Question: how do you know you had an orgasm if your sleeping?. . . . First you say you never had one and then you say you have and you wake up and finish yourself off. . . .

Hey ...
I'm sorry I should have been clearer,what I mean to say is that sometimes I will be dreaming of making love and im orgasiming in my dream then I wake and I am orgasiming...But recently like for a year now I dream im about to orgasm and I wake up and so I finish the job my self...And when I wake up like this im right on the verge of orgasiming.So I have to masterbate to finish orgasm. Which I guess is a good sign that I actually can orgasm but how do I get to that point of being excited enough when I have no feeling down there only in my dreams?
Maybe I do need someon who goes long but in the past I m so used to faking and concentrating on pleasing the guy and hurrying it up coz I get no enjoyment...Sighs

I had the problem of not being able to orgasm until I learned to please myself. Then you can learn what your body reacts to and what it doesn't react to. Try turning the bath water up fairly high and letting it run on your clitoris until you orgasm. It works better if you have a shower head that detatches from the wall. After you have achieved an orgasm that way or any other way you can try experimenting with different way to achieve an orgasm. Once you realize the ways that work best for you, you should be able to get one with your partner. Try to forget about p;easing him and focus on yourself. Good luck!!!!

Ok I tried doing that..And I went for a while and I actually had feeling there I wasnt numb..I just need to go for a while to get me to that point ..And it felt really really nice I was on the beginning verges of having one then the weirdest thing I started crying...And calling my mans name is this normal then it went a bit and eventually stopped as my arms were sore...Come to think of it I never really fully tried masturbating b4 so this was the first time in 31 years I really trully allowed my self to enjoy myself..I figure if I dont know what pleases me then how can I teach anyone else to please me heh any other ideas besides gross pornoghraphy to get me excited...

Try using a vibrator .. In gentle circular motions around the clitoris using pulsating occasional pressure....... It will do the job in no time at all....

The only thing else that I can think is to get your man to perform oral sex on you, it is one of the best feelings that I have ever felt. Other than masturbating that is the first way that I ever had an orgasm. And yes it is normal to call your man name while masturbating, at least it is for me. The main thing is you are pretty much fantasizing about him while pleasing yourself. Try the water thing again, and be patient if your arms get tired before you get there, then stop for a moment, then try again. And when you feel you are about to orgasm, stop rest for a moment, then go again when you finally orgasm it makes it that much more intense. Again, good luck!!!