he goes out. And omg if he thinks he is going out again anytime in germany he better rethink that, he ruined it twice doing this he asks me to get drunk anytime after this I will tell him yea once he files divorce papers and im on aplane back to fla with my kids then he can get drunk all he wants

I cant even imagine how hard that must be in a different country! You need to ask him what the helll he expects you to do if yo go into labor and he is gone. Do you speak the language at all by the way?

Yeah I know no german, itold him that last night when he wanted to go out but didnt, but he was like oh are u gonan go into labor tonight im like how would I know but you dont , I told him there was no point to bringing his phone with him cuzif I went into labor whats he gonna do drive drunk and kill himself if he had to drive an hr to get back home.
I feel like a single mom, he gets mad if I say he doesnt act like a father but its true, he wouldnt do this if he were a realfather and husband. He needs some sorta counceling and parenting class. Im tempted to leave a note on the garage and tell him he can come in the house when he learns to grow up and act like a man that is married with a child and another on the way. Its like I dont get the point why im here, we dont even go out together anywhere anymore, he hates going anywhere unless it involves alcohol, he got mad at me for tipping 12 pk of beer down the sink that has been sitting on our counter for a month. Usign the excuse that I like to go out and drink once ina while is just stupid, u dont need alcohol for any reason its adumb excuse, I dont care that he works , I work 24/7 I cant just up and leave my job as a mom because it wears me out, he thinks its apiece of cake but he isnt home all day with joseph to know what joseph does all day or why im ina bad mood when he gets off work when josephs acting like a holy terror, he gets mad that the house isnt clean perfectly, when I busted my butt all week cleaning and it killed my back doing so but he doesnt help at all other then to help make the mess. I have to get mad at him for him to get up and help clean then hes mad at me all day for it, just because I dont go to work out side of the house doesnt mean its a walk in the park being expected to do everything in the house with no help from him at all. The house is a mess right now and its staying that way and when my son wakes up if he throw his fruit loops on the floor they are stayin right there, he hates the way it looks he can clean it himself. I dont care if it makes him embarrassed if his friends come back with him wich im sure they will if he shows up today. Buta t 10 or 11am im going to the grocery store to get my wic stuff cuz we need milk for my son . I doubt he will be home then, the fool went out without ajacket too and its like 30 degrees here, there is frost on the grass. I will be alot more mad if he used his credit card to buy ajacket too, he has like 5 at home. I guess he thinks its ok to blow money on alcohol when we got a baby due in 6 weeks that still needs things becus ei didnt find otu the sex until I was 32 weeks along so we didnt buy much before until we knew what we were having and now we dont have as much money as we did before . But eh he thinks its ok cuz he spent 150 on my coat yesterday, when I dont own one and we get snow like crazy here in the winter that can last until april. Its like he assumes he does stuff like taht for me and it justifies his actions, I could care less they are material things, hell I can bring the coat back to the px ifi wanted to but the fact is it was a neccesity and that was the cheapest womens coat we found cuz he didnt want to drive an hr anywhere else. Im not even gonna b other lookin for him on base today I dont have enough gas to be wasting it and I dont feel like going to the gas station with my son because they dont have pay at the pump deal here and I dont wanna have to get my son out the car just to pay, I got enough to get to the grocery store and home.
Im mad that also none of his friends have cell phones, I only know 2 guys names he went out with well 3 if the other one went out but they live in the barraks and dont have phones.
I am soooooooooooo lookin forward to hearign what he has to say when and if he comes home lmao. There is no excuse to getting drunk. And he better not think buyin me ap resents gonna make me happy and in a good mood with him either he tried that last time.

Girl leave him that note telling him to come back when he grows up!!!

Seriously girl, you need to leave him! Get on that plane if you have to. You shouldn't have to tolerate this kind of behavior when you have a 15 month old son &a baby on the way. You can do it on your own, since you already are! Leave him, for sure. We're here for you!

Did he come home yet?