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My boyfriend alway trys to have anal sex with me everytime we have sex. I have no clue why he wants it. I think that it is really gross. (but thats my opinion) I guess I could understand a guy wanting it if the girls !**@! was "loose" but im not! Im actually really tight. He even says so.
So what is it with guys and wanting to have anal sex?

Can it hurt the girl? Does it mess up your system?(like going to the bathroom?) does it hurt? Why do guys want to do it so damn bad?

Please. Any answers are appreciated.
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First Helper tex789
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replied November 5th, 2006
Men Are Weird
I'm not real sure my husband likes it to. I found it can be very intimate. He must be very slow, lubbed. You may discover you feel like yoou need to have a bm soon. If thats the case it may be uncomfortable until things are moved around. Many women aren't loose its just a weird fetish many men have. My husband which is 11 years older had never done it or thought about it untill we did it. Hes 37 i'm 26. My prob the past few years has been him messing with his own backside. I know they have a g spot there or what not... But we expecting #4 now and only will do it alone. It makes me mad ands I say mean things because it upsets me so much. I don't care for it much and the various things he uses. Never seems to be his stuff and doesn't clean the item up after himself. Sad is this normal?

Sad nevada girl
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replied November 6th, 2006
Experienced User
My boyfriend wants to have anal sex too but I haven't let him yet! He's always sticking his fingers in my butt when we're having sex, so one night I got mad and did the same thing back to him! Boy was he surprised! Laughing
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replied November 16th, 2006
I thinks its a man thing! They seem to love it for some reason! First time I did it it was painful now its okay... I dont like it much and wouldnt do it out of choice I only do it if the man really wants it.... Take a tip tho... It can be very messy and smelly.. Quite gross really..... If you know your man is going to want it that way .... Make sure you have a good poo first so that you anus is empty! Althogh it dosnt seem to bother the man ... The stink is really off putting!
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replied November 16th, 2006
I've never had any desire for anal. Yes i'm a guy.

Anal and huge breasts are just a turn off to me.

I must be wierd.
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replied November 29th, 2006
Stick It Up Your Bum
People are of course free to do whatever they agree to.

But i've never understood why a guy would force his most sensitive parts into an arsehole, with all the health risks that implies, when just a couple of centimetres away there is a beautiful fresh moist warm enticing vagina just waiting to be pleased into a shared orgasm.

Strange, the way folks are.


Eff
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replied October 16th, 2009
anal sex
i had anal sex wen i was wit my man for like 4 months...bu i didnt really think it hust dat may b to da fact dat we wer out dat night nd got abit too drunk..bu he always wanted to do it den after dat bu i didnt really mind bcoz i started to like it and we ended up doin it dat way dan normal...bu the stink does but u off a little bit nd make sure ur comfortable in ur relationship because u cn get abit embarresed...nd sumtims it cn get very very messy...!
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replied October 18th, 2009
Anal sex is great because its degrading to women, men like being in control. There is also no pressure to make a girl climax if your giving anal. Plus if your condom breaks, theres a far less change of your getting prego and wanting to get married.
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replied August 25th, 2010
don't accept if ur not gay.
bulshit! anal sex is disgusting please ladies dnt you know if your man is asking for it, is a sign of them being gay! please tell them the vagana is made for stright sex n if they not satisfied with that then they should get themself a gay man.
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replied October 11th, 2012
It does NOT imply that he is gay.
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replied August 26th, 2010
I'm a guy and I don't want it! I've had one women ask for it, and I'm not going to lie, I thought about it, but it was a no go. It doesn't turn me on and I don't see why it should.

Yeah, I could do it if my gf/wife really wanted me too, just because I'm open about sex, but all I want to do is please women not do anything that hurts.
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replied August 27th, 2010
What's with the hate in this thread. lol
I see very unopen, simple-minded posts here.

1. Anal sex does not make someone gay. Nor Bisexual.
2. If the act of anal sex is smelly or dirty, you're doing it wrong and/or your hygiene is lacking.
3. My GF was the one who made me try it. Her orgasms are much stronger when I take her in the ass. Albeit the sex is slower, but I find it's also more intimate.
4. The preconception of MALE CONTROL SCREW FEELINGS is a load of bull. I would consider that if you're participating in anal with a regular partner, you're going to be much more attentive to their body, and are going to make sure you're not hurting them. It's not as easy as putting it in and humping like bunnies (or at least not the first times).
5. If anything, if you're unopen to the idea, then whatever. Most people have the assumption that anal = where poop comes from = bad. Admitedly it is where waste comes from... But what would make oral sex? Place where pee comes from is inserted in and around mouth? With proper hygiene, regular cleaning and necessary precautions there shouldn't ever be any mess or worry for infections.

I'm not saying you should try it nor recommend it, but those who come in this thread delivering the most close-minded opinions should consider themselves unhelpful.
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replied January 23rd, 2014
You stated, "If the act of anal sex is smelly or dirty, you're doing it wrong and/or your hygiene is lacking."

I state, "Oh please! It's not like people generally try to keep the inside of their asses clean. It's going to be smelly and dirty unless they are douching it. And douching (whether the vagina or ass) is not healthy, by the way.
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replied August 27th, 2010
To add, the act of anal WILL hurt the first times you do.
That in itself will probably be a major turnoff for both guys and girls. That being said, this is completely understandable for those reasons.
The act in itself also does not interest some people, and that's perfectly natural.
My previous was not to encourage the act of anal sex, but rather to discourage the use of common misconceptions.
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replied April 5th, 2012
Experienced User
"To add, the act of anal WILL hurt the first times you do."

Even after slowly stretching the anus first and using plenty of lube?
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replied January 6th, 2011
It can be a postive experiance
I just wanted to say that as a female i have had anal sex with a few different partners and i really enjoy it.
1. It is so important that your partner still uses a condom to protect against infections.
2. Size is an issue. (i cant enjoy it if he is too big )
3. I have the BEST orgasms from anal stimulation.
4. lube lube and more lube...

enjoying anal is really a matter of feeling comfortable with your partner and knowing what you like.
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replied January 9th, 2011
I think it is DISGUSTING!!!!

To fool around on the OUTSIDE of the anal region is one thing, however to pentetrate as like in anal sex can be very dangerous...

There are so many other sexual things to do that it does not make sense to want to do it...
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replied February 3rd, 2012
I have never done it befor, but it sounds like a nice thing to explo!!!!!!
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replied February 5th, 2012
I'm a guy and I'll be honest with you.
I have done this at the request of my partner at the time.
I found it hard for penetration at first and less pleasurable for me than vaginal intercourse.
I suspect that men (and I really am one) are far too easily brainwashed into following someone else's idea of macho behaviour.
If you really don't want to do it tell him. If he's worth bothering about and cares for you, he'll get over it!

Read more: Sexual Health - Women Forum - Why do guys like doing a girl through the butt? http://ehealthforum.com/health/why-do-guys -like-doing-a-girl-through-the-butt-t32713 1-a1.html#ixzz1lXCKGgMM
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replied April 5th, 2012
Experienced User
3 more reasons for doing anal:
Squishy butts provide a nice bounce.
Some girls have IUD's in their vaginas which can hurt a guy's penis.
Sometimes it's just nice to mix things up a bit.

Just a month ago I would have told you I would be perfectly happy to go through my entire life without ever trying anal. That's mostly because of the extreme stigma surrounding anal that most of the comments here exhibit. But when I finally tried it I discovered it wasn't so bad at all. We used plenty of lube and the girl said it didn't hurt a bit. She had a ton of orgasms.
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replied January 23rd, 2014
A ton of orgasms? I sincerely doubt it, unless you were stimulating her clit as well. The vast majority of women need direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm. I'm also a guy and more of us need to focus on the clit more than we do on penetration when it comes to sexually pleasing a woman. Otherwise, it really is like we only care about our own pleasure. I'm also sure that the obsession with anal sex that this generation of males have is do to anal sex regularly being featured in porn; this is supported by various studies on that matter.
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replied July 18th, 2012
Anal sex...
... My boyfriend has been (more than) hinting at having anal ex... Also, I know his previous partners have allowed him to do it... Personally, I think it would feel like rape, beyond all the warnings of tearing (yikes). Now, I feel like that's all he wants, and that I'm replacable if I won't cater to this fancy... it makes me feel like sex with me isn't worthwhile... when I think of him leaving me (or, worse, cheating on me) I break down into tears... but, I till don't think I can do it... the whole idea of it has made me feel inadequate and so not sexy... will he leave me if I don't let him?
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replied July 18th, 2012
Experienced User
If he's the kind of guy who won't respect your refusal to have anal sex then you should leave him.

Although I mean it's probably a good idea to try anal sex just once in your life before deciding you don't like it, taking precautions to keep it from hurting of course. You don't have to or anything, just saying it might be for your benefit. Doesn't have to be with him of course.
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replied July 19th, 2012
Ok so I've always wondered about this as well. Personally, I'm a girl, I have a vagina which to me is in fact where sex is the goal of in a straight or lesbian relationship. I think my boyfriend may secretly want to try it and just hasn't asked because I've made my opinion known. But just in case the time comes when we need to spice things up and that's an option, what precautions should I take? What special hygeine should I use, what should I be prepared for after, etc. Just looking to learn!
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replied July 19th, 2012
Experienced User
1. Make sure you use plenty of lube.
2. He should use a condom to prevent infection.
3. He should stick his fingers in your butt first to stretch it out.

Don't worry about hygiene. Any guy who wants to have anal isn't gonna complain about hygiene. Not sure there's anything you should be prepared for after.
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replied July 19th, 2012
Oh ok sounds simple enough thanks! And as far as after goes, I've just heard in the past that going to the rest room for some time after isn't always a pleasant experience, so I worry about that.
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replied January 29th, 2013
men like it for two reasons, it's tighter(wich means more fealing for the guy) and it's diffent(exciting). I never push it if she's not in the mood and if it's hurting I give up. No sence in tearing her a new one. If your too tight play with small things till you get used to it, might take several days of small stuf. If my wife is not cumming sometimes times we stick in a beaded toy a little smaller than me that goes in without hurting her. it tightens things up in her vagina so we both get more feeling from reagular sex. don't wory about smell or mess., if he wants anal its not going to bother him, just remember to put a towel down. A good tip, if your worried you will never loosen up. Also my wife has a hard time loosening if she's alread had an orgasm.
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replied January 23rd, 2014
Only the anal sphincter is tighter (usually). The rest of the anus is not tighter than the vagina, and it certainly does not hug the penis in the way that the vagina does.
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