something inside of me was actually soft and very easily manipulated. I was manipulated into keeping the first pregnancy. As you can see if you had read my reply, I am no longer the same person I was three (almost four) years ago. I have grown the back bone that I lacked back then. So thanks for your mediocre drugstore psychology, but you don't know the first thing about me, about my life, or about what I went through with my family, church, friends at the time, who all basically tricked me into keeping the pregnancy. As you can see I didn't let them do that to me again.


for me abortion was taking responsibility for what had happened. And, if you don't agree with abortions then why are you here? Or did I get a wrong impression of this forum?

thankyou for that complex analysis of our legal system and how i'm currently stuck in it and being screwed by my ex. Do you have any real advice or are you just about bad spelling, bad grammar, and telling other people what to do?


in order to put a child up for adoption, you must first continue the pregnancy. I had absolutely no intention of remaining pregnant even one minute more than I had to be. And if there are so many people waiting to adopt, why can't they adopt all the children who are already waiting for a family?

aidan's three, I tell him what he wants. But, let me ask you this - do you think aidan wants to have less food on his plate because the new baby needed more formula? My income barely supports me let alone a child or two. Aidan may have siblings one day but that day is no time soon.

i'm raising my son to respect women for who they are, not for what their bodies can do or the functioning of their uterus'. I have no doubt that one day I will broach this subject with him but when I do he will understand that I did it for all of us, not just to deny him a sibling or whatever else you're trying to imply.

how old are you? Actually, a better question would be whether the institution or school you are from knows you are on a message board on their computers? It's clear to me that you are either very young or very idiotic. First you can't adopt a baby before it's born. That's ludicrous. You can have paperwork drawn up before birth but it can't be signed and turned in and the baby can't be possessed by the new parents until birth. And second - again - why don't all these people waiting for babies just adopt the ones that are already available?


when i'm gone?! what are you smoking? Where am I going? And, aidan (not adain - you illiterate nitwit), may have a sibling at some other time. I haven't completely ruled out having other children or even adopting children later on in my life. I do like children, I love aidan, I just didn't like having him. It is not an experience that I am interested in repeating at least any time soon.

was there really any doubt in anyone's mind that I hadn't thought out my decision?! I mean, seriously, did you even read what I wrote?

good think I asked my doctor and the staff at the clinic about this and found out that you're full of sh-t!

that's because it was up to her. He wasn't pregnant, was he?


i'm sure! Kthnx.

none that I want.


not in my state there isn't. I'm pretty much on every program that I can think of. In fact, I spend quite a bit of time trying to find new ones - even those government grant programs. Haven't received one yet but always trying.

none near me wanted to help a woman with a child. They wanted a woman who was being supported by someone else entirely who could volunteer to work at their locations and do a lot of other things - like speak to young girls about how "easy" it is to be a mom - things I wouldn't or couldn't because of work do. They don't want to help you after birth. They want to parade you around to other impressionable young women so that they can use you as a symbol of their cause while you're still so big it's hard to miss you. After you give birth, you've made your bed and now have to lie in it. That's the attitude I was given.

didn't you say to me earlier that no one made me give birth? So, they can't make you give birth - you have to choose that - but they can make you get an abortion and that's not your responsibility or choice? How do you spell hypocrite?

you're lying, her doctor - if he's actually gone to med school - would not give your sister false information.

speaking as someone who has given birth to someone I can sense has not, let me just tell you that giving birth is a horrible, terrorizing, traumatic, nightmarish, ordeal that leaves its mark on your body for the rest of your life. I still have health problems stemming from aidan's pregnancy and child birth. I have to go to the bathroom about 14 times a day because that full term pregnancy damaged my bladder. I used to never have problems with my teeth and during the first pregnancy my gums started to bleed and they haven't stopped yet. I finally did lose all of the weight at the beginning of this year but my clothes still don't fit because my entire body has changed shape. Pregnancy and childbirth are horrible, especially when you feel like you were manipulated into it. Some people may consider their children a gift but I can guarantee you they aren't going to think highly about how they had that child. And, if you didn't really want to give birth in the first place, how do you think that you will feel about that child?

Anyways, thank you to everyone who actually supported me. I still feel great about my decision and everything looks to be going fine.

Christy..I am glad that you finally did what you want to do, and I m glad you are relieved.

It takes a lot of guts to open up in a way that you have opened up to us..

Christy that great your happy about your decision, never doubt yourself!

I think some people dont know when to back off, that great you built a backbone it something you need to survive the work world!!



>sandy I dont regret having kids I just wish I could have redone some of it maybe waited a few years

I understand diamondsz! Their are times in my life that I wish that I wish that I would have done things differently but learning things the hard way has helped to make me the person that I am today which in a wy leaves me with no regret.

Christy, I too am glad that you did what you wanted to do and remember that we are here for you and remember that you can always help others.

I'm probably chiming in a little late on this, but i'm also glad to hear you followed through with your decision and feel happy and relieved as a result.