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AlliE_18

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Pregnant Posted: 10-30-06 08:21am


A few people on here already know, but I thought i'd announce it today. I didnt post till now cos I wasnt sure if I was going to keep the baby, and I know some people wont have anything nice to say cos the father is a lot older than me. Anyway there it is. I think im between 8-12 weeks gone, ive got a doctors appointment for a week on thursday. Im not all that excited, more upset because it wasnt planned, we used protection every time, im still 17, I split up with max before I knew, and lucas is only 7 months, im no way near ready to have 2 kids on my own. Im still thinking about my options.

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Posted: 10-30-06 08:24am


Congratulations. I guess your hormones are raging huh?

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Posted: 10-30-06 08:28am


We're here for you hunni. Things happen, theres more than one girl here got a baby using protection.

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Posted: 10-30-06 08:44am


Don't worry about how old your baby's daddy is, girl! I'm 17 and my daughter's dad is 23.

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Posted: 10-30-06 08:46am


Good luck it s hard work with 2 babies.

AlliE_18

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Posted: 10-30-06 08:51am


Thanks, I know it will be, ive got some time to think about my options anyway. Wr17 im not worried about it, just dont see the point in people making bad comments when its already happened, I know he'll be a great dad if we have him/her, he wanted me to get pregnant in the first place. But hes a couple decades older than your guy..Lol

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Posted: 10-30-06 08:57am


Age doesn't mean sh*t. Don't worry about that. Are you thinking of adoption then? I'm assuming you've thought through abortion and have decided against it thats why you are so far along?

AlliE_18

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Posted: 10-30-06 09:09am


I dont know, maybe, but i'll probably keep it. Max wants a baby so bad, and I could probably cope with his help, like maybe joint custody so I wont have 2 babies with me more than half the time/half the week or something. He wants to move back and all of us be together but theres no way i'll get with him. I didnt know I was pregnant till last week when I took a test cos my period was late. Its been messed up cos im breastfeeding, I havent got it regularly or much.

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Posted: 10-30-06 09:16am


You will be able to do it. It is hard work but I am managing as a single mum now and I actually enjoy it more than having a man around p!Ssing me off! If you have doubts in your mind then you shouldn't go for an abortion as you will regret it. I have joint custody with neil and it works fine. He's been a fool at the moment but usually he takes kids every other night. It means even if you have no sleep one night- you know you are going to get sleep the following night. It helps alot.

AlliE_18

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Posted: 10-30-06 09:20am


Yeh true. Its weird tho, I dunno if this sounds dumb lol but I cant imagine loving someone else as much as I love lucas. So its weird trying to think how i'll feel towards another son or a daughter. Lucas is my world. Do you know what I mean? Did u feel like that?

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Posted: 10-30-06 09:22am


Hey allie - just ignore people who make a big deal out of the age difference, they're just closed minded. It's not like you're a ten year old girl! You're a consenting adult. Is there any chance you and the father could make a go of things now there is another little person on the way or is that really a no-no? Either way, things will be ok, keep thinking of the positive. Best of luck!

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Posted: 10-30-06 09:25am


I didn't really get time to feel like that cause I fell when layla was 6 weeks old but I did feel guilty that she was going to have to share my love. Luckily lucas is so young that he won't remember a time when his brother/sister wasn't here. Expect jealously though! Layla loves to give logan a smack in the head daily. I think its her way of asserting her authority as queen bee. I made a similar post when I was pregnant with angel cause I was scared that with there being 3 they wouldn't get much individual attention. I would of had 3 under 3 hun so if I could've done it then anyone can! Lol

AlliE_18

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Posted: 10-30-06 09:46am


Thanks green. No chance of us getting back together, I dont trust him anymore and I cant forgive him for something he did, makes him a totally different guy to me now. But I know he wants this baby and hes been good with lucas so I know he'll be a good dad. Becks I feel that way about each child needing individual attention too, but I didnt plan for another to come along so quick, neither did u. Lucas will get all my attention when this one is at max's place. Poor logan gets his head slapped everyday aw lol!

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Posted: 10-30-06 09:55am

allie_18 wrote:

poor logan gets his head slapped everyday aw lol!

it's ok, boys need to learn their place at an early age! Wink

allie, your ex may be a crappy boyfriend but he could be a wonderful father so it's great that you will let him have an active part in your new child's life.

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Posted: 10-30-06 10:01am

purestgreen wrote:

allie_18 wrote:

poor logan gets his head slapped everyday aw lol!

it's ok, boys need to learn their place at an early age! Wink

lmao!

ThriftyGal

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Posted: 10-30-06 10:34am


Oh geez good luck allie. Are you considering adoption at all?

AlliE_18

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Posted: 10-30-06 11:31am

tanyaface wrote:

oh geez good luck allie. Are you considering adoption at all?

thanks. Talking about it here has made me think about it a lot today, im pretty sure i'll keep him/her, as I have max around dying to help me -i feel I can cope with it. If he wasn't, i'd definately choose adoption. Mentally and financially I couldn't do it as a single mom with more than 1, especially without any family living nearby to support me.

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Posted: 10-30-06 11:47am


I'm not going to say congratulations because there's nothing to celebrate. I'm also not going to harass you about age, as my 20 year old best friend is dating a 48 year old. I'm not here to judge you in a negative way. So, now that that's said. Good .Luck. I don't agree with your actions, but i'm sure you've heard that a lot so far. I think you should talk with .Tanya about the ups of adoption. From your past posts, I honestly don't think you're mature enough for 2 baba's. 1, ok, but 2....At 17, within a year of each other....Naaaah. I think you're still to into partying and having "your" time. With 2 babies, partys, drinking, and drugs are totally out of the question. Good .Luck .Allie....You're not alone when it comes to mistakes... Sarah

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Posted: 10-30-06 11:52am


Sarah I am still into partying now (but most of the time its in my head-lol) its true that you can't go out as much when you have babies and thats true whether its 1 or 20 but thats not to say your life ends i'm sure allie will consider things carefully as it will be her life thats effected at the end of the day. Only we know deep down how strong we can be. I'm behind ya all the way girl!

Melissa_20

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Posted: 10-30-06 11:55am


Allie mah gurl! Lol you'll be fine,your a good mom and you'll be a good mom with this one too! Im sure you'll be fine with his help.At least you know he would want to be involved!

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