Wow, that defiently is a huge problem. I am supprised nobody has ever called the police on him before. Yeah chemical castration would work but it would leave him limp for life, he would never be able to get it up again. Personally I would say get him in the dating scene! Try internet dating, take him to bars and have him talk to random women, hell if it would keep him from jacking off in public take him to a weekly prostitute. You should also get him some physological (sp?) help.

Actually, chemical castration does not do anything to the desire to continue commiting these kinds of acts. Just because his penis would no longer become hard, doesn't mean he isn't going to keep flashing people.

They have proven that chemical castration does not prevent sexual assaults. They still happen, just differently than before.

How can he not prevent what he is doing? He has absolutely no control over whether he flashes someone or masturbates in front of them? It sounds like he needs some therapy and you need to call the police if you ever catch him doing something like that in front of your 8 year old daughter again.

That is child abuse and if anyone knew you allowed that kind of behavior - didn't report it - you could be in a lot of trouble. It is damaging to your daughter as well!

I would not allow any one with that kind of issue to be near my children. I don't care if it was my 'friend' or not. There is some serious problems with a man who cannot control his own sexuality.

Tell him he needs therapy and he needs to take ownership of his own deeds.

Yeah i know what he is doing is very serious, and he as been honest and open with my and said when he get horny and a hard on, he HAS TO masturbate either in public and private, but as told me he likes a female to see him masturbating or having orgasm, and as told me he as lost very personal friends through not controlling himself sexualy, i will admit he is more then a friend hes more like family, and im worried for him ive only caught him the once masturbatin to my daughter but told him that was a no no and if i caught or ever found out he had flashed her etc i wouldgoto my doctor aswell as police, but hes admitted to me i cant stop when hes hard heas to masturbate and likes to be seen, he lives with his mom and shes told me she catchs him alot, or he leaves signs for her to see so she knows what hes been doing, now i admit i did let him do it with me there as i didnt want him gettin into trouble maybe was a bad thing but me trying to be there for him of such, he as recently been seeing a shrink (female) as he says he cant talk about this to male therapists as to embarssed to admit hes 40 now and still a virgin, plus would find it hard to talk to a guy about his masturbating issues and erection issues, but he as also told me hes scared of telling her everythink even about my daughter and his frneds 14yr old daughter) that walked in on him masturbating in her parents toielt but says he didnt intend to do that, usualy a key in door but wasnt at the time, and the second day the same girl asked him to do it again and he said he cant and she so called put her foot on his crotch etc, to me he needs to tell the therapst eveyrthink especialy the sexual side, and what he also went through at school which he told me and maybe the cause, he had a bad experiecne with his gf but what happend i thought was nrmal for a boy his age, but this so called girl told her friends and he got bullied by 2 girls and alot more, sorry im rambling on now, but he as said he wishs he didnt have a penis or even balls then wouldnt get in to trouble like he is and could end up in jail or a madhouse, he said the therapst as told him to ask his doctor about chemical castration but his doctor is male so he wont ive even said i would go with him, but female doctors can help him also, but he is still scared, and im worried for him.

sorry about the delay and long post i do ramble (i am female of course lol)

thanks Debs