Question For Those Who've Aborted (Page 1)

Something which I just don't understand when I hear stories about women who have been treated badly during an abortion is why on earth do such people do that job in the first place if they hate the women so much? You can't exactly be judgemental of a woman having an abortion if you have chosen a career that means you are aiding them in their abortions! There's no excuse for it. If you are a nurse and you have a problem with abortion then go and work in a paediatric unit or something - not an abortion clinic!

Some private clinics allow a support person inside with you while the abortion is taking place, but many do not due to safety fears.

I was very sedated, so I was painfree, and probably would not have noticed a support person :p

i work in an abortion clinic, I love it =) there are too many people who work in jobs that they do not like, and it is a shame.

Definately call a few clinics around and see if they need someone =)

I was very fortunate to have a woman who was from a different city yet there with me through the entire process. She wanted to know how the clinic operated and take some of that experience back with her to her own clinic. I was asked if it were okay if she were "assigned" to me and I gave my consent. I was emotionally fine with the abortion, just nervous about the medical procedure itself. As it was, I passed right out! (i do that with hopitals, surgeries, getting blood drawn...Etc) and it was very nice to have comfort and someone to hold my hand.

I think clinic should adopt this practice as a norm, if women would like it. If I were you, I would fully seek out to create this service. Go for it, it's a great idea.

Side note: I was however irked that my boyfriend could not be with me. I would have liked him to go through the experience, and I think if men did they would be more understanding.
I can understand why the leave the men in the waiting room but it would have been quite nice to have him with me. Share in this experience, too, honey, you will forever be a part of it.

Your post assumes that this service is not provided at a majority of clinics or service provider locations. Most do have a volunteer program in place to offer women someone compassionate to hold their hands through the procedure. Call around to the providers in your area.
Peace,
jenn

Thanks, I just know that the clinic in my area does not offer this service. I do not assume that none of them do, I just wanted to see if this is something women would like, I know I would have really appreciated it.

Eugena, this is an abortion support forum. Your post is clearly anti-abortion, and unfortunately does not belong on this forum. Only posts supporting the woman's desicion and helpng her through the experience should be posted here, unless the woman specifically asks for reasons for and against aborting. As this is not the case on this topic, your post is innapropriate.

I am sorry you had such bad expereinces, but as you stated, most (not 99%, but more than half) women who abort do not regret it. I am sorry you regret your desicion, but you must remember that it is in the past. Regrets do not help us; fixing and learning from mistakes does.

You also should not frighten other women into thinking that they will feel the same way you did. Most do not feel as sad as you do.

I had 2 medically necessary abortions and a staph infection and still ended up having children along with 2 m/c prior to the abortions, you might think of getting other opinions I even surprised my doctor when I did complete both of my full term pregnancy's, you might think about getting some other opinions. My kids are grown now, out on their own and are doing great!

Wow!!!
Well, firstly, I will support women the way I see fit for each individual woman. Some need to just know someone is there with them holding their hand and crying with them. Others need to hear that they are stong and have made the right decision. And yet, some just need you in the room with them while they internalize everything.
Bottom line for me is that whether or not you regret your decision afterwards, something drove you to make that decision.
Eugenia,
would it really have mattered to you if someone had said all those things?
Most women (imo) have an abortion because they feel backed into a corner and that is the best way for them to deal with a very difficult situation. Most women do not come to this decision lightly and it is by far not an easy one.
I regretted my first abortion, still do, bothers me and brings me to tears, does that mean that I wouldn't have appreciated support through the procedure..... Um no! My second abortion 5yrs later was completely different, I felt nothing but relief afterward, would I have appreciated support during that procedure too, despite my emotional condition.... Yes.
I am firm believer in a woman's right to chose. Not necessarily abortion, but her right to chose. I'm really only looking for opinions and stories of support on this subject to see if this right for me and if other women think this would be a helpful service.
Thanks again (didn't mean to go off on a tangent)

Did you feel that you were forced or pushed into your abortion or did you just feel that you did what was right at that time? Did you not research the abortion and did you not feel that it was your choice. Most nurses are understanding if they work in these situations, it could have been your attitude too. I am sorry that you had a bad experience and I realize that having an abortion is not an easy situation but there comes a time where you have to move on and sometimes we need some help with it and there is nothing wrong with that, we pretty much all need some help sometime in our lives, mental health is a good place to start although they may not be able to help you, they know of other organizations that can.
Good luck!

This forum does not promote abortion. This forum provides support for women who have already decided or are considering abortion, without giving them crap over their decision. Supportive, not promotive. There is a difference. Have a nice day.