In sexuality, as in all of life, I believe that there are no real standards. Sexologists tell us that "normal" sexual behavior is a social construct and that we really must begin to explore what's right for us.

It seems like you're noticing a deeper longing in yourself right now. That's great! A desire is making itself known and now might be the time to explore it. Happiness is, always has been, and always will be the reason for it all. So, see if exploring your sexual nature feels good to you.

Do you have any reservations about beginning a relationship? Any fears that are holding you back?


Kindly, lee

i have always wanted to have a relationship, I have no fears that are holding me back..The problem is that I can't get a gf, no girls have no interest in me or find me attractive at all

Its all about confidence, and getting your self out there. Does any of your friends girlfriends have friends? They can introduce you to? Kissing is no big deal comes very naturally.

Consider taking a course on how to attract women. Sounds a health forum, but it isn't! Some people just need a bump in the right direction.

Good luck!

It sounds like I have the same problem you do? Being 24, I was at the end of my ropes, went into a major depression, and became an alcoholic.

So I was looking up antidepressants and read about zoloft being an antidepressant and also used for social anxiety disorder.

I took an online self report called the social phobia interest inventory (spin). I highly recommend you take it at
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found out that I have it, and learned that I was not the only one with it. Matter of fact alot of people are going through the exact same symptoms as you and me.

Social anxiety disorder (aka social phobia) is treatable with counseling and the use of medications.
My friends and I have noticed a difference, I even asked a girl for her number and went out on a date. This has never happened before, plus I am more social too.

Check out this site for more information on social anxiety disorder:
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checkout this forum, to read more about people like you and me:edit

and please even if you dont have it, spread the word about social anxiety disorder to others who havent been on a date, kissed a girl, and are suffering. It is the 3rd most common psychological disorder, affects 10% of the population and sadly it is also one the least diagnosed. It took at least 8 years of my life, made it that much harder to succeed and in the end nearly cost me my life too.


Best of luck

Do not let these people convince you into thinking everything is a g-damn disease.

More like an excuse.

Oh, and I know a great deal about real mental health problems.

Not pretend stuff like this

Hey, i'm 18 and in the same boat, and to be honist I think that if the oppertunity should arise I would be too nervus to do it.

why get nervous?


Just do it, and think nothing of it.

Whats up people. I'm 24 and currently have a crush on a 21 year old ive only known for about a week now.

I've had about 4 major relationships each lasting longer than 2 years. I've been with very few girls in between..8 total....Not sexual just "hooked up" with or whatever.

Neways so yea I have a crush and I swear to god im more nervous than I ever have. I feel like this is the first time i'm going to kiss a girl.

Dont stress out of you havnt kissed a girl yet or havent had a girlfriend or whatever...If your even thinking about it your time will come. I have a friend thats never had one or kissed a girl....But he never talks about it or says anythign when we go to bars.

So for the people that do reach out to talk about it or are thinking about it you time will come soon ^_^.

I agree with color... Don't stress out to much over it. Girls can sense things like when your getting nervous. So lighten up, and let go ^.^ everyone has their "big break" at some point, sometimes its just takes a little longer than most. So cheer up, and don't let this get you down. After all, you just may have not met that person thats supposed to give you your first kiss ^.- hehe, but yea, just let it come at its own pace.

I'll kiss ya iwishiknew!!!!

I'm 26 And my lips are like 2 lbs- so they aren't hard to miss

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many people say things like ''dont push yourself too much'' or ''it will come when least suspected'' but my reality it that we, men have to learn some skills to make that possible, the only way to get love is to have contact with women, like it or not

This post is old now but I am your age and in the same exact situation. So trust me I know the feeling.