Hi there! Have you thought about seeking a second opinion, or talked to like a dermatologist or even a pharmacist, sometimes a pharmacist knows more about the meds than the dr's, I have learned that. I am glad to know that you are using the spermicide, you seem like you have a good head on your shoulders, I am glad to also note that you had your period, you are not being b*tchy, just being a female, I have been there and through the change and I am still a female,if that makes sense.
Good luck to you! We are here for you through the good and the not so good, after all we are only human.