Because most people can not or will not take responsibility for thier own actions.... Men or women, its easier to blame others than get a big dose of reality shoved in your face!

this is very true,but there also are a lot of times when this is true. After marriage things just slow down and you take each other for granted. . .Then comes the cheating, and there go the excuses.

i agree this happens, but why does it happen? Why can't a man and a woman, who married each other for christs sake, sit down and say "hey dear, you know what? I'm not happy with things as they are and here's why...What should we do about it?" I think opening that window is too scary for women especially, but for men a bit also.

And so with the internet and all the cell phones these days, women are easy targets for that sales rep who visits her office, gets her business card, starts sending innocent emails at first, then gets more adventurous, leading to a cell conversation, then a lunch, then banging away in the back of his car eventually! Ahem, oops...Sorry! Anyway, you get my point hopefully!

So do you mean when a woman ends the relationship its because she cheats on her mate? Makes sense..Im 20 years old and I just got out of a 4 year relationship, I know its not like being married and doing this, but it is sorta the same thing. I cheated. I'll admit to it, I mean im 20 and I kinda panicked! I got kind of scared that I was going to be with him forever and I felt that I loved him more then he actually loved me, he was away for school and it felt like he controlled my every move. When he was living home I was with him all the time and if I went with my friends it was a huge fight and he always accused me of cheating and when he went away I had to litterly lie to go out with my friends, I mean I was 19 and I wanted to go to the bars and have fun but when he did it I couldnt say anything. It was stupid! And he would go through these phases where he wasnt sure if he wanted to be with me, but if he didnt wanna be with me then I couldnt be with anyone else because he didnt want anyone to have me, makes sense I guess, then he told his bestfriend hes cheated on me and had 3somes and all that stuff and I dunno he denyed it but after the summer I had enough. Feelings wernt there and I didnt see a point in this. And after tryin to break up with him before anything happened I guess one night, I kissed another guy and I felt guilty and I tried to break up with him and I even told him I cheated on him and that things wernt the same but he kept insisting that it was okie that I kissed another guy and that he forgave me, I guess once he realized that I was the one who was doing the break up and not him he felt like he couldnt loose me. And even though I sit here sometimes and wish we were still together, I just know that even though he said things would change they wouldnt and I just cant handle that again.

So theres my life story!But like I ever told um I wasnt happy before I did anything and this was just a young 4 year relationship so I dont see how even married couples cant do this. Like their suppose to be more mature and stuff. I dunno its a hard decisions and I have to live with it everyday that I did the cheating and even thought I have proof that he did indeed cheat on me yet he still denys it, obsviously in his head he felt he did no wrong and I think thats a nother thing, how can u do something like that to someone who u tell u love each day, I mean I told him I didnt feel the same so I didnt say I loved him, cause I mean I love him but I wasnt inlove and I made my feelings very clear but like he use to sit there and tell me nothing happened how can u wake up each day and have that guilt or not even feel guilty even, I feel guilty and I felt I did the mature thing.

hello there-

wow. I understand how you feel. A man I loved for 4 years.. And helped him out financially- as well as be a mom to his 8 year old daughter.. Cheated on me. I guess they get bored.. I could never do that. It hurts too much.. And my whole point of being someone's girlfriend.. Is to devote myself to them only. It is alarming.. That most of us are going through it!! Never really noticed that until you brought it up.

I guess it's all in ameans to what values you learned while growing up.