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Hi everyone..

Iam scread out my mind I think I may be pregant and the bad thing is.. That iam only 16 years old, iam not ready to have a baby I really need someone to talk to someone in the medical felid to help me out... I fill you on the details and you tell me if you think I am pregant.. Well first of all I had my period for the first time in august 20 or something like that around 10 pm at night, now this happen the august that just passed I had it for the first time in my whole life. Then I did not have my pd at all in sept. I guess I skip a month I dont know why... Then I had it again on oct 01 or 02 I can't remember and it ened around the 9th or 10th iam not sure... But any ways and then it the 3rd of nov and I still dont have it iam going out my mind I think maybe it my first time that I may be skipping another month again or something like that iam not sure, but anyways around the 12th and 13th of oct. I kinda "messed" around like I did not have sex but I tried like to lose my virginty to someone, that person is not important at the moment but anyways I tried to have sex with him for those 2 days, nothing it was too painful to bear soo I stop even tho we did try for two days, the farthest he got was about 2 incs or maybe more I am not sure,ok so anyways it was around the 12th or maybe earlier iam not sure I think it was on one of those days well anyways I waited 5 days after my period to do it I dont know why it not like I really waited but like it happen 5 days after well anyways then we tried for the first day I would say it lasted for a good 15 mins like I was fusing around alot so it was not like we was trying for 15 mins it was like he put it in I scream and pulled, but he did not put it all the way, so this happen for about 2 days, trying to do it, and I know a female ovulates every 14 days, so if he did pre nut which I have a feeling he did not, but anyways I know that sperm can live in a female for 7 days so if it was around the 9 my pd ended then it would br the 22th I would ovlate right? And the sperms would have die before that right? Because it happened around the 12 and 13th that gives then about 7 days to live so they would have die around the 19th almost right? But anyways. I not sure because iam getting knews to my pd and I have not gotten it on the 1 or 2 which I think I was suppose to I did not get it at all and iam very scared. So yesterday I went ahead and took a prencgy test. It came back negative but I still worry because even tho it said I was not pregant I hear that sometimes those tests can be wrong it self. Do it sound like I can be pregant? Can you please help me figure out what to do, and oh yeah not only that like I been feeling sick like I want to throw up alot not really but like nauses and like I have alot of cramps which I hear pregant people dont get, I was really hoping that it may be my pd, but the funny thing is, like when I think about that fact that I may be, I get sick and I dont feel good, like iam stressing my self out, and I was told that stress can delay my pd, is that true.? I mean can that really happen I hope not, but anyways, tell me what you think. I mean to sum it all up. I took the test yesterday and it came back negative.. It was not the expenise test it was a $2 one. I mean can that be wrong. I going to take another test soon just to be on the safe side. What I dont understand is if the test said iam not pregant then why my period never came? Could it be that iam just late or that iam stressing my self to much and it delaying my pd? Or is it that there something wrong with me? Could u miss a whole month again.. And have it next month... Can that happen to me again? Please help me out iam soo scared I dont know what to do.. I know I cant afford this baby I dont know how to take care of it, the father is not even talking to me because I told him the story and how I think I am, he just keep saying we did nothing and that he cant possibly got me pregant. Anyways iam just on my own, it sounds like he wants nothing to do with this. Even if I am, I am not keeping it, I just get a pill to kill the baby. I know it sounds wrong but I cant afford to take care no baby. Please anyone if your like in expert in this type of things and you know what your talking about. Please help me. Cause I am scared. Either this baby goes it I am pregant,... Or .. I go... Iam I dont want to die.... But if I have no other choice I gonna have to take it. If my mom and dad know that I might be pregant they're going to kill me and I will die, or they will kick me out the house and out of my family. I have no where to go and no one to help me, so please help. And explain what might cause all the pain if you think that iam not pregant. I mean can it me that I am starting my period. Well you tell me please asap I need some perffsioanl help. If your really good at this then please tell me what you think. Thank you Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad
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replied November 3rd, 2006
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Im not a medical person.. But I do know when u have ur period for the first time its not going to be regular.... Well it normally wont.. When I started my period they were all over the place u can miss months.. And if your so worried about being pregnant take a test..
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replied November 3rd, 2006
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Hi Beck
Becky, not sure where you are, but if in usa there are a number of free clinics/ or county health department that can help you. You can get a pregnancy test done, also couseling and put on birth control. If you are going to dance, you have to pay the fiddler! These places will not tell your parents and everything is confidential. You are 16 years old, old enough to be sexually active, you are old enough to know the consequences. You are still a child yourself and have a lot ahead of you. I agree now is not the time for you to be pregnant, but its an irresponsible thing for you to have unprotected sex, taking a risk at getting pregnant. I am a bit suprised you ahve jsut now started getting our period at 16. Have you not ever been to a gyncologist? I believe I would look into this if you a clinic is not accessible! Keep in touch!
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replied November 3rd, 2006
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You should really be checked out by the ob/gyn if you did not have safe sex you could very well end up with other problems to besides pregnancy and if you are pregnant it is too late to take the morning after pill, you will have to get an abortion. Hopefully it is your period not being regular, their is also such a thing called pre-cum that can get you pregnant. Can you talk to your .Mom about this(i hope so) you need to take a test to see if you are pregnant. Call your county health department or your local hospital and see what they can suggest for you. Keep in touch. If you are going to have sex, please, get some protection!
Good luck!
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replied November 27th, 2006
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I am not a doc or nurse but this is my 2 cents. Being your first period it will most likely be irregular. When I started I skipped a month at the beginning. I don't know if you have a planned parent hood around you but they will do a preg test for free. It is always better to be safe then sorry.
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replied November 27th, 2006
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I am a nursing student, but by no means am I yet a professional. I will give you my opinion on the matter. You are only sixteen and really don't need to be worrying about sex. Someone said something about you starting your period so late in your teenage years, but it is normal for a girl to start her period between the ages of 11 and 16. You are lucky in my eyes-the longer you can go without it the better. I personally don't think you are pregnant. I think this is the combination of your period not being regulated yet and you stressing yourself out. Do yourself a favor- have fun being a kid and quit worrying about sex. It is not worth it at your age to take the risk. You are not yet old enough to handle all the consequences. If you have any questions feel free to private message me.
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replied November 27th, 2006
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The other replys are correct you are to young to worry about sex. If you have only "tried" to have sex and you have become this worried about a pregnancy imagine if you would how much more worrying you would have if you become sexually active. Pregnancy is not the only thing that you should be worrying about either, you also have std's that could stay with you for the rest of your life and you will have a rough time finding "the one" that isn't going to mind that you pass it on to them. It really isn't what its cracked up to be when your young have fun enjoy life to its fullest because once you loose it then most of the time relationships are centered around it. Good luck to you and be safe!!!!!!!
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replied November 30th, 2006
Okay, here is my opinion, I would bet your not pregnant and you definetly don't sound like you are ready for sex, especilly because your not in a commited relationship, which is hard in high school. I will tell you somethings from my life and family and hopefully you can use some of this information. I had my period at 13 for the first time and it was always basically regular. Well at fourteen I lost my virginity, (l lied and said to the guy that I wasn't a virgin) anyways he dumped me shortly after we had sex like a few days later. I didn't care about him but what bothered me was the three months that my period didn't come, I was scared and eventully told my mom the day she brought home the pregnancy test, my period started. I was so relieved! Point is I could have done without the stress, when I was sixteen and had a commited boyfriend I used condoms but hated them so I got my mom to take me to the Dr. For the pill. Parents will probably be little freaked by the sex conversation, but at least it will be out there. I am glad my children didn't come as a teenager, my first came after marriage and at 20 which still felt to early! I have yet to go to college. And get small paying jobs! Also my mother and two younger sisters didn't have there period until 15, and a family friend had hers at 8!! Periods come whenever. One of my sisters got pregnant at 16 and had an abortion. She said it was the worst physicall and the very worst emotional pain she ever had. Especilly when she accidently saw the baby on the ultrasound before the abortion, abortion is not an easy thing and the morning after pill is still getting rid of a baby. I do believe everyone has the choice of abortion but it is not and easy simple fix and will be something you have to live with forever. My sister is 18 and finishing her senior year and looking forward to college. She is still with the same boyfriend.. Oh and speaking of pregnancy, my other sister is 5 months pregnant and in jail. Make smart decisions and don't do things to please other people, it will not make them love you, trust me I tried, I only felt even more like crap.
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replied December 2nd, 2006
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If you only started your period in august then you are very likely to be irregular. And if you are pregnant then it can be done at a young age I am 15 now and my baby is due the day before my 16th birhday, it is hard but stranger things have happened
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