My gf of over a year just pushed me away
and broke things off because she didnt
feel "in love" all the sudden. I was
willing to be there through the ups and
downs and through it all. Now she only
wants to be best friends and I dont want
to loose her but its hard when im still in
love with her. This break up came out of
no where in a week. We were talking about
our wedding the week before...Then boom!
To her it makes sense in her head to end
it and not even try another solution. But
to me it doesnt we were suppose to be in
it to the end..Through the good and bad
times....In sickness and in health but she
just up and ended it when it didnt feel
right to her anymore. She says that this
was not a bipolar decision. But when you
say you love someone and you want to marry
them you dont just break it off for no
reason and not even try to mend it. Then
to want me to be her best friends and
never ever leave her. She says she will
never loose me but I just lost the love of
my life.
I think it might be a bipolar thing but I
dont have any proof. She told me early on
that bipolar would just keep hurting me
when we had a similar situation but we
didnt break up. She says this time isnt
not bipolar. She cant understand why she
doesnt feel any thing anymore she says its
not me. She was happy with me and has
nothing bad to say about the relationship.
So why did it just abrubptly end? I am
so lost and confused. What do I do? Hold
my feelings in for her. Shut them off?
Will this last? Will she feel she loves
me again next month? I am trying to be
there as a friend and let her know I am
never going to leave. But its really hard
to stay and be friends when your heart is
broken so badly and your still in love.
Help please...I cant stop crying...I dont
want to loose her.
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dilis
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Mar 2008 Posts: 2
Bipolar Bf Broke It Off Posted: 03-11-08 08:03am
The same thing happened to me 12 days ago.
From one day to the next my bf broke
things off when less than 48hrs before we
were talking about having getting married,
having a baby...im a mess and have no idea
how to recover
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marvel
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Posted: 03-11-08 15:03pm
This might sound a bit harsh, but maybe
she's right. Maybe the end of the
relationship wasn't about the bipolar.
Maybe, though, especially towards the end,
the "love" was a result of the bipolar. I
don't believe that someone can just fall
out of love with someone in an instant. It
takes time. Maybe she wasn't feeling this
true love for a long time and couldn't
face it because of her bipolar. It's a
hard thing to deal with. Maybe she is
finally experiencing some clarity and is
facing her true feelings. I know that
sucks a lot for you, but unfortunately
it's reality. Bipolar is very tricky and
it can go many ways, especailly when love
is involved. Try to be positive and know
that you're a tough cookie. I (along with
many others here) are always willing to
chat iether here or via Private Message.
I'm sending you my best!
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homerx
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Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 3236 Location: , USA
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Posted: 03-12-08 17:46pm
You will find another love...I promise
you, one that will love you always and
maybe if your X is bipolar and going to be
all over the place and break your heart
over and over ...well, maybe its all 4 the
best...
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JYoungBear
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2007 Posts: 146 Location: , MA
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Posted: 03-14-08 07:25am
I agree with the sentiments expressed
here. One thing I always try to live by,
is that there is someone for everyone. It
has taken me so far dating four guys, but
things are looking really good for my
current boyfriend and I.
It is all about just getting back up on
your feet and finding someone new... or
having that person find you.
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homerx
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Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 3236 Location: , USA
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Posted: 03-14-08 12:56pm
Yep...hop back on the horse or enjoy being
and getting to know yourself.
