Away From Home-symtoms Terrible-alone-please Help!

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Awww, you are definately not alone!!!!

If you generally feel anxious in your comfort zone of home you are bound to feel really scared away. I had a similar experience when I had to go on a training course. Instead of enjoying myself I was plagued by panic attacks and wanted to shut myself away from everyone as I was scared they would think I was a freak.

The thing you are most scared of is losing control....What will happen if you panic? And thats what makes it worse. I still panic now, especially at work and I have been there for a year!! I'm scared that they will notice but in reality they never do. Although it feels like they can hear your thoughts that are screaming in your head when you panic they can only hear what you tell them. This is soo true but really hard to think clearly and rationally at the time when you just want to escape.

I'd try to find one friend that you could talk to. This would be much easier than trying to fit into a group at first.

Remeber that you have worked hard to get there but you dont have to stay there. Maybe the feeling that you are stuck there is adding to your anxiety??

You could quit at anytime you wanted to but it would be such a shame and imagine how good you will feel when you have achieved your goal!

Feel free to msg me anytime. I may not have a definante answer but I am definately a panic attack queen!!

When I was reading your letter I start thinking whether I have posted..I am also 18 and went to college away from home.I have been fighting with the same fellings for more than 4 months.I have panic attachs. I couldnt eat or sleep and it started to affect my studies after that.I was really close to my family and had a lots of friends and here I dont know anyone and try to speak another language.After having a battle inside me what should I do I decided to go back home and see whether that would help me imrove my emotional side because for 18 year old I was really depresed and not enjoing life.I used to cry for hours in my room,most of my friends here were not honest at all and was disapointed from everything.I just wanted you to know that you are not alone,and you have to find what is best for you.Something works for someone and doesnt works for others.Dont be affraid from your decision just try to live the life that you want ,not life with depression.Maybe others will say it is not solution to go home and you will be a looser...I would just feel sorry for them coz they are so ignorant about how we fell.People that are away from home.
You can write me any time...

DiDi--I didn't know whether you realized that the other posts are from over a year ago. But I'll try to give you some help if I may.

It's hard enough being away from home for the first time and you throw in that you're in your freshman year, then it's doubly tough. Trying to connect with people and speaking a another language is the triple whammy! I can't see how you wouldn't feel depressed and have panic attacks at times.

You left behind a comfortable lifestyle with your family and friends. Now, you are starting another phase in becoming an adult. If it's any consolation, many freshmen have problems adjusting to the disorienting first taste of college.

I have three degrees, which means I spent a lot of time on campuses and I guarantee it gets better, as you decide what courses interest you. Also, try to make just one friend first. Pick someone out in class or in your dorm and make sure they know english. Take the initiative and start a conversation and try to seek out people with your interests. Just one friends leads to other friends, etc.

If you need to transfer to a school closer to home, then do it. Listen to what your brain tells you to do and do it. Whatever is best for you and your studies. It's important that you are in a better frame of mind to tackle college, so make yourself happy. Good luck.

I sorry I didnt realised that the post was from 2006...I hope everything is better now for her:)Thanks anyway...Im finishing my first semester and I ll be leaving next week.Hopefully I will try to overcome this depression home,closer to my family and friends..wish me luck;)