Nah, you were just subconsciously worried of her parents catching you.

Will something like that eventually go away in subsequent visits then?

Maybe.
If you don't fear being caught, that is.

You say her parents are very strict, so whether you consciously think it or not (sub-consciously) you are worried that you will be caught by her parents.

This is common even with married couples - the fear of being caught by parents.

Would just trying to avoid worrying about it help?

Possibly.

Do her folks know you are sleeping together?
Does she live with them, will you always be staying with her folks when you visit?

Have you has a succesful errection with this girl away from her parents house?

It could be combined with "performance fear" as well as fear of being caught.

Book yourselves into a hotel/motel next time so you can have some alone time.

Its jst tht u were at some other's place...Ur mind was thinking something else at tht time or may b u were afraid of something.....

When doing sex mind and the consiousness shud be there not somewhere else...

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no, and we don't want them to either. That was our first time actually, it just kinda wilted when I heard their dog bark. An incident earlier in the day, she was giving me a hand-job and there dog came in and scared the crap out of me and my erection went away.



yes, and yes.


yes, and i've had one while they're in before. One night I fingered her and maintained an erection the entire time, and when I eat her out I get it 'up' as well. At the same time though, I haven't been able to keep an erection up long enough for her to do anything to me or for us to have sex. When we were about to, and I couldn't get it hard enough (in part it happened while placing on a condom) to do anything - her parents were away but we had no idea when they'd be back.

If you are so scared of her parents catching you, are you sure you are capable of taking on the responsibilites of having sex? What if she gets pregnant inspite of your best efforts to prevent it, are you adult/mature enough to handle it.

I would be less worried about keeping your erection, and look more at the big picture. Are you ready to be having sex?? My guess is no. If your worries prevents you from having an erection, then you are no where near mature enough to handle sex.

Imo.

I wouldn't have tried in the first place if my girlfriend and I weren't ready for it.

there is problem number 1.
problem number 2
fear again
same
maybe try to change that then?
but not long enough to have sex?
but still not actual sex, just having an erection while doing something else is way different. It's the actual being caught having sex that is the deep root of the issue here.
again back to fear of being caught and performance worries.

The only indicator I see that you might not be ready is that, you guys are having sex in her parents house, and worried you will get caught.

Adults do not do that.

1 they can get a room or an apartment.

2 if caught it is no big deal, because they are mature people who are deemed responsible by their parents.

If you fit into either one of the categories, then you should not be having anxiety like you are. But if you do not fall into the above, then that is while little jumping johnny decides to shrivel up at the slightes noice.

Lastly, how can any of that be pleasurable? You are scared you are going to get caught. How can that be fun at all. You need to take your time, relax, play and enjoy. You need to be a real lover. Not do it like rabbits or dogs, and have it over with.

Im starting to ramble.

I do not mean to be harsh to you, just adding my observation. I do not know you, and could be totally wrong. If so, my minor apologies. But, if there is the slightest chance I am correct, or what I am saying applies to you, then give it some thought ok???