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broken guitarist
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Sarah020406
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Move house if you can or pack up her stuff for her and change the locks on the house she has no right to treat you like this no one deserves that. You need to make a complete break to get on with your life and there is no way you can do that with her coming and going and treating you like !! You deserve better than this women. The abuse you suffered is beyond belief and I have no idea how you stuck with it for so long but I have never been in an abusive relationship so I wouldnt know the first thing about it. But for your sake please move out or if you know where she is living then drop of her stuff there then you can begin to put all this behind you and move on.
Good luck and all the best I hope it works out for you
Good luck and all the best I hope it works out for you
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broken guitarist
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| sarah020406 wrote: |
| move house if you can or pack up her stuff for her and change the locks on the house she has no right to treat you like this no one deserves that. You need to make a complete break to get on with your life and there is no way you can do that with her coming and going and treating you like!! You deserve better than this women. The abuse you suffered is beyond belief and I have no idea how you stuck with it for so long but I have never been in an abusive relationship so I wouldnt know the first thing about it. But for your sake please move out or if you know where she is living then drop of her stuff there then you can begin to put all this behind you and move on.
Good luck and all the best I hope it works out for you |
thank you sarah for your advice I really do appreciate it.Presently I have slapped a restraining order on her and in two days she is coming to pack her stuff and in three days a moving company is picking it up.She is moving into a place with her new boy and thats that.She tried to tell me she wanted to work it out but she was lying all the time.I read a lot of stuff from other people on this site and many people are wondering the same thing I do can you trust your spouse .I would have to say after this that the answer is no, not at these points in your relationship.I loved her for 10 years and she looked me in the eyes while she lied to me but I knew she was lying because she looked me in the eyes and lied and I have known those eyes for 10 years I could tell. Look close ladies and gentlemen and save yourself some pain(possibly).I'm not saying everyone is lying but if you know your spouse well enough you can actually see it in their eyes I appreciate any feedback from anyone it helps me heal when someone understands and all your friends have run away.I felt like this
then I went to this 
but im starting to get to this 
Soon ill be like this and one day this :d
good luck to all who are on this site and best wishes for a happy healing
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rightside
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RedDelight
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| broken guitarist wrote: |
| this could be a long one but I could use some one else besides myself to tell me i'm right about how I feel and I could use a good vent
my wife and I have been together for 10 years and for at least 5 of those years she would be phsyically violent to the point where I would wake up once every 6 months badly injured in the morning only to have her tell me that she is sorry and it will never happen again. From working at her job in a bar most of her life she developed an alchohol problem and would frequently come home late and completely drunk.She is a very beautiful lady and every guy in every bar hit on her constantly.And she loved it .I used to get frustrated because I had a feeling that one day she would leave me for someone else. Her mother passed recently and i/we spent over $10,000 to get her to and from,i gave her all the support and love that I could muster through her trying time.She suggested that we get married in june of 2006 on her grandparents anniversary so I agreed and we did it. It is now october 22nd and as I sit here my wife has left me for another man....All of her stuff is still here and she comes and goes as she pleases because her name is on the lease and she knows that I can't do anything about it.She takes great pleasure in rubbing my face in how much better than me he is.I cant beleive she sucked me in for so long and I feel like my insides have been ripped out.She said she will come by and pack her stuff and be out by the end of the month.I'm totally devastated by all of the things that have happened,and I take my share of the blame for what has happened i'm not sure why but I still love her after all of this......Its not because now I cant have her..... Because of the way she was drinking we could never get along because she was always blotto sex was out of the question because of the same reason and now she is saying the reason she left is because we werent having sex and I wasnt paying attention to her i can use any opinions or help to pull myself back together |
wow.......Broken! 1st what a b*tch of her to do that. What goes around, comes around. 2nd... I am taking it that you are in a condo or apartment. Funny... I am in similar situation.. Although I opted for the wussy way out- I still pay my part of the rent- while I live at home. Fun.
I am learning, that if you have good reason... You are divorcing, she was abusive..File a police report. I did- on him twice. Third time, it will be a ppo. Even if you have one police report on her... I heard that you can go to a lawyer- and seek what it will take to break the lease- especially if the living conditions are not safe- no matter what the leasing manager tells you- you have that right- your safety is 1st. I am looking into that optio now- I shouldn't have to pay that money- while he sits pretty. 1300 sq ft, for 450.00 a month.. Is a steal if you ask me- and angers me every time I have to write out the check. I even went as far to ask for the entire place in my name- and take over the lease- taking the financial hit- he wouldn't have it. All I know is, that I was unsafe and horrible..And needed out.
No one should be treated that way- and taken advantage of. Unfortunely..There are alot of people out there like that. You can improve your situation though. I would look into getting out of there- even if you have to temporarily move in with family... It's better than her ruining your spirit. Stuck around there- and you will understand what I mean.
I am so sorry this relationship did not work out for you. This sucks now- but it will get better. You can get through this
she is crazy, if you ask me- and needs a good slap upside the head. My pervious ex was a drunk.. And he got his..Wrecking 2 cars I helped him get- I ended it there- and left him stranded. He knew I didn't approve with the drinking- so he did it to himself. He wasn't physically abusive...But rather verbally. He got his at the end, and he did it to himself- just like she will.
Pm me anytime- keep your head up
-=rebecca=-
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