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Q: Bipolar Gf Broke It Off
asked by: Alwayzluvinu32 on October 30th, 2006
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My gf of over a year just pushed me away and broke things off because she didnt feel "in love" all the sudden. I was willing to be there through the ups and downs and through it all. Now she only wants to be best friends and I dont want to loose her but its hard when im still in love with her. This break up came out of no where in a week. We were talking about our wedding the week before...Then boom!
To her it makes sense in her head to end it and not even try another solution. But to me it doesnt we were suppose to be in it to the end..Through the good and bad times....In sickness and in health but she just up and ended it when it didnt feel right to her anymore. She says that this was not a bipolar decision. But when you say you love someone and you want to marry them you dont just break it off for no reason and not even try to mend it. Then to want me to be her best friends and never ever leave her. She says she will never loose me but I just lost the love of my life.

I think it might be a bipolar thing but I dont have any proof. She told me early on that bipolar would just keep hurting me when we had a similar situation but we didnt break up. She says this time isnt not bipolar. She cant understand why she doesnt feel any thing anymore she says its not me. She was happy with me and has nothing bad to say about the relationship. So why did it just abrubptly end? I am so lost and confused. What do I do? Hold my feelings in for her. Shut them off? Will this last? Will she feel she loves me again next month? I am trying to be there as a friend and let her know I am never going to leave. But its really hard to stay and be friends when your heart is broken so badly and your still in love.

Help please...I cant stop crying...I dont want to loose her.
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dilis
replied on March 11th, 2008
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Bipolar Bf Broke It Off
The same thing happened to me 12 days ago. From one day to the next my bf broke things off when less than 48hrs before we were talking about having getting married, having a baby...im a mess and have no idea how to recover
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marvel
replied on March 11th, 2008
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This might sound a bit harsh, but maybe she's right. Maybe the end of the relationship wasn't about the bipolar. Maybe, though, especially towards the end, the "love" was a result of the bipolar. I don't believe that someone can just fall out of love with someone in an instant. It takes time. Maybe she wasn't feeling this true love for a long time and couldn't face it because of her bipolar. It's a hard thing to deal with. Maybe she is finally experiencing some clarity and is facing her true feelings. I know that sucks a lot for you, but unfortunately it's reality. Bipolar is very tricky and it can go many ways, especailly when love is involved. Try to be positive and know that you're a tough cookie. I (along with many others here) are always willing to chat iether here or via Private Message. I'm sending you my best!
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homerx
replied on March 12th, 2008
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You will find another love...I promise you, one that will love you always and maybe if your X is bipolar and going to be all over the place and break your heart over and over ...well, maybe its all 4 the best...
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JYoungBear
replied on March 14th, 2008
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I agree with the sentiments expressed here. One thing I always try to live by, is that there is someone for everyone. It has taken me so far dating four guys, but things are looking really good for my current boyfriend and I.

It is all about just getting back up on your feet and finding someone new... or having that person find you.
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homerx
replied on March 14th, 2008
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Yep...hop back on the horse or enjoy being and getting to know yourself.
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milesgirl
replied on December 5th, 2008
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i know how you feel
my g/f did the same thing to me a few months back we had been togeather for 5 yrs and there where children involved i had always been the primary care giver for the children he did not do much for the kids played with them from time to time now not only i am left standing here wonder what happend but so are those babys they are 4 and 6 everything was great we was what could be considered your normal everyday les houshold and then bam she just decided one day she was leaving and nothing could stop her
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homerx
replied on December 5th, 2008
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milesgirl, that is horrible. If you believe in karma then leave it to the Universe...she will regret screwing you over in the end.Be strong and know that there are good and loyal people out there.Love to you and your precious kids.. luvcomp
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JYoungBear
replied on December 10th, 2008
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Wow, that is horrible. Miles, sorry to hear about recent events.

I don't know what it is about some people that are in great relationships just suddenly figure that they need to get out right away or up and leave or anything.
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milesgirl
replied on December 10th, 2008
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yea well she will realise in time what she had and let go and that won't be here for her no more when that day comes and she is going regreat it i love the kids dearly right now she is fighting about seeing them i feel it is best for them not to have me riped out of their lives they are to young for that kind of desistation.and i raised them for 5 yrs they as much my babys as they could be if i had givem bith to them in my heart.
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