Hi-
i've just moved to nyc and after two
agonizing weeks I have decided I need to
abort. I know all of you can understand
the pain behind this decision. I wanted
this baby and my partner too, but soon
after we found out I was pregnant he
started to talk about abortion. I now now
that he really doesn't want this baby and
I am absolutely not able to do it by
myself, emotionally, practically and
financially. So here I am, in a new city
where I don't know anyone yet, with three
jobs to survive and no health insurance.
I think I want to go to a private abortion
clinic but i'm overwhelmed by all these
ads... Do any of you can recommend one?
Thank you...
|
jenn_smithson
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Nov 2004 Posts: 808 Location: Texas
Re: Please Help, In Ny... Posted: 11-09-06 15:08pm
gaiagea
wrote:
hi-
i've just moved to nyc and after two
agonizing weeks I have decided I need to
abort. I know all of you can understand
the pain behind this decision. I wanted
this baby and my partner too, but soon
after we found out I was pregnant he
started to talk about abortion. I now
now that he really doesn't want this baby
and I am absolutely not able to do it by
myself, emotionally, practically and
financially. So here I am, in a new city
where I don't know anyone yet, with three
jobs to survive and no health insurance.
I think I want to go to a private abortion
clinic but i'm overwhelmed by all these
ads... Do any of you can recommend
one?
Thank you...
just make sure that this
is completely and totally your decision.
New york state and new york city actually
do more for their residents to help out in
the raising of children than most other
states and cities. You would be able to
find more programs open to you there than
anywhere else. Don't let your partner
make this decision for you because he may
not be around much. Make sure that this
decision is absolutely what .Y.O.U
need and want for .Y.O.U.R
life.
You should only choose an abortion if:
-you believe you have the right to end a
pregnancy
-you are unable or unwilling to maintain a
healthy pregnancy to term
-you are unable or unwilling to obtain
proper health care during pregnancy
-you are unable or unwilling to be
pregnant
if these options do not describe you or
your current situation, please think about
your options. I work for planned
parenthood and if you go in and speak to
one of their counselors, they may be
better able to help you discuss and go
through all of your options.
Keep us posted.
Peace,
jenn
|
sunshine424
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Nov 2005 Posts: 397 Location: New York
Posted: 11-12-06 11:51am
There is much help in ny state. I live in
ny state. It is very friendly to single
mothers. There is plenty of aid to those
who need it. You can apply for medicaid,
but if so, do so soon as it can take up to
90 days. Don't fret this though....They
will cover any and all expensese from the
date of application to 90 days. It covers
basically everything. There is aid for
childcare, assistance, everything......And
do not be ashamed if someone downs you for
"living off the system". It is there to
help you in a tough time. You will one
day get back on your feet and you will be
glad the assistance was there when you
needed it.
If you want this baby, you should birth
it. Do not abort based on your partner.
I'm confused on to why he voiced his wish
to have a child and now does not want one.
Sounds like he was living in a fairy tale
land until it became reality.
Nonetheless.....Do what .Y.O.U want to do.
It sounds like it was important to you to
have a child. So do so. Nothing is easy,
having a child is not easy even when you
plan it.
I became pregnant over 2 years ago,
unplanned, and I lived in nc away from all
my family. I was on my own. My then
boyfriend was semi-supportive at first. I
basically told him I would raise the child
w/o him if I had to and move back to ny.
This hit hard with him and he decided to
grow up and take responsibility. For
that I was thankful. But regardless, if
his decision was the opposite, I would
have found a way somehow. Now I have a
beautiful 18 month old little boy who
changed my life and is the love of my
life.
Good luck to you.
Jamie
|
Tazzy D
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 30 Oct 2004 Posts: 3718 Location: , va
Posted: 11-13-06 09:01am
I agree with jamie. I am a single mother
of 6 children. I do have a fiance now,
but I didnt then. It is all up to you.
Dont let anyone make a decision for you.
Make that decision for yourself. If you
feel that you need to get the abortion
then do so, but if ou feel that you wnat
to keep this baby and raise this baby then
do that as well. The choice is all yours.
I have gotten an abortion before as well.
So if you have any questions just ask....
Good luck to you and whatever decision
that you make
|
justgottaloveit
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2006 Posts: 45
Posted: 11-13-06 16:52pm
sunshine424
wrote:
my then boyfriend was
semi-supportive at
first.
dirty whore.
|
Tylanas
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jul 2005 Posts: 12985
Thanks: 3
Thanked:0
Posted: 11-13-06 17:43pm
justgottaloveit
wrote:
sunshine424
wrote:
my then boyfriend was
semi-supportive at
first.
dirty [edit].
this post is not conducive to the
discussion; it is not supportiev, and as
such, it needs to be removed.
