when people talk about "choice" and they respect their decision I often wonder what the word "choice" represents. I woudl like to belive that choosing would involve desiring and chieving something without an external pressures. If a woman had this opportunity to have no prassures (while being preganant) I doubt she would make that decission.
I would have problem to support something I am in disagreement with.
Unless of course your support is more like "uncoditional love", then yes you can do that. You can love her(and welcome her with open heart) even though you disagree what what she does. I think if I had to chose wording I would say: "i can't fully support you in your decision, but I want you to know that I love you very much and no matter what happens I will be there for you when you need me."
i am not sure whether this woudl fall into prolife or prochoice. But does it matter?
touchy aren't we?
|yes actually I have been in the same situation..I've had a pregnancy scare...Been freaked out..Wondering what the !**@! am I gonna do now? But I told my then boyfriend what I was going to do.|
|i would have never snuck around behind his back.|
|trust involves telling the truth and not hiding things as large as a pregnancy from your significant other.|
|[...] oh and for the pc's that will come on here and say "well what if she were being abused and such and such"....I'm talking about a loving commited relationship where two people are supposed to be honest with each other.|
duh. It's an emotional subject.
i didn't tell him what I was going to do because I hadn't made a desicion yet, and I didn't even know I was pregnant. I was saving that discussion for once I actually knew if I was or not. As I found out I wasn't, that discussion wasn't necessary. He already knows I am pro-choice, so he pretty much knows what my first desire would be in a situation like that.
i didn't either. I came right out and told him what had happened on the pills, and that I didn't know yet if I was pregnant. I felt it was uncecessary to cause a possible fight over abortion when I didn't even know if I was pregnant.
i didn't hide it!! Obviously you don't read either. I told him immediately what was going on. I distinctly said I didn't know what I would have done, and I didn't know if not telling him would have been one of the answers. I also said I would have wanted him to be there, which obviously implies that I would have told him. So your entire rant at me about the trust that he and I already have, that you think we don't have, has absolutely no point.
i feel trust is impotant too, which is why I told him what was going on. it turns out there was no pregnancy to hide, so that's not even the issue here.
your statement was that if you had had had an abortion that you didn't know if you would have told him or not. Why would you not have told him? You went off on all of these other issues that had nothing to do with the question asked....Is that just your way of avoiding the question?
My question is that if you supposedly love someone so much how could you contemplate keeping something like that from them.