The 'terrible two's' are when children are testing their limits and boundaries with the people in their lives. You'll notice she does things that seem to be just exactly what she is not supposed to be doing. Kids are wired that way. All kids (well, most) go through it.

Structure is what they need. The same discipline every day. Time out is time out is time out - the same amount of time (generally the child's age in minutes. So a 2 year old would get 2 minutes of time out.) every time out. She needs to know what is expected of her and how you expect her to behave.

That may seem like the last thing she is expressing she needs at this point, but it is exactly what she is demonstrating she needs.

Kids, thankfully, outgrow the 'terrible two's' and things calm down.

Good luck!

its just bloody frustrating, cam is such a good baby he never cries and she never stops omg, anyways ive seen a specialist and they says shes fine not to worry but her behaviour is normal.

Ill try that other maybe abit differently though but its something I havent done and parenting books are somewhat hopeless lol!!

Anyways thanx "d"

Oh, the joys of being a parent lol

just make sure you're consistent with her punishments. There are so many phases they go through, it's insane!!!

Omg my little cousin is two turning three in december and I could just beat that kid sometimes.. She slaps, screams, swears, punches, you name it she does it. Its not like her family gives a sh*t anyway.. Her uncle is like 14 and teaches her sayings such as "me so horney"!

Anyway I know you were looking for advice but I just thought I would share, sorry!

i sincerely hope that is a sick joke.
Kids never ever require beating and this community is all for the safety of the child.

I saw on a tlc special that what .Elise is doing is actually being done consciencly. It's her brain *trying* to adjust. It'll throw out sparks that make her wail crying and flip out!

She's also trying to find her independence. She *needs* to start knowing that *she's* the big sister now. She has to teach .Cam how to be a "good boy" by her being a "good girl".

Also, on the show, they said to command them with short commands. Like "stop it *now*!" or "come here *now*"
not, "ok, do you wanna come over here by mommy?" or "hey look, please seetle down for me."

sometimes they understand those long commands. But in the midst of misbehaving, their brains aren't able to comprehend. They need sharp, commanding phrases that they're brain can understand and know.

I can't *wait* till I go through this with .Oni!! There's no way of dodging it!!!! Which suuuckkkss!!!!

Sarah

Kia I think she meant a spanking lol which isnt a big deal.

Id spank her a few times, I know everytime my mom said she was gonna spank me I quit what I was doing because I knew what was gonna happen.

she was gonna tan your a$$!!! Lol jk

Hahaha...I believe in spanking.

I don't believe in spanking if your child has a hitting problem though. I don't believe that hitting in reposnse to hitting makes much sense.

I don't believe in beating. Beating, to me, is taking out anger from another issue on your child. It's disguisting.

I believe that you can talk out a problem with a toddler, they just have to be of a right age.

My dad whipped me and I had this respect for him that I didn't have for my mom who *never* whipped me. She says now she never whipped me because she was constantly whipped by my granny.

If people are beaten as a child they tend not to want to spank their children. But some people are the total opposite. They beat their children because they were beat. And that's not right...

Sarah

Lol she probably liked pulling my pants down and spanking me

what a perv :p

I hope your talking about yourself, nasty a$$! Lmao I know your mom must not have enjoy touching your little white bum! Lol

Exactly what sarah said.

I believe in spanking but beating is totally different and wrong

I dont believe in spanking, i've already done it, but I dont want to ever do it again. There's other ways. I felt so guilty because he was obviously too young to understand, and it didnt work anyway. Always trying not to do it again. If I get angry and want to lash out and smack or something, I go into a different room to calm down a few minutes so I dont do it...Everyone has a limit to how much they can take. With elisa i'd definately try the sticker chart and reward system, its supposed to work really well, kids love stickers. Also could you try taking one of her favourite things away from her when she's naughty? Or maybe she's too young for that, I know someone who does it with their 3 year old, and it seems to work...Most of the time.

You spanked your seven month old??

Wow, I don't know if i'd admit to that.....

Sarah

Allie how old is your child?


Ahhh, I see sarah listed the age. Allie, your son is truly 7 mos. Old? Maybe you should see someone for parenting classes or anger management. It's never okay to spank an infant. Never. Ever.

*edited because age was posted*

You're right. Allie, the fact that you don't believe in circumcision because it's "torture" and then turn around and whip your infant.....Is totally hypocritical of you. I mean in sickening ways.

Why isn't anyone else saying anything about this? Come on now yall....I know she hasn't been here in a while. It doesn't excuse her from whipping her infant.

Sick....

Sarah

She said she regretted doing it, and that she realizes he's too young for that. I just hope she won't do it again.

Oh jesus! To hit him in the first place is the problem. Regretting it after he skreaches in pain is nothing.

I know, as well as everyone else, that a child cannot comprehend right from wrong at such a young age. Many kids don't know right from wrong in the 2's!!

I mean, it really is none of my business. I don't know this girl from someone on the street, but if her child is being hit, something needs to be said.

I know she's young. But to react without thinking is something we learn not to do. To hit her infant, without thinking logically of the circumstances, is insane!!!!!!!!!!!

Sarah

Well, what I meant was maybe she realized that it is wrong to do. If she's already discovered that hitting an infant is completely wrong, then there's no point in us telling her just that. It'll just make her feel worse about something that she did and (hopefully) won't do again.

Although I do wonder what a 7 month old could have done to receive a spanking?

I'm not defending her or what she's done. I'm just saying that we shouldn't attack her if she's already realized she was in the wrong.