Girl, do me a favor and go get laid!!!

Of course you still love .Neil. You can't turn those kind of feelings off like a tap. If you are enjoying the time you are spending with this new man then I say keep at it! Don't put pressure on yourself to be feeling anything in particular for him - there are no rules that say you should be falling in love with this guy or sleeping with him yet. Take things as slowly as you feel you need to. I mean, you're not leading this guy on because you've made it clear that you're only looking for friendship at the moment, haven't you?

Don't fret about it so much. The feelings for .Neil will probably take a while to fade - and you will always have love for him of sorts because of the history you share - so don't feel guilty because you can't just 'move on' in a heartbeat.

Thanks. I'm just really scared of moving on properly. I mean what if we do end up getting serious? The whole introducing him to my kids thing is bugging me already. I mean (i don't know this) but he's not going to want to be bothered by my kids is he?

I just feel scared I guess. I never envisioned have to start again with anyone. He seems like a nice bloke but I still feel like I am betraying neil even though we have filed for divorce

lmao! As much as I wish that would help,it doesn't :p

purestgreen is right hun.And you know about the whole kid thing,he knows you have kids right? So why in the future would he not want to be bothered by them? Your getting way ahead of yourself and your going to ruin the friendship before you know it.Just give yourself time to heal from the whole neil issue and continue to chill with this new guy.He will give you a reason not to think of your x! : ) when your ready to move on,you'll know! Just as long as the guy knows the situation and that it will take some time

Thanks melissa. I will just keep it casual.

Just take it slow beck, everything comes with time like everyone else is saying!

Aw becks I think its normal to feel that stuff tho. I felt bad or...Like it was wrong when I let my ex first meet lucas, I guess its cos he wasnt his real dad, ...Just didnt feel good or like it was ok or anything. He was great with him tho. I know yours are older but once they get used to a new guy, and have fun with him etc you'll feel a lot better about it. Its not your fault what happened with neil, and its going to take a while to properly let go of him. You were together a long time and have 2 kids, so you'll probably always have some sort of feelings for him.

I agree its a good idea to take it slow with robbie, dont do anything until your comfortable with it. Hope hes not the type to pressure u into stuff