Hi my name is faby, I know exactly what ur going through but if he reall y wants it for the first time, u should trust him on not finishing in ur mouth, u can tell him ok lets try but if he explodes in u tell him thats the lat time that is going to happen and ill bet that he will be precausious on what he is not to do. Good luck and tel me if it worked.

No, it's not that important - there are plenty other ways to pleasure him.

However, if you do want to try (and only if you want to) build up to it.

Start off by just giving head for a couple minutes - he doesn't have to be in your mouth the whole time either.
You can kiss and lick up the sides and around it then just slip him in your mouth for a moment.

As you get more comfortable you can take him in your mouth for longer.

I think it is important, and I think you should not be grossed out.

If you are happy with him going down on you, and taking in your fluids, then you should not insult him. You should do the same. Your hang-up is actually saying you find a part of him gross and disgusting. Can you imagine if he said you taste and smell funny down there, and he does not want to give you oral ever again. He did it one time, but he was so shocked by it, he can never do it again. You would just laugh at him, and maybe you would not have kept seeing him. Why should you be any different?

Pardon the pun, but suck it up babe. Bite the bullet. Take it with a chaser. You get my point??

Yes, it might taste gross at first. So does cough syrup, but after a few days, you can stand the taste of cough syrup. I suggest you do the same here.

Be fair, if you dont go down(and all the way) then do not expect him to do it as well.

(of course, I do not mean this should be done every time and all the time. He does not have to cum in your mouth every time, that would take the fun out of things. Sometimes get him off, and let the spunk go else where. That is of course you are looking to get him off by oral sex alone, and you do not plan to have intercourse.)

It's opinions like that the lead to girls feeling guilty for getting raped - like it was their own fault.

It isn't and you should never feel pushed into doing something you don't like.

If he doesn't want to give oral that's up to him - if she doesn't want to give head that's up to her.

But you can not use sex to blackmail for sex.

And there are plenty of guys who don't like to go down on a girl.
Why on earth should a girl like to have a penis rammed in her mouth making her gag and then have some inconsiderate guy shoot his load of gross tasting spunk in her mouth?

A girl should give head because she wants to. I give head to my fella because I like doing it - I don't ask for something in return - I did it because I wanted to.

Well as I was reading the first few replies I was like oh okay this sounds good so im not the only one here and stuff, and totally agreed with wat u said until im guessing that guy posted his reply. Kinda sounds like a player

i have a suggestion, why not try growing up.

Just use a condom when you are doing it.

It's not important. In the realm of sex oral is a tiny thing. However it's clearly important to him. If he was your boyfriend I'd give you very different advice, however you are his wife and ideally the last woman he will ever touch intimately. I think it's important you overcome personal feelings and at least try oral sex with him. It could be just as horrible as your remember it, he could very easily accidentally ejaculate in your mouth but it is important for trust in the relationship that you never shut things out intollerantly or with prejudice.

A condom is very creative advice and may make a good compromise but I think her husband is hoping for a somewhat different experience. Talk with him about it as a possible alternative.

Now WOLF, we all know the men would much rather have the oral without the condom, but for her first time back, maybe this will get her not to have so much repulsion and fear. It's a baby step for her, but leading to a giant one for him!

i think you should definitely try. obviously men love head. i dont know him but alot of people go elsewhere when they don't get what they need at home. i'd say start with the advice of just giving him head for a minute or two just before intercourse, then build up to longer

of course it is important is just like this example i want sex my boyfriend wont give it me an then i really do feel depressed etc.
ur bf has promised you he wont do that an believe me i been with my 1st bf 9yrs and if he come in my mouth id rarr uppercut him cuz i hate taste of it.
u could always suck him off 1st then do things i find that a enjoyment rather than just doin 1thing x

It is not important. Too many men get fixated on it as a power thing, so it stops being sex and starts being domination.

One woman who had enough of it set up her BF....brought in a third party, sexy 'woman' named Kim. Well, after BF came...Kim pulled off the wig...Kim was a man.

Sure the GF and Kim raced out, but it was worth the risk.