This Is Really Hard For Me... (Page 1)

No one is a hypocrite for learning new things and changing their mind. If new information came to light proving to the world that god was the giant spaghetti monsters, well, i'd be converting. I'm not trying to trivialize it, I truly mean this. The nice thing about having ideas and not beliefs, is that it is easy to change your mind, but it is a hard to change a belief.

Paganangel, I feel very much the same. I have pro-life sympathies and am pro-life for myself but I also don't think that abortion should be illegal because of the risks to the women involved. I do get angry when I hear of women aborting left, right and centre because I struggle with the morality of abortion. However, I consider myself still learning on this subject and I am seeking the answers I am comfortable with for myself. It sounds like you have already found your answer and that is excellent.

I've found that some pro-lifers can be too rigid in their view of the world and when religion gets brought into the equation it can become even more judgemental. However, to add balance to that statement, I also find that some pro-choicers can be unnecessarily combative and unwilling to accept that some women have a right to grieve their abortions.

I don't think there's any shame in changing your opinion on a subject. On the contrary it shows that you are an open minded individual.

Respect to you.

Humility is bliss. Good for you!

I can certainly empathize with your statements-i can understand (some) of the prolife arguments, and I wish for the need for abortion to be eliminated, but I do not think I nor the gov't, is omnipotent.

Kudos to you! :d

Religion doesn't come into it for me.

I still haven't found a term for what I truly am on the whole issue.

I mean, technically I must be pro-choice as I had an abortion after I was raped - almost 10 years ago.

But, I can't accept ow some people use abortion as a form of birth control - the whole "yeah, it won't happen to me and if it does, then i'll just have an abortion" - that is what I find wrong.

But I wouldn't want it illegalised because that would lead to back street abortions.

What I want to see is people encouraged to wait, better birth control education, better sex ed all round - better prevention.

Here in the uk there really is no reason to not use birth control.
Your family doctor can not tell your parents (or anyone else) if he prescribes birth control meds to you.
Birth control is free in this country to everyone.
Sure condoms are priced in the shops but can be obtained from any family planning or well woman clinic free.
With that availability I can not understand why there are so many accidental pregnancies.

I believe abortion does have it's place (rapes, incest, severe medical risk to mother or baby, etc) just that it should be discouraged and be more of a "last resort" rather than the norm...

Does that make sense?

Kinda like if you injure your leg badly - you don't say "oh what the heck, amputate it", you try to see if there is a less drastic option first and then amputate if there isn't.

***edit to add***
also the morning after pill is also available free from your doctor or family planning clinic (in the uk) and even if you leave it too late for the map - the iud/ius can be fitted upto 10 days post coital to prevent pregnancy - so yeah no real excuses.

Pagan-angel you can still be pro-life your just more openminded now!!


Pro-life means so much more than than just saving the fetuses life, it actually means protecting the life that is already here on this world and fetuses actually come second not to seem rude! My mother is pro-life she has 6 kids she also lost 3 one being etopic but I accept her views and although I know she wouldn't hate me for having an abortion she would just disagree and state my other options!

Now the thing is my mom stood beside someone who was so strongly for abortion and supported that person, although she disagreed with it.

I agree with nearly everything that everyone has said. I was worried about writing these because I figured I would be blasted.

I just got really mad in one post when someone told me that I should do something that I didn't want to do and it got me thinking. I couldn't imagine being told no you can't or yes you have to do this.

Like I said...I'm still very much pro-life for myself and I still feel bad that a fetus/embryo/zygote is being destroyed but what these women do has no affect on my life.

I was thinking about the gay marriage thing and wondering how can people be so against it when it in no way, shape or form hurts them and that's when it really hit me.

Better birth control, better sex education....I agree 100% this is what we really need!!

Paganangel - having a change of opinion is nothing to be ashamed of, it's a simple fact of being more understanding about those who actually have abortions and I applaud you for having the courage to make this post.

Don't do it wow this place has changed but I never expected you to compromise your beleifs hun but saying that looking at the state of this board it is hardly surprising that a lot of pro lifers feel railroaded into thinking they are turning but not you hun you and I both know that once you have thought it through you will realise that we are the ones that care not them .

I'm not sure yet wether I will be back for good yet hun but I will be lurking if you want me yell give big man a hug from me

laters hun
fishx

The last two posts are from the same person!

Why should she not change her mind, none of us have stated she needs to change sides because that is her decision to make and not yours!

People have a right to make choice and for someone to tell her she needs to stay where she is, is like telling someone they need to regress in life!

People who are open minded are pro-choice but it is possible to be prolife and still be openminded, some lots of pro-life dont see it that way though~!