I am an otherwise healthy, physically fit
24-year-old male that has suffered from
the same problem for years. As a result
of this problem I have never been able to
have intercourse.
Upon mild arousal, whether it be alone or
with a female, I immediately begin leaking
out pre-ejaculate. The amount is
extremely excessive and I am positive that
it is pre-ejaculate. This happens
without even having an erection. It just
continues to leak until my pants are
soaked and i'm sexually exhausted...Unable
to obtain or maintain an erection.
I have been told by countless doctors that
the problem is psychological...But that is
a ridiculous answer. My guess is that
they don't have a solution to the problem
so they resort to the generic
"psychological" answer. I can simply
hold hands with a girl and be completely
relaxed and content...Without even having
sex on my mind...And pre-ejaculate begins
to leak out.
I decided to do some research on the
internet and found that the problem may be
due to a weakened pc muscle caused by
excessive masturbation. I have
masturbated probably 7-10 times/week for
the last 10 years. I started taking fish
oil, borage oil, and l-arginine daily and
reduced my masturbation frequency to 2-3
times/week. I have been following this
routine for about 6 weeks now and while my
sex drive seems to be slightly better and
I have been getting more spontaneous
erections I see no improvement in the
pre-ejaculate leaking issues.
I'm positive there are other people out
there with this problem. I have searched
the boards and found several posts even
here on ehealth regarding this issue.
None of the people seemed to receive a
satisfactory response. I've seen terms
such as "precum flooding" used here as
well. Is that what this is? Are there
any suggestions? This has been going on
for probably 6 years now and doesn't seem
to be getting better. Doctors have no
answer for me and it's destroying my life!
I don't know where to turn.
Thanks for taking the time to read through
this and I would really appreciate any
input on the subject. Suggestions or
possible solutions...As well as any input
from other people that have suffered/are
suffering from this problem. At this
point i'm willing to try just about
anything. I refuse to believe that there
is no solution and that I am doomed to
live with this problem forever.
upon mild arousal, whether it be alone or
with a female, I immediately begin leaking
out pre-ejaculate.........Unable to obtain
or maintain an erection.
I have been told by countless doctors that
the problem is psychological... Doomed
to live with this problem
forever.
hello.. Pff your post here surprised me
a bit. Actually I got a problem: I
cannot maintain an erection for quite long
and doctors said to me the same thing as
you- psychological disorders - which I
sincerely consider obsolete.
Where did you find on the net that
mastubating for long does reduce sexual
power?? Maybe that my case.. Got
anything about all this??
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Rocky52
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Oct 2006 Posts: 37 Location: UK
Posted: 10-22-06 12:51pm
I think what your doctor said is right.
Although you may not realise or think this
is right but it could be that you feel a
bit nervous when you are alone with a
girl, or even watching some sort of sexual
act on television makes you feel the need
for sex. I've had the same sort of
problem, all it was with me was that it
was the tension building up with thinking
about sex too much. All you need to do is
try and concentrate on something
completely different from sex for example
one of your hobbies, whatever it may be..
Cars, music, drawing anything to take your
mind off of it. Don't expect an immediate
stop to pre-mature ejaculation, it takes
time, and I don't think theres anything
physically wrong, it happens to us all.
Good luck
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Stan
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Posted: 10-22-06 13:29pm
This may sound silly but I know about this
from hypoglycemia. Try adding a good bit
of garlic to your cooking and possibly
take some garlic tablets throughout the
day. Watch what happens.
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levirobbinz
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Oct 2006 Posts: 8
Posted: 11-16-06 06:34am
rocky52
wrote:
i think what your doctor
said is right. Although you may not
realise or think this is right but it
could be that you feel a bit nervous when
you are alone with a girl, or even
watching some sort of sexual act on
television makes you feel the need for
sex. I've had the same sort of problem,
all it was with me was that it was the
tension building up with thinking about
sex too much. All you need to do is try
and concentrate on something completely
different from sex for example one of your
hobbies, whatever it may be.. Cars,
music, drawing anything to take your mind
off of it. Don't expect an immediate
stop to pre-mature ejaculation, it takes
time, and I don't think theres anything
physically wrong, it happens to us all.
Good luck
even if i'm with a girl and merely
thinking about sex it can't be normal to
"leak" pre-ejaculate from my flaccid penis
until the point of sexual exhaustion. It
is very difficult for me to achieve an
erection to any degree with a girl because
I am already exhausted and my libido is
gone within 15 minutes of even cuddling
with them on the couch.
Taking my mind off of sex doesn't help me
to achieve an erection in any way. I try
to relax as much as possible but it's more
and more difficult knowing that i'm
leaking pre-ejaculate and that I won't be
able to obtain an erection. Sure there is
some psychological cause...But the
underlying causes is the physical cause
that is leading to the psycological
issues. It's a vicious cycle!
I finally saw another doctor and received
a prescription for both cialis and viagra.
I tried the viagra first and I can
achieve a very strong erection upon
stimulation...But still have the issues
with "leaking" and the erection loses
strength and my libido drops. It would
likely be possible for me to sustain a
strong enough erection to have
intercourse...But even with viagra things
don't work exactly how they should.
With cialis I noticed little-to-no effect.
The same problems were present and
knowing that I was on ed medication and
still havinig problems made the evening
even more frustrating.
This stuff shouldn't be happening at 24!
Unfortunately I don't have a very
supportive girlfriend. We've been
together for a few months and things are
great...But she is getting very frustrated
with my sexual problems and the
relationship is deteriorating. All of my
past relationships have come to an end for
the same reason. I'm beginning to wonder
if I will ever be able to be in a normal
sexual relationship without relying on
viagra for the rest of my life. Like I
said...Even with viagra things aren't
perfect by any means.
The pre-ejaculate (precum) flooding is
ridiculous. Just to clarify: it is
completely clear and definitely
pre-ejaculate. By the end of a sexually
frustrating evening the volume of
pre-ejaculate that leaks out is probably
equivilant to about 2-3 normal
ejaculations.
This is killing my self-esteem, my
relationships, and is starting to take
over my life. Sometimes i'm so
embarrassed and upset afterward I just
feel like crawling in a hole alone
somewhere and never coming out.
My blood tests all come back fine. I'm in
great physical shape. My exercise has
dropped off quite a bit in the last few
months...But the problem has been going on
for years and years and throughout that
time i've been very active. This problem
is literally causing me to lose motivation
to live my life!
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levirobbinz
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Oct 2006 Posts: 8
Posted: 11-16-06 06:45am
stan stepanic
wrote:
this may sound silly but I
know about this from hypoglycemia. Try
adding a good bit of garlic to your
cooking and possibly take some garlic
tablets throughout the day. Watch what
happens.
thank you very much for your advice - I
really appreciate it. I attempted adding
garlic tablets to my daily regime but
haven't noticed any real benefits. I will
ask my doctor on my next visit about
hypoglycemia to find out if i'm possibly
suffering from it.
For anyone who cares here is the list of
vitamins/herbs I have been taking daily
for at least the last 45 days:
l-arginine 500mg: (2) am; (2) pm
fish oil 1500mg - epa 480mg dha 400mg: (1)
am; (1) pm
borage oil 500mg: (1) am; (2) pm
korean ginseng 100mg standardized extract:
(2) am; (1) pm
ginkgo biloba 120mg standardized extract:
(1) am
centum multivitamin/multimineral supp: (1)
am; (1) pm
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mc11
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Dec 2006 Posts: 5
Posted: 12-28-06 21:57pm
Man it sounds like you are feeling really
like crap. I don´t have that problem but
I used to have trouble getting erections
and that undermined my life lots too, so
hey I just wanted to tell you keep going
and you´ll find a solution.
One thing I can recommend definitely is to
not do much foreplay, I mean just try
going directly to sex and stimulation, I
mean if you can get an erection b4 all
your precum is out and you feel exausted
then just put it in and forget about that
caca!!!! I just image that for the precum
to come out you need some time so do it
before.
Good luck man, body problems affect most
people and they really suck, but they come
from the mind and really we have the power
to solve them, is just mind work
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noice
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Feb 2007 Posts: 1 Location: UK
Posted: 02-05-07 11:53am
Sorry to bring up an old thread,
but this is exactly what I am suffering
from. Any sort of advice would a godsend.
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blue5548
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Jan 2007 Posts: 8 Location: ny
Posted: 02-06-07 12:53pm
Me too...I think its because of chronic
prostatitis
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HealthySex
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2007 Posts: 414
Posted: 02-06-07 23:41pm
If you have prostatitis you might want to
look into prostate nourishing supplements
like saw palmetto, pygeum, etc. Often
found together in one product.
You might also want to research prostate
massage. Check out the massagers and
forums at highisland. Google that and
prostate massage and you'll find it.
