|she could go anywhere. She knows she could come stay with me in a heartbeat. And every single member of her family has offered to take her in at some point.
She just changes around him. She is usually a very smart, strong person. But around him she becomes this submissive little wimp that I don't even know.
He has done nothing but physically and emotionally abuse her from day one. I think he's convinced her that no one else would have her and she should be lucky to have someone like him.
I've asked her if this is really what she wants, and what if they were to break up again, and all the other what if's that I could think of. And she lies to me. Telling me it's ok as her voice is cracking because she is fighting back tears.
It hurts me so much to see her like this because I truly do love her like she is my own sister. I've known her forever and we've talked about everything, the topic of abortion has came up in the past... This is her opinion in her exact words:
"oh my god, I could never have an abortion. I could never live with myself knowing that I killed my own child. Not even if I had to choose between my life or the baby's life, I couldn't do it for any reason."
and she has kids, so what she said was a completely educated statement. She knows the ups and downs and how a person feels during pregnancy and child raising.
what a ****** quack you are. A massage is going to cure her pregnancy, bad marriage and brainwash her into thinking she wants this pregnancy. Too bad you didn't get a "massage" during your fertility time, huh?
Maia, why don't you mind your own business and stop trying to run your "friends" life?
maia, why don't you mind your own business and stop trying to run your "friends" life?
|how's things going with your friend, maia? When is her abortion scheduled for?|
|i have a very close friend who saw another man while she and her husband were beginning their divorce.
She became pregnant by this man and soon after realized that she didn't want to be with him. Now she is back with her husband.
I have known this woman since I was a child and I know two things:
1. She will not stay with her husband, I am sure of it
2. She does not want to have an abortion
but she is scheduled for an abortion this week. She says she's ok with it and she says it's all her decision. But I know she is lying, I know her, i've known her almost my whole life. I can see the pain in her eyes as she says "it's not a problem, no big deal". She doesn't want to do it. Her husband is an abusive sob and I know he is pressuring her.
I do understand that she is a grown woman and shouldn't allow anyone to make her do anything... But how can I make her understand this?
Especially since I have no doubt that she and her husband will seperate again, they haven't been together that long and I know she isn't happy with him.
This is one of my closest friends and I have a lot of love for her... I don't want to see her do this and regret it for the rest of her life.
What can I say to her?
|thanks so much everyone. You've all given me some really good advice.
I took her out today, she seemed to relax a lot. I didn't push her, I just let her enjoy herself and calm down. She told me she would call me tonight after he goes to work, she said she wanted to talk.
She's scheduled for tomorrow, so that's another thing. She didn't get a lot of time to think this through.
|last night when she called I let her talk, I just listened. She finally admitted that she didn't want an abortion. I suggested she talk to her husband about it.
As much as I wanted to say screw him and leave his sorry ass, I didn't. True as it is, she doesn't need anything else right now so I kept quiet.
It doesn't really matter what was said last night though, because she went through with it today. Then she called me crying and regretting it, saying that she shouldn't be with someone who blah, blah, blah... Everything I listed before. Now that nothing can be done, she sees the truth. It's sad, very sad.