Hello everyone, I wanted to vent a little
bit because there isn't many people I
really talk to much that i'd acually
listen to there advise.
I am a 25 year old male. I have two boys
both with teh same mother, and we broke up
around mid june of this year. My boys are
2 1/2 and other just turned 1 in may.
Alittle about myself...
I pretty much am a pretty quite type
person, but I am still outgoing. I am
just not one of those loud annoying
people, I keep to myself alot but I am
still alot of fun to be around. I usually
work about 55-60 hours a week at a very
busy electronics retailer as a store
manager. I own my own car, have my own
place, buy all my own things, and I am
very independant. I never really ask
anyone for anything unless I bug my
parents for money of coarse lol. But my
$48k salary helps me out quite a bit, so
that is pretty rare I ask them for
cash...
About my problem with my kids mom...
Like I said earlier we broke up about 3-4
months ago, and we were going out for
about 4 years almost. While we were going
out life was pretty rough between us, I
don't really wanna get fully into that
(unless you feel it would help the
situation), because that isn't really what
I want to talk about. When we broke up I
really felt it was for the best, me and
her both saw it coming for litterally over
a year. We kinda stuck together to see if
maybe things would get better for the kids
sake. Well it was getting very unhealthy
I just couldn't go on anymore so we split
up and she went to her moms/dads with the
kids.
After breaking up I have never felt
better! I acually meet my exgirlfriend
from like 7 years ago like a month after
the breakup. I can not begin to say how
happy I am with my new girlfriend. When
we use to go out back in the day, it
wasn't really a serious relationship, more
just sex partners and stuff. Now that
we've been back together (2 months oct
16th) I have never been happier, and I am
so thankful for god bringing us back
together after all these years.
Well my kids mom is really causing me alot
of problems mentally and emotionally. She
keeps calling me a deadbeat dad constantly
saying that I don't see the kids enough
(even though I take them every day off I
have! Which is usually the weekends).
She says that she wants me to go threw her
mom or sister when it has to do with the
kids, cause she doesn't want to talk to
me. She says she doesn't even think of me
as the kids father, and when I called over
there today and asked to talk with my
older son on the phone she hands it to him
and says "here your deadbeat dad wants to
talk to you!".
She has said in the past that the only way
things will ever work between us is if I
get back together with her. Other then
that she wants nothing to do with me and
if she had her choice she doesn't want me
to be apart of our kids lives. She knows
I have a girlfriend now, and I know that
really upsets her... But I never once
rubbed it in to her, or did I even tell
her. She found out because she found out
I had a myspace site and saw that I had a
girlfriend on there.
Since the breakup I never tried to do
anything immature, I just wanted me and
her to be friends atleast so we can
piecefully talk about the kids to each
other. Now she frankly don't want
anything to do with me, and hangs up on me
when I call.
I have very thick skin when it comes to
showing emotion, but this is really
tearing me up inside. I know she is a
great mother to my kids, but I don't know
how she can say some of that stuff in
front of them. I am soooo tempted to try
and get full custody of them, because my
little boys don't need to be around
someone that would say those things about
there daddy, cause I know I would never
say those types of things about her in
front of them.
Lastly (damn didn't think this post was
gonna be this long lol), after we broke up
she admited to cheating on me too. She
said one time about a year and a half ago
she had sex with some dude. And the time
line she gave me when she did it was very
believable that she really did do it. It
doesn't really bother me the fact that she
cheated on me, but it was right around the
time when she got pregenant with our
second child. I want to say he is mine,
but when I look at him I just frankly see
nothing of me in him. In his looks or
personality.
Basically what I want help with is what to
do about my kids mom. Thanks for your
ears and eyes!
