It's not erik it's his mom. We actually talked yesterday and he told me to just lie about him being the dad so his mom will leave me alone. She wants to go to court and get full custody and if I try to give her up for adoption any relatives that try to get custody of her will (that is what a social worker here told me). It's stupid that eriks mom is pushing him into parenting, it's for herself that she wants the baby. She's a miserable old woman and I think she thinks a baby will love her and keep her company and make her happy. Like screwing up on her own kids wasn't enough. Anyways I have no idea what will happen but trust whatever is meant to happen will.

Oh man, i'm sorry that you have to go through this!! Stay strong! It sounds as if you're coping well!!!

I'm gonna keep you and your angel in my prayers!

Sarah

Thanks! I've never been overly religious, but I seriously sense that .God has my back in this one and my little one in .His hands and I don't even need to be burdened because .He will take care of us.

I'm at peace with whatever happens, if erik's family makes the adoption impossible, then I know she was ment to be with me. If she's ment to be with the family i've picked then that will happen. Stressing about it wouldn't get me anywhere and wouldn't be healthy for baby, so i'm all smiles!

Aw man tanya, I hope everything works out well for you and your baby girl

I know it will!! You have a beautiful outlook on the situation! Keep it up!!
Your baba will have a beautiful personality because of it!


Sarah

I dont wanna sound horrible but maybe u should have self respect and not get yourself in these situations then its ur own fault

Amy this is a board for support, look around its a teen pregnancy board... Don'tcha think if people would have "been careful" this board would still be here? Shove it up your ass and go away.

Amy, there is no need to come into this thread &be rude. You don't know anthing about .Tanya's situation, so keep your mouth shut about things you know nothing about.

shut up you stupid b*tch, go fall down some stairs.

since when did having self respect mean you cant have sex with your boyfriend? And maybe she was using contraception but it failed, which is quite common, then it isn't her fault is it. If you dont know her situation fully, you shouldnt make such comments.

Thank you sarah, beckster, dalicia, terra, krissy, and allie! I'm sure everything will be fine and i'm fully prepared to take responsibility for whatever the outcome of the situation is. I mean both will be hard, adoption, or being a single teen mom, but i'm sure I can do it and i'm sure things will be fine. I'm still keeping stocked up on baby things just incase. I just got back from the dr and the baby had hiccups at the same time we were listening to the heart beat, it was cute.

.Exactly what situation did she get herself into?

Teen pregnancy? You're not one to talk, love.

Adoption? It's beautiful that .Tanya is willing to give her child a chance at a great life filled with everything she deserves, even if that means not staying with her biological mother. If you can't understand the sacrifice she's making and the love it takes to give your own flesh and blood to someone else for care, then you should re-evaluate your own plans for parenting. A true parent will do whatever is necessary for their child's well-being.

The situation with the child's grandmother? She didn't lay down and make this baby with the grandmother, but with her son. She can't help who his mother is, or what his mother is willing to do. None of that is her fault.

I'm positive that .Tanya has a great deal of self-respect. She knows what she's doing is right. You have no right, none at all, to attempt to make her feel badly about any of this.

If you have a nasty opinion and it isn't supportive, kindly keep it to yourself. You only make yourself look bad and you lose the respect and compassion of other posters here.

We're all very proud of you, .Tanya love.

Aww aya thank you, that was very sweet. I swear I love some of the girls on this board soooo much I wish I could just get them all into a big room for a day to share everything.

Yeah... That would be kool, thou alot of us live far far away from eachother... I feel like an outcast.. Nobody else lives in bc that I know of..

.I meant every word! It angers me off when people run their mouths and judge without thinking. I seriously don't understand what .Amy could possibly think was your fault, unless she's just not used to thinking before speaking. Or typing, or... Whatever, you know what I mean.

I've disagreed with people's situations on here before. But if I can't say that without either offending them or helping them somehow, I try to keep it to myself. That's how I can look at myself in the mirror and know that .I'm a decent person.

I love the way you look at life .Tanya! It's very admirable! Your baby(with you or not) will respect you forever because of it!

Don't worry about what people say.

Sometimes I come on here in a bad mood because of something, and I wind up kicking myself in the ass afterwards.

I'm sure she'll rethink what she's said and apologize. I'm hoping she does, as that would be the mature thing.

I've said my share of mean things, but believe I have apologized for them every time.

Tanya, you know what yout situation is, and so do we. We have nothing but respect for what you've chosed to do!

Sarah

I whish you and your baby luck, tanya. As you said, whatever happens to her will happen for a reason.

I love tanya to death and I am so proud of her!